what should I do now?

[starlight0]

Kind of at a loss as to what to do now. When I broke the news to the FOB he immediately begged me to get rid of it which I refused and still am. He has continued to say hurtful things to me, about how he doesn't want to be apart of the baby's life because it's ruining his. He wasn't ready for this. Don't talk to me again, yada yada yada. He has a child by another girl which he tried to deny initially, but after paternity tests it came back positive so he keeps saying he's not ready for another one.

My issue is that when I asked him if he told his family yet he responded with saying, "no, I'm not telling them ever. I'm not putting them through that again, they will be disappointed." Honestly, I think they will be disappointed with how he's acting about all of this not the fact that he's having another baby. If he still refuses to speak to me, which I'm suspecting will happen, do I contact his family? It can't hurt, right? If they don't want to be apart of the childs life then that's that?

Thoughts, advice, similar stories please

 

[whatwillbe]

Huggs hun, im in a similar situation with fob, although hes never actually had the guts to ask / tell me to get rid, i know thats what he wanted now, he just ignores me and pretends i or baby dont exsist, its verry hurtfull, i think you should do what you think is right, if it means telling his familly do that, someone needs to tell him he cant treat the mother of his baby this way, and that he cant turn his back on his responsibilities, you would be better off without him imo, good luck with whatever you decide tho x

 

[Ersurgeongirl]

Just because their son is a complete moron doesn't mean that the grandparents will or will not want to be a part of their grandchild's life. I'd let them know then give them space to decide if they want to be part of your child's life. If not, so be it.

 

[teal]

My ex tried to push me into a terminations and I refused. He gave me plenty of abuse for ruining his life, he'll never be happy again, etc.. I've not seen him in over three years.

He didn't tell his family but I did. To be honest it's not really worked because they just make excuses for him. After what he done to me and ignoring that he has a son it's too hard to listen to someone make excuses.

I know some situations where it has worked out and your ex shouldn't be the one to make the decision for his family.