When do you tell your kids the truth?

[mumof2girls]

Hi I have a 9 year old step son but he is extremely naive to the point that he still "fed" the fairies at the bottom of the garden with Nana until he was 7!

My question is do you tell your kids the truth about santa or do we wait till some kid at school says it? I really think Jack will find out this year because all his friends dont believe anymore so when he is going on about santa I just know some kids will blurt it out!

Im worried coz I have a 4 and a 1 year old and obviously want to keep the magic in it for them, I would like to keep the magic in it for Jack forever but I know thats not gonna happen!

Help please mummies!!

xx

 

[Cariad_bach]

NEVER!!

Ok well i don't plan on ever doing really ...

With my stepson (now 13) and my lil sis (now 17) they both 'found out' over the years at school .. it was never really spoken about, just that you start mentioning Santa etc instead of a smile they roll their eyes and you smirk at them .. but you still both carry on with the pretence, thats what im hoping will happen with mine,

I remember being awake one night as a child when my dad brought my stocking in to my room ... i must have kind of known because i wasn't disappointed but its stuck in my head .. the moment i knew for definite, i still got up Christmas morning and bought into all the pretence

 

[24/7]

We never got told, but in the end just knew, but never stopped the santa related traditions as it made it magical still. xx

 

[hopeandpray]

hmm it's a tricky one. yoy dont wane them to find outin a bad way. my little sister found out when another mum took her and her friend shopping when they were about 11 and went to buy the younger kids santa toys. i felt so bad for her as it was the week before christmas

 

[xxHollaxx88]

cnt remember how old i was, but my OHs brother was nearly 13 lol, still dunno if he believes, cus he did last year lol x

 

[tiggertea]

My younger bro and I just sort of "found out", but "Santa" still came to our house anyway, even right up til I got married and left home we referred to our gifts from mum and dad as "Santa Presents"....

 

[Tegans Mama]

I'll never actually tell my kids that Santa is not real - I will let them find out themselves and confirm it when they ask if they're old enough in my eyes. Also, my sister believed in Santa until she was the grand age of 13 - I moved out of home at 17, the year my sister turned 13, so we were still having presents from Santa then

 

[babyno9]

I will never tell them as such but i'll let them find out on their own and when they ask i'll tell them. My 8 year old hasn't believed for a couple of years but she still 'pretends' for her younger siblings.

 

[leeanne]

I was talking to my OH about this. My almost 9 year old has been getting a bit skeptical and has been asking questions for the past 2 years. She's even caught me out on a few things.

I don't think I will ever tell her. She will just know and outgrow it.

 

[shiawase]

My nan told my sister he wasnt real when she was 5 we were not impressed. I wont be telling liam atall!

 

[leeanne]

My nan told my sister he wasnt real when she was 5 we were not impressed. I wont be telling liam atall!

I detest when parents do this. (Yes, sometimes they have no choice as older sibling will tell younger ones.) It wrecks it for the other kids too. My daughter was being told at that age that there was no Santa.

 

[Midnight_Fairy]

My son is 6 and still believes. He would even believe if someone told him as he does not get the "gist"

My daughter still believes too. x

 

[kiwimama]

I think kids just outgrow it when they are ready.

 

[mommyof3co]

Landon is 7 1/2 and still believes, doesn't even question it, I don't plan to ever tell them, when he finds out he finds out and we will make sure he keeps it a secret from any other kids that believe and his brothers.

 

[rowleypolie]

my mom told me at 10 and asked me to be her santas little helper that way i would keep the magic alive for my younger brothers. She would have me write out cards from santa or something so i would get excited- my little brother was only 2 at the time and he believed in santa until he was 8-9 years old so we did a good job keeping it alive- if you dont want him to know you could always say so and so doesnt believe in santa so he doesnt go to their houses and their mommy and daddy have to buy the presents- that always keeps the magic alive

 

[joeyjo]

Mum told me when I was 8 - mainly coz I skipped a year in school so I went from year 3 where most kids believed to year 5 where basically no kids would believe.

She told me in October so well away from Xmas

we kept the story going for my brother & cousins

I guess I'd started to suspect because i'd been thinking how. Santa had longer than a usual night because of time zo es and stuff but it stilldidnt seem possible to go everywhere in the world

 

[Blah11]

Im gonna wait til amelie figures it out for herself. I found out whilst at brownies and I read a leaflet for the parents and it said something about how bad it is when you find out santa isnt real My little brother was 9 or 10 before he clicked on LOL

 

[Laura2919]

We never got told, but in the end just knew, but never stopped the santa related traditions as it made it magical still. xx

The same as us really.. We still continued to write to santa and we still do but now we do it for the younger children like my niece and my girls. Still makes it feel special.

So I am going to do that

 

[mandy81]

I don't think I would be able to tell sophie-lou and Dylan, so i'm just going to let it go on for as long as possible.

In saying that sophie-louise is 8 next friday so I really don't know how long I have left with her believing in santa, makes me a little sad really xxx

 

[morri]

When I was 15 my side of the family moved in with my mother partner and he had 2 small kids(3 and 6) and we always had to be careful liek saying thanks to father christmas et. with the years as the kids got older we were allowed to be mor elax about it.I think you can't help if your youngest is stopping believing earlier than you earlier kids.