What To Expect When You're Expecting movie

[tamithomas]

I just saw the preview of the movie "What To Expect When You're Expecting" on my news feed on facebook.. I haven't been this depressed about a movie being out in a long time. It just comes to show you that no matter where you go, you can't escape BFP's On top of it I'm due to start AF in the next 24 hours which is my first AF since my MC. My concern is, when are they gonna do a movie about IF for once?

 

[tlm]

I made the mistake of telling my "fertile" friend (who got married in February and was ttc too) that we needed to see that when we were both pregnant. What a dumb remark on my part, set yourself up for disappointment... Anyway, she was pregnant the first month of trying and I still am NOT.

 

[arizonagal]

So, it's not a movie-but do you watch keeping up with the kardashians? On it Khloe went to a specialist to find out why she's not ovulating. I appreciated that she's sharing this on tv even if the show is ridiculous!

 

[amjon]

The movie actually does have an infertile couple dealing with friends with babies and one couple that loses the baby. We saw it right after my MC.

 

[tamithomas]

The movie actually does have an infertile couple dealing with friends with babies and one couple that loses the baby. We saw it right after my MC.

Oh it does, does it? Still don't think I'd be able to handle the movie though. But must commend you, I'm about to start my first AF after MC and I don't have the strength to watch anything baby related. Props to you!

 

[HearMyPrayers]

I dont think I could watch the movie either...I have the DVD but refuse to watch it right now. And I agree I wish there were movies of TTC struggles so its more relatable to the other spectrum of child bearing people.

Oddly enough I'm more "jealous" of everyday women and I always feel threatened by them even if they aren't pregnant and DH thinks its jealousy in the sense that I "wish" i had what they had (clothes, cars, jewelery etc) but in actuality its none of that I'm jealous of, because if I want their clothes I'd buy them, or cars I just get one, but thats not the case I'm jealous of everyday women because I feel they have a one up on me like having children with no complications or long term struggle...thats where my jealousy comes from especially with an underlying fear that my DH will leave me for someone "more fertile"

 

[tamithomas]

I dont think I could watch the movie either...I have the DVD but refuse to watch it right now. And I agree I wish there were movies of TTC struggles so its more relatable to the other spectrum of child bearing people.

Oddly enough I'm more "jealous" of everyday women and I always feel threatened by them even if they aren't pregnant and DH thinks its jealousy in the sense that I "wish" i had what they had (clothes, cars, jewelery etc) but in actuality its none of that I'm jealous of, because if I want their clothes I'd buy them, or cars I just get one, but thats not the case I'm jealous of everyday women because I feel they have a one up on me like having children with no complications or long term struggle...thats where my jealousy comes from especially with an underlying fear that my DH will leave me for someone "more fertile"

I totally feel you on that one. I'm full of self confidence, I love myself and have no jealousy of looks,cars houses or anything like that. It's the jealousy that other women can NTNP 1 month and poof they got their LO 9 months later. Almost feels like you were one of the defects when the human mold was being made. But, in the end we have the upper hand which is the love for our child when we will get it eventually will be stronger then any whom have succeed without problems.

I'm not down playing any parents love whatsoever before anyone gets offended, but it's only logical that if you've tried so hard to get the LO the attatchement will be a lot different then to someone who barely tried or got BFP accidently. to you all!

 

[HearMyPrayers]

I dont think I could watch the movie either...I have the DVD but refuse to watch it right now. And I agree I wish there were movies of TTC struggles so its more relatable to the other spectrum of child bearing people.

Oddly enough I'm more "jealous" of everyday women and I always feel threatened by them even if they aren't pregnant and DH thinks its jealousy in the sense that I "wish" i had what they had (clothes, cars, jewelery etc) but in actuality its none of that I'm jealous of, because if I want their clothes I'd buy them, or cars I just get one, but thats not the case I'm jealous of everyday women because I feel they have a one up on me like having children with no complications or long term struggle...thats where my jealousy comes from especially with an underlying fear that my DH will leave me for someone "more fertile"

I totally feel you on that one. I'm full of self confidence, I love myself and have no jealousy of looks,cars houses or anything like that. It's the jealousy that other women can NTNP 1 month and poof they got their LO 9 months later. Almost feels like you were one of the defects when the human mold was being made. But, in the end we have the upper hand which is the love for our child when we will get it eventually will be stronger then any whom have succeed without problems.

I'm not down playing any parents love whatsoever before anyone gets offended, but it's only logical that if you've tried so hard to get the LO the attatchement will be a lot different then to someone who barely tried or got BFP accidently. to you all!

Its amazing you said that when we do get our babies we will have that stronger love, because its exactly what I said to DH last night, I think about the built up love that one day I will be able to off load to my child(ren). And I dont think what your saying is wrong, its more like looking at it as you appreciate certain things more when it doesn't come easy to you or you've struggled or work harder for it! I totally see where your coming from!

 

[Fizzyfefe]

I Googled "movies dealing with infertility," and this is what I came up with. Haven't seen hardly any of these, so I can't give reviews.

