What will you do differently next time?

[hanni]

I know miscarriage is never anyone's fault, but I definitely took being pregnant for granted last time. Next time I'll definitely do the following things differently..

- take all of my vitamins no matter how sick I'm feeling.
- take it easier at work, no "its only slightly heavy" lifting.
- book a scan at 8 weeks and buy a good quality doppler to reassure myself and OH.
- not tell as many people no matter how many strong symptoms I have and how bloated my belly is.

Anyone else going to be doing anything different?

 

[aalam9199]

I will definitely not tell anyone till I am 14 weeks no matter how bloated I look! I will also try to enjoy my pregnancy no matter what and not stress over every pinch,cramp or whatever. I just hope I get the chance to get pregnant again and have a healthy LO at the end!

 

[Mummy to be x]

This time I will not book any private scans, I had two which showed a healthy pregnancy and great heartbeat and one week later my baby died so I won't be doing that again. I think il also take things easier and rest up more, and not tell friends and distant family till at least twelve week.

 

[notquite]

I won't tell people so early, not even my family. I'll eat better (I wasn't eating very much last time, even though it was healthy foods). I will avoid artificial sweeteners and caffeine as much as possible.

 

[Button#]

I'm already taking b complex vitamins which is different to last time. I won't take it for granted that everything is going to be fine next time and I'll try not to get ahead of myself.

 

[alternatedi]

I won't tell my parents till after the first trimester. This was to be their first grand baby, and they've taken this loss as hard as I have.

I'll change the way I talk to myself - when I get a BFP, I'll remind myself that lots of milestones need to be reached before we bring a baby home. I won't stress -- the the worrying done the first time around did nothing to help in the end.

I'm not going to let myself start dreaming about the baby, picking out names, clothes, etc. I'll be more pragmatic.

As for eating better, I did everything perfectly the first time around. Maybe I'll relax a little more.

 

[RaspberryK]

I am similar to mummy to be, we had seen the heartbeat at a private scan and I'm not sure I'll get one again.
I told lots of people but I'd not change that as the support has been amazing except from my parents. I'd not tell them again til later on.
Xx

 

[dan-o]

-tell everyone right away, so they can make allowances.
-give up caffeine at bfp
-no lifting at all. Ever.
-no early doppler use in case of aggrivating a SCH
-progesterone support at bfp (thought id be ok just winging it last time)
-fortnightly scans until 2nd tri (checking for SCH and maintaining my sanity)
-low dose asprin
-High dose folic acid
-rest more

 

[Cherrysoul]

After my MC in December, i forced myself to not stress anymore (i have always been a worrier etc i keep telling myself if it wont affect you in 1-3 years then it is not worth worrying about).

Oh and resting more, rather than trying to be Super Hero

I have cut down on my Coffee consumption (bit of an addict).

Taking vitamins daily without fail. (I wasn't really pre MC as we where not really making an effort to try NTNP).

BD'ing a lot more frequently to ensure fresh spermies

Currently in TWW, So have everything crossed for a healthy sticky baby.

ETA: Won't be telling anyone this time. Until we see a healthy fully formed baby.

 

[Fairydust22]

I won't be telling anybody until after my 12 week scan when I know everything is ok

Chill out more take it easy

Make sure I can hear baby's heartbeat on Doppler

 

[Kats816]

The main thing I will do different is tell people earlier! Most of our close friends and family only found out when we had to tell them we'd had a miscarriage.
Everyone is different but we needed people round us and when we get pregnant again I think we will need the emotional support

I hope that I relax a bit, I was constantly checking my knickers for bleeding but after suffering a mc that started with bleeding not sure I will be able to do that :/

 

[KBCupcake]

I won't tell anyone but DH when we're pregnant again. I told my parents when I was only 4w along. We were so excited. But it was heartbreaking for my mom when I told her the baby didn't make it. She's never experienced miscarriage (nor has anyone I'm personally close to) so I feel pretty lonely. I don't know what I'd do if it weren't for these forums honestly.

 

[_Anya_]

I would not have an ultrosound until 7 weeks next time. Had one at 5 weeks and everything seemed OK, and at 7 weeks I was diagnosed with blighted ovum. So early ultrasounds don't make sense to me anymore. They give hope and then it's even harder to cope with a loss.

 

[dan-o]

Me too. I used to be excited and impatient for early ultrasounds but my latest mc (a couple of weeks ago) has put me right off! All that waiting about in waiting rooms, driving back and forth, time off work for hubby to babysit... Arghh such an incredible waste of time!

 

[Ladybirdgb]

Im cutting down on alcohol now I had a few weeks of parties and drinking before I got my bfp last time

I wont be telling anyone except my hub and close family

Im taking more vits this time round

Im doing ov tests already and dtd more

Once I get my bfp no caffine I love my caffine and vino but they will both be out of the window for me

 

[MissJenn_xx]

Naturally I would say I won't tell anyone except DH but I know that will be hard. We were so excited we told everyone right away. DH would tell any stranger that would listen . It would be too hard to not be that excited again. Each pregnancy is new and different so I can't let myself act as if m/c is going to happen again. I don't want to rob myself and my family of the joy and excitement.

So far Ive cut back on drinking since my m/c on May 8th and now that AF has arrived I will not be drinking at all. I will miss you dearly. I don't drink much coffee so thats an easy one, for me at least. I have continued to take my prenatals even after m/c. I eat a very healthy mainly vegetarian diet, and will continue to do so through pregnancy.

The biggest change that needs to happen this time around while ttc is that my DH stop smoking cigarettes. I need healthy spermies!! Have any of you ladies worried about your partners bad habits in regards to your m/c? I know that no one is to "blame" but I can't help but wonder!

 

[Kians_Mummy]

Next time I will definitely be keeping it quiet until 12 week scan (last one kept quiet until 6ish weeks), make sure I take my folic acid no matter what and buy a better doppler.

Oh and not buy anything until after the scan and not get the baby clothes out again before the scan!

I thought because I had one healthy pregnancy and told everyone early then this time would be the same

 

[Cattia]

I think next time I will make sure I take my vitamins and try to watch my diet a bit more, Other that that though, I really think mc is just one of those things. When I got pregnant with my son I drank a ton of wine up until the 6 week mark and he was perfectly healthy (not that I think you should drink wine during pregnancy, I just don't think doing everything right makes it any more likely that things will work out). I am not sure about an early scan So many people I was in first tri with last time had early scans and saw a HB then went on to have a mmc. My baby stopped growing at almost 7 weeks so I guess it would have had a hb by then, so I no longer believe that seeing a healthy hb is that much of a reassurance. I also thought I picked up a hb on a doppler last time but actually it was after the baby had stopped growing so I am not sure I'll bother with that again either as they seem to pick up all kinds of other noises.
I am kidding myself that I will be more relaxed if it happens again but I know I won't! However at least I will know that if something does go wrong, horrendous as it is, I can get through it.

 

[Pixiedust22]

Take higher dose folic acid which I'm already doing. I will still be telling people as I didn't find out there was anything wrong until 20 weeks and I can't hide it that long anyway. I think I might even be telling people earlier (at least family) for the support.

 

[Bug222]

i won't get excited until second tri

try to limit lifting at work and try to avoid taking pts for CT (we stand behind a radiation proof barrier but you never know)

take folic acid/prenatal prior to BFP along with B complex

take low dose asprin