Whats everyone's opinions, would this be wrong?

[gracexxx]

I just wondered what everyone's opinion is on being a single mum by choice?

I have a 7 month old daughter, her father walked when I was 7 months pregnant, I've found it very tough, mostly just trying to accept he wanted nothing to do with his own his own daughter, but she's doing fantastically without him around.

Anyway I had always wanted a 3 year age gap between my first and second child, ive mentioned this to people and most have Said 'well, you'll have to find another boyfriend first'. I realise the ideal situation would be to have another child with Fob and be a happy little famiy, but that can't happen, and I don't want that scumbag to take this dream away from me, just because ideally I should be in a relationship with someone.
Lately I've really been thinking about getting pregnant without a dad being around again, probably through sperm donation. I know I'm a fantastic mum, and I've done it once without a father around, and can do it again.

What's everyone's opinions on this, I haven't discussed it with any of my friends yet, Im just a bit worried about their reactions really.

 

[KayBea]

ive not thought about it myself but ive only been a SM for 4 months..

but sod what others think, its your life, your babies & your their mummy so why not do it? xxx

 

[gracexxx]

It's only lately I've really been thinking about it seriously, You're right though, it doesn't matter what everyone else thinks ,thanks

 

[Jade--x]

I'm a single mum to 2 (unplanned) little boys and I've done it with both totally alone as their fathers are..Well I'd be banned for foul language if I could say what they are I want a third I want a little girl but I don't want to go through all the stress I've had from my oldests FOB if things weren't to work out. It wouldn't be for many years yet, as there's things I want to do with my life before I have another baby, I'm so ill through my pregnancies and my recovery after I'm not able to do anything for the whole year other than be in hospital. I've also considered using a sperm donor when the time's right it's a lot less stress!
But with it being so far in the future you never know you could meet the perfect guy that you want that family and other child with
I'm open minded to meeting Mr Perfect, but can't help think I don't even think he exists lol so I have donation as my back up..I don't want to hang my dreams on a man

I'd say if it's what YOU want screw everyone else and what they think x

 

[Jennifurball]

I would personally rather wait to meet someone but it is your choice and your life.

 

[gracexxx]

Well yeah of course I'd Much rather wait until I meet someone, but that could take years, I feel like it could get to the time I really want to have another baby, and I still haven't met anyone. And the chances of me meeting the right guy I feel I want to have a family with are very slim in such a short space of time. I'd rather wait until I Find someone I really feel I love and trust enough to have another child with... But I don't feel that's going to happen in just 2 years, and I wouldn't want to rush things anyway. I'd rather have a baby on my own again without the stress of the father leaving me and going through it all again, at least I'd know where I'd stand this time.

 

[Dezireey]

Normally I'd say wait until you find someone you love and who loves you but even that isn't a guarantee ( as i've learned) these days and you can be married and having your first LO and your husband can leave you... so you should always do what is best for you Hun, only you know how you can cope etc.

 

[Jennifurball]

I can see it from both sides, I would be scared to go through it again and run the risk of losing another FOB. However, my friend was only with her man for 6 months and fell pg and they are still going strong.

 

[gracexxx]

I'm terrified of it happening all again, I don't think I could cope with having FOB running away a second time. At least if I hada sperm donor I'd know I was on my own through my own choice and don't have the stress of someone I love leaving me on my own not out of of choice. But I'm DEFINATELY not ready for another baby quite yet, when the time comes then ill make the decision and know what's right. Thanks for everyone's comments x

 

[jnbro]

Hi,at first i love my father & Mather.Every should respect him.

 

[beanzz]

I think you should do what you want I originally wanted to try again in 6 months time because I don't want much of an age gap but me and FOB just split up and I don't personally want a different dad for each child.