The Baby Dance
Raising Arizona
Funny about Love
The Good Girl
Penny Serenade
Forget Paris
Maybe Baby
The Odd Life of Timothy Green (a real tear-jerker)
The Back-up Plan
Then She Found Me
Baby Mama
Facing the Giants
Couple's Retreat

And then there's TV shows...
Friends
Sex and the City
Keeping up with the Kardashians
Grey's Anatomy
Private Practice
Coronation Street
Guilliana and Bill

I realize that some of these basically make fun of or disregard the true feelings that we go through, but at least it's something.

 

[Brunette Boo]

I dont think I could watch the movie either...I have the DVD but refuse to watch it right now. And I agree I wish there were movies of TTC struggles so its more relatable to the other spectrum of child bearing people.

Oddly enough I'm more "jealous" of everyday women and I always feel threatened by them even if they aren't pregnant and DH thinks its jealousy in the sense that I "wish" i had what they had (clothes, cars, jewelery etc) but in actuality its none of that I'm jealous of, because if I want their clothes I'd buy them, or cars I just get one, but thats not the case I'm jealous of everyday women because I feel they have a one up on me like having children with no complications or long term struggle...thats where my jealousy comes from especially with an underlying fear that my DH will leave me for someone "more fertile"

I totally feel you on that one. I'm full of self confidence, I love myself and have no jealousy of looks,cars houses or anything like that. It's the jealousy that other women can NTNP 1 month and poof they got their LO 9 months later. Almost feels like you were one of the defects when the human mold was being made. But, in the end we have the upper hand which is the love for our child when we will get it eventually will be stronger then any whom have succeed without problems.

I'm not down playing any parents love whatsoever before anyone gets offended, but it's only logical that if you've tried so hard to get the LO the attatchement will be a lot different then to someone who barely tried or got BFP accidently. to you all!

Just having a nosey on this thread as I haven't seen this movie yet. So glad I did. I completely know how you feel. We've been trying for 15 months without success. OH's brother & sister-in-law got pregnant after 3 tries! She's now 3 months gone. I can't bring myself to see her (although I only ever saw her rarely anyway). I hate even hearing about it. I feel so awful about feeling jealous but I can't help it. I'm just hoping we get our soon as I don't know how much longer I can put off seeing her.

Fingers crossed for us all.

 

[Lawgirl]

You're not alone Boo. I haven't seen my BIL or his wife in nearly 2 years. I was 'forced' to see them and their LO once and have refused ever since. It sounds completely nutty, but (to my mind) they didn't deal with me all that well when she became pg (after I had been trying for 18 months). I hope you have a supportive partner who understands.

 

[tamithomas]

I Googled "movies dealing with infertility," and this is what I came up with. Haven't seen hardly any of these, so I can't give reviews.

The Baby Dance
Raising Arizona
Funny about Love
The Good Girl
Penny Serenade
Forget Paris
Maybe Baby
The Odd Life of Timothy Green (a real tear-jerker)
The Back-up Plan
Then She Found Me
Baby Mama
Facing the Giants
Couple's Retreat

And then there's TV shows...
Friends
Sex and the City
Keeping up with the Kardashians
Grey's Anatomy
Private Practice
Coronation Street
Guilliana and Bill

I realize that some of these basically make fun of or disregard the true feelings that we go through, but at least it's something.

One show that really got under my skin..Criminal Minds and LAw and Order SVU. They're both notorious for doing shows about infertile women who kidnap babies. Although I hate SVU for personal reasons other than that but for the short amount of time that I watched it, both of them have at least three of those kinds. It's hollywoods fault that we're perceived as the "to be kept away from babies or they'll steal them" mentality.

There was even this one episode in CM where the woman would literally scout out for newborns in parking lots, kill the mother leave the body in the driveway and drive away with the baby in the back. Come to find out she couldn't have any of her own. Then we are the ones who get the downfall of the hollywood brainwash

 

[Redfraggle]

Really recommend the film Maybe Baby. We have it and it is really funny.

 

[tamithomas]

Really recommend the film Maybe Baby. We have it and it is really funny.

Just watched the trailer on youtube, looks hilarious! thanks for recommending, will definitely watch!

 

[HearMyPrayers]

I dont think I could watch the movie either...I have the DVD but refuse to watch it right now. And I agree I wish there were movies of TTC struggles so its more relatable to the other spectrum of child bearing people.

Oddly enough I'm more "jealous" of everyday women and I always feel threatened by them even if they aren't pregnant and DH thinks its jealousy in the sense that I "wish" i had what they had (clothes, cars, jewelery etc) but in actuality its none of that I'm jealous of, because if I want their clothes I'd buy them, or cars I just get one, but thats not the case I'm jealous of everyday women because I feel they have a one up on me like having children with no complications or long term struggle...thats where my jealousy comes from especially with an underlying fear that my DH will leave me for someone "more fertile"

I totally feel you on that one. I'm full of self confidence, I love myself and have no jealousy of looks,cars houses or anything like that. It's the jealousy that other women can NTNP 1 month and poof they got their LO 9 months later. Almost feels like you were one of the defects when the human mold was being made. But, in the end we have the upper hand which is the love for our child when we will get it eventually will be stronger then any whom have succeed without problems.

