What method/techniques are you trying? We're thinking of trying Shettles Method.

[AussieBub]

Hi ladies,

DH and I are currently TTC#1 and as of yet we havent tried any specific methods. My DH and I are debating trying the Shettles method to try and conceive a girl. What methods/techniques (if any) are you trying? I'm including below what the Shettles method consists of, as when I first heard the name, I had no idea what it entailed so...

The Shettles Method for conceiving a girl says:

- You have intercourse 2 to 4 days before ovulation.
- Have intercourse often, right up until the "cutoff" of 2 to 4 days before ovulation.
- Diet: The mother should avoid caffeine.
- Sexual position: Shallow penetration using the missionary position.
- Female orgasm: Avoid it.
- Vaginal environment: Try to make the vagina as acidic as possible.

Here is the source link: https://www.in-gender.com/Gender-Selection/Shettles/Shettles_Girl.aspx

I think we'll just try it missionary style, as many times as we can. I'll avoid caffeine and try and time it correctly. I would try and not orgasm (as much as that would suck) but that's something that can be understandably difficult.

For those of you who are wanting to try for a boy though, this is what the Shettles Method includes for you:

- Have intercourse the day of ovulation.
- Abstinence: The father must not ejaculate during the 4 - 5 days before ovulation.
- Scrotal temperature: The father should "keep it cool".
- Sperm count: The father should avoid other causes of reduced sperm count.
- Diet: The father may have some caffeine just before intercourse.
- Female orgasm: Have one!
- Vaginal environment: Try to make the vagina as alkaline as possible.

Here is the source link: https://www.in-gender.com/Gender-Selection/Shettles/Shettles_Boy.aspx

Good luck ladies, hopefully the techniques and methods you try prove beneficial. Let us know what techniques and/or methods you're trying, or even considering trying. Baby Dust to you all ladies!

-AussieBub

 

[Murmers0110]

I would love to have a little girl! I'm still doing my first month so right now I'm jut trying for a baby

 

[claudinator]

I would love 2 little girls

 

[ClandestineTX]

I'm not judging and believe everyone's approach to ttc should be something that they are comfortable with, but I see a decent problem with both strategies - including science has failed to find evidence that Y-sperm swim faster, appearing to be the premise of the method you've described.

For the "girl" plan... female orgasms cause uterine contractions, which help the sperm swim into the Fallopian tube to await the egg... exactly what we all want for ttc!

For the "boy" plan... the suggested abstinence on the part of the man is a problem for two reasons #1 more frequent sex encourages ovulation for a woman and #2 more frequent sex, assuming no sperm count issues, ensures a supply of fresh, healthy sperm. By 4 days without ejaculation the existing sperm in storage start to die, decreasing sperm count, even in a man with a normal one!

 

[LillyTame]

Hi ladies,

DH and I are currently TTC#1 and as of yet we havent tried any specific methods. My DH and I are debating trying the Shettles method to try and conceive a girl. What methods/techniques (if any) are you trying? I'm including below what the Shettles method consists of, as when I first heard the name, I had no idea what it entailed so...

The Shettles Method for conceiving a girl says:

- You have intercourse 2 to 4 days before ovulation.
- Have intercourse often, right up until the "cutoff" of 2 to 4 days before ovulation.
- Diet: The mother should avoid caffeine.
- Sexual position: Shallow penetration using the missionary position.
- Female orgasm: Avoid it.
- Vaginal environment: Try to make the vagina as acidic as possible.

Here is the source link: https://www.in-gender.com/Gender-Selection/Shettles/Shettles_Girl.aspx

I think we'll just try it missionary style, as many times as we can. I'll avoid caffeine and try and time it correctly. I would try and not orgasm (as much as that would suck) but that's something that can be understandably difficult.

For those of you who are wanting to try for a boy though, this is what the Shettles Method includes for you:

- Have intercourse the day of ovulation.
- Abstinence: The father must not ejaculate during the 4 - 5 days before ovulation.
- Scrotal temperature: The father should "keep it cool".
- Sperm count: The father should avoid other causes of reduced sperm count.
- Diet: The father may have some caffeine just before intercourse.
- Female orgasm: Have one!
- Vaginal environment: Try to make the vagina as alkaline as possible.

Here is the source link: https://www.in-gender.com/Gender-Selection/Shettles/Shettles_Boy.aspx

Good luck ladies, hopefully the techniques and methods you try prove beneficial. Let us know what techniques and/or methods you're trying, or even considering trying. Baby Dust to you all ladies!

