What do you all think?

[Cazamatazaaa]

I have 2 children, they both have different dads, my daughter is 4 and she sees her dad every weekend. my little boy has just turned 1, and i have to fight for his dad to see him, i used to text him, ring him, asking him to come over, its always me making the effort, i let him have our little boy over night once, for me to bump into him on a night out! which resulted in me going mad, and not letting him have him over night again as it wasnt him, it was his parents!!!

now am i being harsh? ive not asked him to see him and he hasnt actually spoke to me for over a week now! he didnt see our son on his birthday, didnt get him any presents, i asked him for my carseats back for the kids and he ignored me, now my plan of action is to just give up, i mean if he wanted to see him he would, he can easily get to my house.... he just choses not to. he has a new 19 year old girlfriend, who doesnt have kids..... my thoughts are he is too into her....

But my boy is just 1, he has no idea who his dad is, as he has hardly seen him!!!!

Im not stopping him from seeing him, but i just want him to bother himself. so i feel like just telling him from now on, if he wants to see ollie, its in a contact centre where he can build up his relationship with him and his son. not anyone else.... do you think im being harsh????

 

[jemmie1994]

not at all its up to him to build a relationship with his son you've done all you can and he's thrown it back in your face

 

[kelzyboo]

I gave up trying and waited for DD's FOB to show an interest in her, 7 years on almost and it hasn't happened yet. His loss if he doesn't bother, seems our children are better off without people who can't be bothered x

 

[Cazamatazaaa]

Well he contacted me asking to see our little boy at my house, i told him no, theres no chance i want him in my house, my daughter misses him so much and its just gonna break her even more, he isnt her dad. and it breaks me everytime i see him, so i told him to get a solicitor as he cant be trusted taking him (plus he didnt even ask to take him) so hes there asking if he can come round once my kids are in bed! i dont get him!

 

[kelzyboo]

Yeah if he wants to come when the kids are in bed, its not the kids he's coming to see iykwim?
That depends on how you feel. DD's FOB did this and for a few months after she was born i let him, he ignored her baisically and just wanted what he wanted iykwim? I guess i was a convinience to him, he didn't have to bother with his child because i did it all, i think he gave her a bottle once, under pressure from me. Never changed a nappy because its weird, she's a girl (grow up!)

I'd say you and your children deserve much better, stick with a contact arrangement your happy with, if it will upset your DD don't let him come to the house, no one will judge you for taking care of both children's feelings. If he doesn't bother because its not convinient to him then your son deserves much better anyway x