What do you find the hardest?

[FJL]

About long term TTC or TTC with problems? Whether you've been there before or are going through it now, i'm interested to know what moments you find to be the most trying.

* For me, my main one would be finding out those I know (mainly close friends and family, not bnb girls - we go through a lot together so i'm happy when I hear of bnb BFPs) are pregnant and when they have their babies.

* The above people talking to me about their pregnancy - kind of rubs my nose in it even though i'm sure they don't intend to do that.

* When people tell us to 'relax' or 'forget about it' - its just not that easy or possible!

* People that don't know about our problems asking us when we're going to start a family - this one always makes me fight back the tears.

* People bitching about the 'dissapointment' of the sex of their child...this one makes me more angry than upset.

* Seeing parents who obviously take their gifts (pregnancy and children) for granted, or those who do it just for the big baby payout and benefits.

Other ones include:

* Getting the each month, but it doesn't upset me as much as it used to...kind of used to it I guess.

* Buying presents for new babies, their birthdays, christmas's etc.

What about you guys?

 

[mayz83]

all the above but when i cant handle it when i get a bfn

 

[wannabmum]

I have to say FLJ u hit the nail rite in the head exactly as u said!!

xxx

 

[Mynxie]

the above and when certain dates are around....like estimated due dates of my angels, at the moment it's a bit tough cause other people who were due around the same time as me are in their third trimester or having their babies

friends and family having their babies, especially those who didn't want their babies, that hurts

 

[Arcanegirl]

Same as you already said, and when someone you know gets pg and you know they dont really deserve it...

 

[PitBullMommy]

We were TTC for two years with PCOS. The roughest parts were when friends/family would get their BFP's by surprise (one was on the pill), or the friend who got married and two months later got her BFP. The one that hurt the most was my sister who had her first baby in Feb 07, then got another BFP in June. I felt so MEAN, I was happy for her..yes, but I was so jealous...then she went on to have a miscarriage at 6wks (still kinda feel like it's my fault from being so jealous). Buying baby presents was hard, and being around the friends with their new babies was awful too. I also hated the, "if you just relax and stop worrying about it so much, it'll happen" speeches that are quite common. I just wanted to wring their necks. Funny thing is...when we DID decide to stop the pills and wait two years (after they told me I hadn't ovulated with the clomid...yet again) I got my BFP (ovulated AFTER the blood test). Weird. I know it's hard...just hang in there and remember how much y'all love eachother.

 

[justme00]

All of teh above except I love buying gifts for babies, it let's me live vicariously through others for a moment in time. I just hope one day I can buy that stuff for my own child.

 

[Suz]

I have to agree with all of the above as well. But it still bugs me to get AF.

I love shopping for baby gifts tho. I am always happy when friends and family have babies. Stings a bit, but still happy.