What do you do when your name gets 'stolen'?

[thompsonic]

It's pretty early for me to be thinking of baby names (I'm not planning on TTC till at least 2019) but I have always known I want my first born son to be called Freddie. I absolutely love the name, always have, and it goes well with OH's surname etc. Anyway, long story short, OH's mum is only 35, and has just had her sixth baby, with her new husband. (God, that sounds like such a Jeremy Kyle situation doesn't it! Honest, they are not common or anything like that). It was a little boy, and she called him... Freddie. Naive as it may be, I was kinda hoping my OH will be the one whom I have babies with. Only now, my name has gone

I was wondering if this has happened to any of you? What did you do if your favourite name gets used up?
Hope you are all well
Elly x

 

[MUMOF5]

Please dont take this as me being nasty, but you cant really hold rights on a baby name for a) a baby that doesnt exist yet and b) for a whole 10 years. Did your MIL know that you wanted that name? Also even if you did have a baby in 10 years (which has a 50/50 chance of being a boy or girl) your OH brother will be a lot older and it may actually be nice to call the baby after his uncle?!

I also know that the names that I liked when I was pregnant with my daughters who are now 12 and 10 are completely different to the names I like and am thinking about now.

 

[Ilove]

Yeah what mumof5 said really

 

[thompsonic]

I completely understand. Reading it back, I sound pretty spoilt to be honest :/
I only posted it as an example, because it made me curious what pregnant people would do if they had a name picked out throughout pregnancy, and then at the last minute someone close to you uses it. I know someone who like a week before they were due found out their cousin had called their child the name they wanted to use, and so didn't feel they could still use it.

Sorry if I can across as spoilt and moody, I understand I can't 'bagsy' a name, but I thought it was pretty odd that out of all the names there are out there, she chose the one I love as well (her other kids names aren't really in the same style).

Elly x

 

[Kirstin]

I dont know any pregnant people so my name cant get stolen

 

[jackiea85]

My baby's name was stolen a week before he was due, I just had to find something else x

 

[MrsO29]

I don't think you sound selfish at all.

I have had a name in mind for a boy for around 10 years now and have never told anyone it, but last year a friend used the name for her son.
I know I could still use it, but it just doesn't feel right now, and we have chosen another name.

I suppose it is my own fault for not saying previously how much I liked the name, but like someone else said, you can't bagsie names (although I wish you could!)

 

[Pops]

We are trying now and have 2 of each names lined up (just incase!) and are not telling anyone what they are.

We love them and they are fairly un-common and I would be really upset if someone I was close enough to tell then used them so safest way is not to say! If they happen to pick it then thats fine as they obviously like it to come up with it but Ill not always be thinking that they only used it because I told them it. And we have a LOT of pregnant friends and family at the moment!

xxx

 

[Jody R]

I was always fairly certain that I wanted Elisabeth as my daughters name and was worried because two other people in DH's family were expecting at the same time as us and they both knew they were expecting girls. One of them was on her fourth pregnancy so I had spent three other pregnancies worried she would use it, but the first three were boys. They were also both due before me and both were keeping quiet about the names they liked.

As things happened, my beautiful girl was born first due to a car accident and she died. I still gave her the name Elisabeth and when the two other babies were born they were called Lexie and Scarlett, so I think my name choice was too traditional to have been 'stolen' anyway had things happened the way they should.

But when I was pregnant with Joseph my cousins OH was due to have their second baby three months later. We didn't discuss names but it turned out that I was the name stealer this time. I chose Joseph after our Granddad and my cousin said that was the name they had chosen for their baby if it was a boy. We'd never discussed names so neither of us realised. And he said they were still planning to use it.

So then I spent three months worried that they would have a boy and steal the name back. Luckily they had a girl and called her Lexie, so that's two Lexie's in our family (their first is Alanis) but still only one Joseph in his generation.

I don't know how you will feel in ten years time or whenever you have your first baby, you might still want the name or you might want to use a different name that is completely your baby's own name. But I do understand why you feel a bit put out that someone else has 'stolen' it from you, even though I have been the one who did the stealing.