-AussieBub

We are going to try the SMEP. Since this is our first we just want a baby! lol But I have heard of Shettles and was thinking maybe we will try that the next time to get the opposite of whatever we have. Good luck on getting your little girl! FX'd. And I laughed so hard at the sad face next to no female orgasm!

 

[mum2beagain]

Wte are trying shettles for our 4th in theory it kind of worked with the ither 3 but we wernt using shettles our dd we bd on CD 10 then I went away for 2 weeks was sure we had missed it nd yet I was pregnant so that was 5 days before o then both our boys were concieved on o day so hopefully it will work again this time as we would love another dd

 

[3Beans]

To conceive your first I wouldn't bother with any methods. It won't give you a true representation as to whether or not you may have fertility issues.

However we used the shettles method to conceive our third (a boy).

 

[AussieBub]

So did Shettles method actually work for you when you conceived your son? I mean were you using Shettles method to try and conceive a boy? DH and I have only been considering it because we both really want a girl first. Of course, i'll be happy just to conceive all together but other family members have all had boys first and they're little s**ts most of the time. Our nephews can be very hard to handle! It's just made us want a girl first. It's silly I know, don't get me wrong, we love our nephews! It's just they insist of breaking everything and throwing tantrums when you take something off them they really shouldn't have. We love them but they're handfuls haha. We haven't started trying with any methods yet, we've only been considering it.

-AussieBub

EDIT: Should point out, all our nieces are little angels! It's just our nephews who make a lot of noise and trouble. We have 3 nieces and 3 nephews.

 

[ClandestineTX]

So did Shettles method actually work for you when you conceived your son? I mean were you using Shettles method to try and conceive a boy? DH and I have only been considering it because we both really want a girl first. Of course, i'll be happy just to conceive all together but other family members have all had boys first and they're little s**ts most of the time. Our nephews can be very hard to handle! It's just made us want a girl first. It's silly I know, don't get me wrong, we love our nephews! It's just they insist of breaking everything and throwing tantrums when you take something off them they really shouldn't have. We love them but they're handfuls haha. We haven't started trying with any methods yet, we've only been considering it.

-AussieBub

EDIT: Should point out, all our nieces are little angels! It's just our nephews who make a lot of noise and trouble. We have 3 nieces and 3 nephews.

LOL! I would argue these sound like parenting issues, but even then... Think about how the world will look when they're all teenagers. The boys typically busy themselves with sports, hobbies, or video games and the girls... make you completely insane! I'm a little terrified at the prospect of having a female child. Never been a girly-girl, neither is my mother, and certain I'll end up with a girl who wants to be a princess when she grows up and determined to fill my house full of pink things that I don't understand!

 

[jojo_b]

So did Shettles method actually work for you when you conceived your son? I mean were you using Shettles method to try and conceive a boy? DH and I have only been considering it because we both really want a girl first. Of course, i'll be happy just to conceive all together but other family members have all had boys first and they're little s**ts most of the time. Our nephews can be very hard to handle! It's just made us want a girl first. It's silly I know, don't get me wrong, we love our nephews! It's just they insist of breaking everything and throwing tantrums when you take something off them they really shouldn't have. We love them but they're handfuls haha. We haven't started trying with any methods yet, we've only been considering it.

-AussieBub

EDIT: Should point out, all our nieces are little angels! It's just our nephews who make a lot of noise and trouble. We have 3 nieces and 3 nephews.

LOL! I would argue these sound like parenting issues, but even then... Think about how the world will look when they're all teenagers. The boys typically busy themselves with sports, hobbies, or video games and the girls... make you completely insane! I'm a little terrified at the prospect of having a female child. Never been a girly-girl, neither is my mother, and certain I'll end up with a girl who wants to be a princess when she grows up and determined to fill my house full of pink things that I don't understand!

Aussie if you're worried about this, I'd suggest parenting might not be for you!!! The issues you're describing are toddler issues, not gender specific. My little boy is two, and though he has his moments, he is almost always exceptionally well-behaved. A child's behaviour is down to the boundaries they are taught, as well as what they are fundamentally like as a person (nature and nurture), not whether they are a boy or a girl x

 

[AussieBub]

I'm not worried about this thank you very much and I've been wanting to be a mum since my little sister was born when I was 3 so don't tell me parenting might not be for me. All I have ever wanted was a loving husband and a wonderful family. On both our sides, all the males are terrors when little and get into a lot of trouble when they're older. Its like its in my genes, all the girls are placid and quiet and all the boys end up being the handfuls. I'm not saying if I have a boy he'll end up like every other bloody male in mine and my husbands family but 3 generations will tell you the males are more difficult to handle. As a first time parent living 10,500 miles from home, I'd preferably like my first pregnancy/child to be as little stress as possible. I don't have a safety net mum to turn to if my child is out of control smashing everything and becoming violent like my nephews are! And even if my child did turn out to be a handful, it doesn't mean I'd love them any less!

