Skywalker
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"You are so huge!"
Um, thanks. I have to admit, I've been guilty of this in the past with other pregnant friends and I meant it as a compliment. It was just meant to acknowledge that I could see their baby bump. Being on the receiving end of that comment, it does NOT feel good lol, especially when it's followed up by:
"How are along are you?" (I tell them I'm now a little over three months) "WOW! I thought you were like six months!" Again, thanks. Lol. You're just making me feel like a whale or feel like I'm bigger than I should be, when in reality my baby measures right on time, my midwife says my weight is all good for where I am, and I've always just had a sort of pear shape and so when I have a bump added to the pear shape, sure, I probably look further along than I am. I don't need to be made to feel embarrassed about it, thank you very much.
"How many do you HAVE in there!?"
Just the one. Although when I'm asked this question I am tempted to be flippant and say, "Well in this particular litter we're thinking 17, but you never know, we could have pup more or less than that."
I know that most people are just curious and others are just excited and not thinking about how what they're saying might NOT actually come across as a compliment lol. I don't think anyone is intending to actually make me feel bad, but I just don't think that some people THINK. I don't actually look THAT much bigger than other girls around 13-14 weeks, it's just that I have wide hips and a pear shape. I always have, even when I was really skinny, it's just the shape that my body is. I have really wide hips and again, even when I was really really skinny I have ALWAYS had a butt, big and shapely, so you add a bump out front and even though the bump isn't actually that big it looks big with the whole picture. I can understand why some people think I'm further along but I just wish people would think before they open their mouths. Pregnancy is a time when we women can feel self-conscious about our bodies. I wish more people took that into consideration. Maybe it's not something you really get until you yourself are pregnant and go through it though. Anyway!
Anyone else getting some funny comments from people?
Um, thanks. I have to admit, I've been guilty of this in the past with other pregnant friends and I meant it as a compliment. It was just meant to acknowledge that I could see their baby bump. Being on the receiving end of that comment, it does NOT feel good lol, especially when it's followed up by:
"How are along are you?" (I tell them I'm now a little over three months) "WOW! I thought you were like six months!" Again, thanks. Lol. You're just making me feel like a whale or feel like I'm bigger than I should be, when in reality my baby measures right on time, my midwife says my weight is all good for where I am, and I've always just had a sort of pear shape and so when I have a bump added to the pear shape, sure, I probably look further along than I am. I don't need to be made to feel embarrassed about it, thank you very much.
"How many do you HAVE in there!?"
Just the one. Although when I'm asked this question I am tempted to be flippant and say, "Well in this particular litter we're thinking 17, but you never know, we could have pup more or less than that."
I know that most people are just curious and others are just excited and not thinking about how what they're saying might NOT actually come across as a compliment lol. I don't think anyone is intending to actually make me feel bad, but I just don't think that some people THINK. I don't actually look THAT much bigger than other girls around 13-14 weeks, it's just that I have wide hips and a pear shape. I always have, even when I was really skinny, it's just the shape that my body is. I have really wide hips and again, even when I was really really skinny I have ALWAYS had a butt, big and shapely, so you add a bump out front and even though the bump isn't actually that big it looks big with the whole picture. I can understand why some people think I'm further along but I just wish people would think before they open their mouths. Pregnancy is a time when we women can feel self-conscious about our bodies. I wish more people took that into consideration. Maybe it's not something you really get until you yourself are pregnant and go through it though. Anyway!
Anyone else getting some funny comments from people?
Good for you telling a mom to be that her bump is beautiful if she's big for gestation! It aggravates me so much having people get this concerned/confused look on their face when I tell them how far along I am and they go, "You look so much further along!"