I'm not down playing any parents love whatsoever before anyone gets offended, but it's only logical that if you've tried so hard to get the LO the attatchement will be a lot different then to someone who barely tried or got BFP accidently. to you all!

Just having a nosey on this thread as I haven't seen this movie yet. So glad I did. I completely know how you feel. We've been trying for 15 months without success. OH's brother & sister-in-law got pregnant after 3 tries! She's now 3 months gone. I can't bring myself to see her (although I only ever saw her rarely anyway). I hate even hearing about it. I feel so awful about feeling jealous but I can't help it. I'm just hoping we get our soon as I don't know how much longer I can put off seeing her.

Fingers crossed for us all.

 

[AlyCon]

It's hollywoods fault that we're perceived as the "to be kept away from babies or they'll steal them" mentality.

There was even this one episode in CM where the woman would literally scout out for newborns in parking lots, kill the mother leave the body in the driveway and drive away with the baby in the back. Come to find out she couldn't have any of her own. Then we are the ones who get the downfall of the hollywood brainwash

omg YESS! i know theres at leat 10 Lifetime movies about infertile women kidnapping babies! and a few where the husbands steal the babies and claim they "adopted" them. and then theres the ones about "adoption agencies" that scam pregnant teens into signing over their babies and then sell them to infertile couples. and i've seen them all..

 

[Brunette Boo]

You're not alone Boo. I haven't seen my BIL or his wife in nearly 2 years. I was 'forced' to see them and their LO once and have refused ever since. It sounds completely nutty, but (to my mind) they didn't deal with me all that well when she became pg (after I had been trying for 18 months). I hope you have a supportive partner who understands.

Thanks so much, I was feeling really horrible for not wanting to see her or hear anything about it. I cried so much when my OH told me they'd had their first scan. Luckily, my OH is TOTALLY supportive. He is just as anxious to get as I am so kind of feels the same as me anyway. He hates it that they had no issues. I feel as though they could have put it off for another year but basically she gave him an ultimatum. Get me preggers or else! She couldn't believe it took as long as 3 months!!!!!



to us all

 

[tamithomas]

You're not alone Boo. I haven't seen my BIL or his wife in nearly 2 years. I was 'forced' to see them and their LO once and have refused ever since. It sounds completely nutty, but (to my mind) they didn't deal with me all that well when she became pg (after I had been trying for 18 months). I hope you have a supportive partner who understands.

Thanks so much, I was feeling really horrible for not wanting to see her or hear anything about it. I cried so much when my OH told me they'd had their first scan. Luckily, my OH is TOTALLY supportive. He is just as anxious to get as I am so kind of feels the same as me anyway. He hates it that they had no issues. I feel as though they could have put it off for another year but basically she gave him an ultimatum. Get me preggers or else! She couldn't believe it took as long as 3 months!!!!!



to us all

Sorry but if anyone gives me an ultimatum,their ass is grass from my life no matter who it is and how long i've known them.

 

[jessandaj]

I Googled "movies dealing with infertility," and this is what I came up with. Haven't seen hardly any of these, so I can't give reviews.

The Baby Dance
Raising Arizona
Funny about Love
The Good Girl
Penny Serenade
Forget Paris
Maybe Baby
The Odd Life of Timothy Green (a real tear-jerker)
The Back-up Plan
Then She Found Me
Baby Mama
Facing the Giants
Couple's Retreat

And then there's TV shows...
Friends
Sex and the City
Keeping up with the Kardashians
Grey's Anatomy
Private Practice
Coronation Street
Guilliana and Bill

I realize that some of these basically make fun of or disregard the true feelings that we go through, but at least it's something.

One show that really got under my skin..Criminal Minds and LAw and Order SVU. They're both notorious for doing shows about infertile women who kidnap babies. Although I hate SVU for personal reasons other than that but for the short amount of time that I watched it, both of them have at least three of those kinds. It's hollywoods fault that we're perceived as the "to be kept away from babies or they'll steal them" mentality.

There was even this one episode in CM where the woman would literally scout out for newborns in parking lots, kill the mother leave the body in the driveway and drive away with the baby in the back. Come to find out she couldn't have any of her own. Then we are the ones who get the downfall of the hollywood brainwash

UH i saw the one were they kidnap the baby from the drug addict mother and it just pissed me off to be honest and its always on and pissesss me offff !!! were not fucking crazy were not gunna steal your kids we dont want your damn brats we want our own

ive seen the good girl..dont really remember it being about infertility its more around a cheating wife but you do find out the husband is infertile and at the end she is pregnant with the mans child she cheated on him with well you'd have to watch it but miss concieve is a movie i watched on netflix it was kind corny but good and was about infertility