You might not have meant offense but telling me I might not be up to parenting, or it might not be for me is a big insult. My husband and I have wanting a family since we got together and have waited until we're ready financially, physically, mentally and emotionally before we started trying!

-AussieBub!

 

[ClandestineTX]

I think she was teasing, at least that's how it read to me.

I think my husband and I are going to be in for it, no matter the gender - we were both on the upper end of mischievous/ outright trouble makers by teenage years. We keep telling ourselves that we're wiser than our future children and good luck to them attempting to pull one over on us or trying something we didn't do already!

 

[lapanm07]

AussieBub-

Best of luck to you in your adventure in trying to conceive! We are not exactly following any certain method maybe the SMEP (kinda lol). This is my cycle 6 of TTC#1 and we are just hoping to get a BFP sometime soon! We are using OPKs, pre-seed, checking cervix here and there, and I am temping.

I do have to agree about others concerns about your OH abstaining too long from ejaculation sperm will start to die and you want nice healthy sperm and also if your female environment isn't perfect conditions having sex too early can result in sperm dying before making it to the destination. (Not all but a lot of women do not have the perfect environment, on average sperm can live 3 days in the female tract under proper conditions -- under perfect condition sperm can live up to 6 days in the female tract)

Either way best of luck to you and all the other couples TTC! Baby dust to us all!

 

[AussieBub]

I'm sorry, I'm very hormonal and moody. I'm snapping at everyone, even myself and my DH. Trouble males is a trait in my family genes though. My 2 brothers are ADHD, my dad ran away from home as a teen because it was believed he too was ADHD. My cousin tried to kill his little brother by setting fire to his bed whilst he slept (my cousin was 4 at the time) he also tried to kill other relatives family pets. His parents weren't to blame, they're wonderful people who tried so hard to help him. His younger brother grew up biting and hitting everyone no matter what age. My nephew hits and throws tantrums and deliberately breaks things. You see him go for it and you tell him no so he looks at you, picks it up and throws it to the ground before laughing. All the women however in my family have been so placid, quiet, well behaved. I live on the other side of the world to my family now and I am genuinely worried that if I have a boy first and he turns out to be just like his uncles or grandad or cousins that I'll have no help or support. I admit I have no first hand parenting experience, I am just concerned and would prefer to have a girl first because if genes are anything to go by, they'll be a less trouble child and I'll get more experience as a parent and be more prepared to handle any problems that come later on. I admit Im not experienced enough to handle a child who might become violent, but that doesn't mean I'd love them any less.

I do apologies for snapping though, I have been very hormonal lately, AF is due tomorrow so its either pregnancy hormones or PMS. I'm losing it at everything. I get super angry then break down in tears then become very hyper and happy before snapping at the cat for stealing food of my plate and then the circle starts again. I do apologies for my reaction.

-AussieBub

 

[lapanm07]

It's all good

Whatever cards you are dealt, I think you will do good. Although it may be difficult, we are never given more than we can handle (depending on your beliefs... I just don't want to offend anyone if they have a different religion or higher power).

I don't think anyone was trying to offend you, but I can see how the words said could be very upsetting. You never know whats going to happen or how things are going to turn out. You may have a boy or a girl that could be the best child ever or the worst child ever it is hard to say and like you said that doesn't mean you would love them any differently.

I guess I was just thinking of you not getting your hopes up too soon because in trying those methods if the bodies environment is not perfectly ideal you might be waiting a very long time to get a BFP.... some people get pregnant very fast and others don't. SO give the Shettles a try and give yourself a deadline. If you do not get your BFP after that deadline just baby dance every other day until you get a +opk then have sex that day the next 2-3 days and such! Also temping is really good because it can let you know if you did ovulate or not and can also let you know if there are problems (like fore instance if you get no temp rise you are not ovulating, you can still get a period and not ovulate). Well just some thoughts and best of luck~!