 

[livbaybee1]

yeah i kind of no what u mean haha, i like the name lucas for a boy , and i no 2 people whos recently had little boys and called them lucas, its like RAGE lol.
Haha nah its up to them of course, dw if u still like the name go for it, dont worry if someone else is called it xoxox

 

[mrskx0x0]

I would still use it if you still love the name when the time comes

 

[kate.m.]

I know what you mean! I have been in a similar situation: The only name me and hubby could agree on was Alysia (im not even ttc either by the way! lol!). My bestfriend fell pregnant and confided her baby name in me- even tho her other half had made her promise not to tell!! And the name theyd chosen was Alicia. I told her bout me n hubby loving Alysia, and she said we should still have it! bless! I dont think i would still have it tho, its a bit too similar for me.

 

[AriannasMama]

I would be upset if a relative took the names we have chosen, especially if she knew you wanted it, if not there isn't a whole lot you can do

 

[mrscookie]

Yep happened to me.
Its not stealing, it's just damn annoying especially when your heart is set on a name.
We had to change our daughters name.
We changed it to something fairly unique, none existed on this forum when we chose it and now a few have popped up.
I wont say they stole my daughters name because they didnt.. it's just one of those shitty thing's you cant control unfortunately

 

[muminlove]

One of my good friends had always wanted to name her daughter Amber, for as long as I have known her - since we were little - she had always spoken about how much she loves the name, and everyone knew that. She even used to name all her dolls Amber lol
Anyway fast forward, she got pregnant at the same time as her SIL, all the way through the pregnancy she calls the bump Amber (knew she was having a girl) Whole family is calling bump Amber, SIL gives birth 2 weeks before her, has a girl and names her......Yep. Amber.
She tried to come up with another name but she said it had been too long calling her that, and that is was already too set as being her babies name to change it.
So 2 Ambers!
I would be livid...... that's pretty low i reckon...

And one of our names was 'stolen'. We didn't tell anyone our names so it's not really but mum got a new dog and named it our top girls name - its not even a common name, in fact its quite unusual!
I'm sure she would have changed the dogs name had we asked but the damage was kinda done. Lucky we had a boy

 

[Jody R]

Yep happened to me.
Its not stealing, it's just damn annoying especially when your heart is set on a name.
We had to change our daughters name.
We changed it to something fairly unique, none existed on this forum when we chose it and now a few have popped up.
I wont say they stole my daughters name because they didnt.. it's just one of those shitty thing's you cant control unfortunately

From your picture, is she called Tulip? If she is, I love it.

 

[mrscookie]

Yep happened to me.
Its not stealing, it's just damn annoying especially when your heart is set on a name.
We had to change our daughters name.
We changed it to something fairly unique, none existed on this forum when we chose it and now a few have popped up.
I wont say they stole my daughters name because they didnt.. it's just one of those shitty thing's you cant control unfortunately

From your picture, is she called Tulip? If she is, I love it.

Tulip is beautiful, but that isnt her name.
Her name is Lylah
We spelt it that way as it was unique.. emphasis on the was lol
xx

 

[walkerscrisps]

Wow! Lylah is such a beautiful name!

I wouldn't be too annoyed, as there's nothing I could do about it. And it's not as if they've chosen the name of their child just to spite you. Had my heart set on Kaia Izabella for a while now, so hopefully no-one in my family chooses that name.

 

[FemmeEnceinte]

My cousin was pregnant until recently and was staying on team yellow... her choices were Molly for a girl and Charlie for a boy. Luckily, she had a boy.

Molly was my great grandmother's name, but OH and I have loved it for a long time anyway (I'm sure she did too). So, there were nearly 2 Mollys!

I think of it this way... other than within the family, there's not going to be any confusion. So, go for it! It's not like you have two children with the same name.

 

[Kota]

And one of our names was 'stolen'. We didn't tell anyone our names so it's not really but mum got a new dog and named it our top girls name - its not even a common name, in fact its quite unusual!
I'm sure she would have changed the dogs name had we asked but the damage was kinda done. Lucky we had a boy

Exactly the same thing happened to us!! and she woudn't change the dogs name!
as it turns out I'm having a boy so its not to matter now, but regardless... if we have a girl in the future we'll still use that name as we would have this time around.