When do you consider LTTTC?

[LillyTame]

So I know there are many women here that have been trying 2yrs+ and will roll their eyes at me (ttc since Jan), but when do you consider someone to be LTTTC? I feel like I will be LTTTC at my one year mark....but I find myself wondering into LTTTC more often already as I see the bright eyed and bushy tailed just starters

I feel so left out when people are looking for other ladies just starting and I don't even have the energy (or interest) to try to explain how OPKs and BBT work or what HSG or EWCM mean.

 

[DAISYPRENCESS]

I think if a couple don't get pregnant after 2 years actively trying then is LTTTC. We have been trying for 6 years now.

 

[ChartsNHearts]

I think there are probably lots of different answers to this question, as people's perspective on what is 'a long time' changes, the longer you're TTC.

I voted 1.5yrs - my logic was that we're told that statistically it can take 'a normal, healthy couple' up to 1yr to conceive, so therefore 1.5yrs would seem to fit the definition of LTTTC I think.

On saying that, I know how frustrating it can be on the TTC boards with the 'bright eyed and bushy tailed' and I know how disheartened you must be getting. Wishing you the best of luck and I hope that you get your BFP soon.

 

[wannabemummyb]

I voted a year because I know thats when I felt I didn't fit into the ttc threads anymore and its normally around the time GPs start to consider sending you for tests eyc.

 

[Pinkie3]

Id say 1 year as that's when doctors will start doing fertility tests. And by this point its really starting to over take your life!

Good luck hope you get some answers soon or most importantly that bfp x

 

[slg76]

I feel like you do. We have been ttc about 18 months. So much longer than some couples but such a short time for others. I would say 1 year is ltttc. I think no matter what the dates say you just need to find a group that you feel supported in and remember to be sensitive to everyone else's situations. I pop over to ttc sometimes to help out the newbies but some days I just don't have the patience for those questions. Mostly I hang out in ttc after a loss. Good luck to you!!! I hope you find a great group of women get your bfp soon. Maybe start your own thread for ttc for a year or more? I'll come join you

 

[Pinkie3]

Id join too, i started out on the assisted conception tread as we were doing our first Ivf cycle after TTC for 2.5 years, unfortunately it failed so feel a bit lost over there now and been stalking the LTTTC thread. I think anyone who has a struggle to conceive go through the same emotions and heart ache. We're all on this site for the same reason, support.

X

 

[LillyTame]

Thank you ladies for being so kind to me...I was a little worried when I posted lol But I was having a rough day yesterday. Maybe I will start a new thread "TTC over 1 yr" when I finally reach that mark (I would feel like a cheat if I started before then )...I currently have some threads already going with some great ladies, some of them will be hitting that 1 yr mark too soon. Out of my group of 4 original TTC buddies I am the last one still waiting for my BFP, we have 2 babies due any day now.

OH has low count and low motility, our answer may be IUI but it's not done on the island I am on. We are planning on moving back to the mainland in another year and that's when we will pursue IUI. Le sigh

I hope myself and you ladies aren't still TTC in Jan, but if we are I will be sure to come back and invite you to that thread

 

[madtowngirl]

I have just hit the 1 year mark, and I'm here. I've not been trying as long as many of the ladies here, but I feel waaaaaaay more at "home" here than in any other forum. I think it's because the ladies here understand how this starts to consume your life, and how it starts to get really discouraging.

There's a lot less of that "just have a positive attitude" and "just relax" stuff here. I get the sentiment behind it, but I need to be with other realistic women. It's not that we don't have hope, we all do, but we also aren't pumping false hope out, either.

 

[wannabemummyb]

Thank you ladies for being so kind to me...I was a little worried when I posted lol But I was having a rough day yesterday. Maybe I will start a new thread "TTC over 1 yr" when I finally reach that mark (I would feel like a cheat if I started before then )...I currently have some threads already going with some great ladies, some of them will be hitting that 1 yr mark too soon. Out of my group of 4 original TTC buddies I am the last one still waiting for my BFP, we have 2 babies due any day now.

OH has low count and low motility, our answer may be IUI but it's not done on the island I am on. We are planning on moving back to the mainland in another year and that's when we will pursue IUI. Le sigh

I hope myself and you ladies aren't still TTC in Jan, but if we are I will be sure to come back and invite you to that thread

Sadly i've been part of so many groups and friendships on here and always end up one of the last ones standing. In the last group there are only three of us left from about 12-15 ladies!

I genuinely hope you all get your bfps though

 

[Destined2BMom]

I think it's different for everyone what is considered LTTTC. When we were ttc for 1 year I thought it was SO LONG and now that it's been 3+ years it feels like forever. Hoping we all get BFPs soon!

 

[lilmissmup]

Hey Lilly.

I have been off contraception for 2.5 years now and its coming up to 12 months of using opks/charting/checking EWCM and many other things for us!

I know what you mean about the trying to concieve threads....

I plan on posting on here from next month.

Hoping to start testing soon, just got to register at my new doctors and then hopefully be on our way!

 

[LillyTame]

Another cycle down (temp drop and spotting today, so far)...last month to the one year mark

 

[LoveCakes]

Hey LillyTame, in the nicest possible way I hope you don't end up here.

I voted 1 year as this is when doctors start to condier it too long. I knew I'd end up here before the one year mark due to tests/ treatments (I managed to convince GP to refer me after 6 months ttc as it was so obvious something was wrong).

It is a bit of a subjective thing though, the longer it goes on the differently you look at it. At one year gone I felt completely differently from 2 years gone.