 

[ClandestineTX]

I'm sorry, I'm very hormonal and moody. I'm snapping at everyone, even myself and my DH. Trouble males is a trait in my family genes though. My 2 brothers are ADHD, my dad ran away from home as a teen because it was believed he too was ADHD. My cousin tried to kill his little brother by setting fire to his bed whilst he slept (my cousin was 4 at the time) he also tried to kill other relatives family pets. His parents weren't to blame, they're wonderful people who tried so hard to help him. His younger brother grew up biting and hitting everyone no matter what age. My nephew hits and throws tantrums and deliberately breaks things. You see him go for it and you tell him no so he looks at you, picks it up and throws it to the ground before laughing. All the women however in my family have been so placid, quiet, well behaved. I live on the other side of the world to my family now and I am genuinely worried that if I have a boy first and he turns out to be just like his uncles or grandad or cousins that I'll have no help or support. I admit I have no first hand parenting experience, I am just concerned and would prefer to have a girl first because if genes are anything to go by, they'll be a less trouble child and I'll get more experience as a parent and be more prepared to handle any problems that come later on. I admit Im not experienced enough to handle a child who might become violent, but that doesn't mean I'd love them any less.

I do apologies for snapping though, I have been very hormonal lately, AF is due tomorrow so its either pregnancy hormones or PMS. I'm losing it at everything. I get super angry then break down in tears then become very hyper and happy before snapping at the cat for stealing food of my plate and then the circle starts again. I do apologies for my reaction.

-AussieBub

What you are describing sounds a lot more like bipolar disorder or sociopathic behavior than ADHD. I happen to have ADHD and come from a family full of it, and have done research on it for years. There are definitely some issues with impulse control, concentration/ focus, and sitting still - but nothing that can be well managed with or without medication. There is also a predisposition for addiction to substances, especially stimulant variety ones (had an uncle on crack and cocaine - literally) and the rest of us seem content with cigarettes, caffeine, etc. Violence is definitely NOT an ADHD tendency, which isn't to say there can't be an episode here or there due to a combination of a lack of impulse control and trouble sitting still, but nothing to the extreme you are describing.

 

[3Beans]

So did Shettles method actually work for you when you conceived your son? I mean were you using Shettles method to try and conceive a boy? DH and I have only been considering it because we both really want a girl first. Of course, i'll be happy just to conceive all together but other family members have all had boys first and they're little s**ts most of the time. Our nephews can be very hard to handle! It's just made us want a girl first. It's silly I know, don't get me wrong, we love our nephews! It's just they insist of breaking everything and throwing tantrums when you take something off them they really shouldn't have. We love them but they're handfuls haha. We haven't started trying with any methods yet, we've only been considering it.

-AussieBub

EDIT: Should point out, all our nieces are little angels! It's just our nephews who make a lot of noise and trouble. We have 3 nieces and 3 nephews.

Yes, it worked. But how can one be so sure it actually worked or if it was just by chance that I got a boy anyways right?! Unless you used the same method to conceive 3 or more children all with success then you can't really be sure a method works. But it's fun to try! We will see what this baby is. According to the Shettles method, it should be a girl, according to my symptoms and comparison to other pregnancies its a boy.....we will know soon, it was a surprise pregnancy!

 

[AussieBub]

We've decided if AF arrives tomorrow and im not pregnant then we're just going to keep BDing the way we have been, just more frequently because even though, for our own reasons, we both want a girl first, at the end of the day we just want to start a family and we'll be eternally grateful for any little miracle that is given to us. We're now saying that after our first child we'll possibly try Shettles Method for the other gender with #2 to have one of each.

And ClandestineTX, both my brothers were tested and diagnosed with ADHD when they were younger and were on medication to help with it. My dad, I think was just a rebellious teen, he left home, joined a band and did a lot of things he shouldn't have. As for my cousin, we don't see them any more as they moved away but I have no idea what was up with him. We all said he'd probably grow up to be a serial killer or an arsonist because he was so dangerous. His mum, beside herself took him to the police station after he set his brothers bed on fire because she didnt know what to do any more. They kept hiding any means of lighting a fire like matches or stove lighter and he'd go hunting for them, find them, then start setting fire to their house. They needed a stove lighter to obviously light their gas stove and they ended up having to keep it in a locked box so he couldn't get it. They threw everything other means of starting a fire out.

It is just a big fear that if I have a son, he could (not saying he would) turn out similar and i'd have no support network because they're all 10,500 miles away. I always wanted a boy first growing up, but since being with my DH we've both decided we'd love to have a girl first. But again, please no one take it the wrong way, we don't care if we have a boy or girl first, we'd just be thrilled to conceive. It'd just be nice to have a girl first that is all.

-AussieBub

 

[ClandestineTX]

I think we all have our preferences, even though we'd all just prefer to conceive and love our babies no matter what they are. I'm still hoping for nothing but boys, due to my aversion to girliness! Hopeful if I do have a/ any girls they are like me and my mom. My husband's mom is the kind of woman I don't love, so hopefully they'll be more of the tree climbing and skateboarding variety, I know how to live with those!

 

[jojo_b]

I was kidding. Good luck in getting the outcome you want.