What do you do to distract yourselves?

[tinymumma]

Not thinking about everything that could go wrong isn't easy. We all know that. So what do you lovely ladies do to distract yourself, as the days go on?
I've just started my Certificate lll In Aged Care and I want to continue on to complete my Enrolled Nurse course, in the hopes that one day I can become a midwife. It was my first day yesterday and I found it a pleasant distraction
Of course it pops into my brain far more often than I would like and I still get that tummy twisting feeling every time I go to the bathroom.
So far it's been followed by a sigh of relief that there isn't anything in my underwear that shouldn't be I usually give my belly a little rub and a tickle and thank my little sea monkey for holding on another day. Anybody else talk to there non-existent bump?

 

[laceyrainbow]

Honestly, I couldn't distract myself. I actually thought I needed to section myself, seriously. I was peeing on sticks everyday, bought two different dopplers, rescheduled ultrasounds because I was terrified of bad news.. I was slowly going crazy with worry! And then my midwife was harsh with me but spoke sense. She point blank said, "but why are you worrying? If something goes wrong, can we do anything to stop it?" and at first I thought, ALRIGHT BITCH. Lol but then I realised she was right. There was no point! And now I'm 19 weeks and still worry but so happy to have made it this far. I was the same as you.. still am! When I DON'T see blood.. I'm kind of like wow! You begin to think it's gonna be the norm for you, don't you? And that's crazy.. because it's not! I did find just planning for baby and stuff helped a bit, thinking about the good rather than the bad Enjoy your pregnancy! There's more chance of your little bean being perfectly healthy than not! Congratulations and wishing you a happy and healthy 9 months xx

 

[tinymumma]

 

[dairymomma]

I pray (ALOT), freak out but try not to (ALOT), and attempt to not worry (ALOT). Really, the best things I found that helped me this time were 1. talking to my therapist fairly regularly during my first weeks and 2. journaling. I had read an article where the author said writing your emotions down on paper or typing them on the computer triggers something in your brain that makes it feel like you are getting rid of your worries. Almost as if you are physically removing those thoughts from your head. Sure I feel the same way the next day (or even later the same day) but honestly, it does help.

 

[tinymumma]

I pray (ALOT), freak out but try not to (ALOT), and attempt to not worry (ALOT). Really, the best things I found that helped me this time were 1. talking to my therapist fairly regularly during my first weeks and 2. journaling. I had read an article where the author said writing your emotions down on paper or typing them on the computer triggers something in your brain that makes it feel like you are getting rid of your worries. Almost as if you are physically removing those thoughts from your head. Sure I feel the same way the next day (or even later the same day) but honestly, it does help.

I honestly think that's why I love this site so much! I can mope and complain, fret and stress and nobody tells me to just shut up and deal with it. My mother does. She calls me everyday and when I vent and tell her all my worries, she just gets angry at me, telling me I'll kill her little "sticker" (this is the name she has decided on for bub, according to her I'm just an incubator for her mokopuna= grandchild in Maori)
5 minutes are hard enough to get through and now I've been told I have to wait another 6 weeks before they'll even give me a god damn blood test!

 

[dairymomma]

I'm sorry you are having trouble with your mom. Mine was overly cautious because not only was I having bleeding issues right away but my little brother was in the hospital so she was overly worried about everyone. Now she's better about it all. As for the testing, are they making you wait until 12 weeks to go in for an appt? Did you tell them you've had a miscarriage (and if I remember right, you've had more)? That's weird. My doctor, even after only one miscarriage, let me come in earlier. Not as early as I would have liked of course, but 8-9 weeks is alot nicer than 10-12 weeks.

 

[tinymumma]

He knew that I've had two. Yet he told me to wait until 12 weeks, just to get my bloods. That's waaaay to late! There wouldn't be any point, what so ever. Going to wait and see if the ob contacts me tomorrow, if not, I'll be making another appointment to see the doctor I saw after my last m/c.
Thank you all for reassuring me that it's not a bad thing to second guess and demand more