What to do with the other two

lisette

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Hello other forummembers,

I´ve recently moved to the UK and am expecting my 3rd. I´m due in approximately 2 months time.

After some consideration we decided on a hospital birth, mainly due to the fact that we have a serious lack of (adult) furniture and having the baby on an airbed didn´t quite suit my fancy. No worries, the children are more than well provided for.

In moving to this country, I know no one. My partners family isn`t in the picture, and mine obviously lives in another country. Neither of my children go to nursery, school, or any other type of childcare situation. It´s basically me and the kids at home since we´ve moved here.

I´m wondering, what in the world will I ´do´ with them once labour starts. My first was a hospital birth due to medical reasons and the second I had at home. My mother happened to take my oldest out for a walk with the dogs and when he came back nr. 2 was there, about 5 minutes after the midwife arrived. Labour with me is pretty unpredictable. I can be having contractions every 5 minutes, but at the same time can be ready to start pushing (which I then on don´t even notice myself and have to be told to do). It can go pretty darn fast and that also runs in the family. For instance, I was born within 30 minutes of the very first contraction.

Has anyone got any good idea´s for a 1 time only childcare situation. Neighbours aren´t an option, no family, no friends, and my youngest has quite severe separation anxiety since my partner left 1,5 months prior to us moving here.

The only option I could think of is sending my partner away with them, but that´s a bit daunting in a country where everything seems to go very different from what I´m used to.
 
Oh, I just noticed in some other topics that everyone on this forum seems to be from the US. Strange, since it says ´United Kingdom´ at the top banner. Ohwell, all tips are welcome anyhow :).
 
I think your only option would be to have your partner stay with them, unless you can put them into daycare for the day.
 
I have a similar problem as my family is two hours away and I am afraid I will go into labor while my husband is at work (also 2 hours away). I guess the best thing for you to do is either have your husband stay with them or start looking into babysitters now. You can interview them and let them know that they will be on call when you go into labor. Its a very scary situation but it will all work out in the end :)
 
How about talking to your midwife, I bet they get this situation quite a lot so they might be able to give you some ideas.
 
It may be worth talking to your midwife to see if she has any suggestions for childcare given your circumstances, but problems could come up when it gets to night time unless you find a childminder who is ok with an overnight at your house if you do have a hospital birth. The most obvious option would be to see if your ex-partner was able to take them whilst you're in labour - I'm presuming he's the father to your 3rd baby too, so he should hopefully want to help out in some way or another.
 
Oh, I just noticed in some other topics that everyone on this forum seems to be from the US. Strange, since it says ´United Kingdom´ at the top banner. Ohwell, all tips are welcome anyhow :).

not everybody is from the US :)

I agree with the others, have a word with your midwife and see if she has any suggestions.
 
The most obvious option would be to see if your ex-partner was able to take them whilst you're in labour - I'm presuming he's the father to your 3rd baby too, so he should hopefully want to help out in some way or another.

ex partner?

edit - sorry I missed the part where she said he moved away. The fact she refers to him many times as her partner threw me!
 

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