When is a good time to start dating again? Single mum!

[Cherrybump]

Hey ladies, Wasnt to sure where to post this and well right now im feeling bit down and lonely.

FOB is going to be helping out with the little one when she arrives which is great. We going to remain friends and there is no chance of us getting back together. We live together just now and im looking for another flat big enough for me and her. I told FOB he can keep this flat since its a one bedroom and i would prefer another house. So i get to leave all old memories here and have a fresh start.

Anyways im curious to know when you ladies think its a good idea to move on and start dating again?

I am interested in someone but because im pregnant and all hormones are crazy just now im feeling bit off to i would like to move on and find someone better but with me expecting she will always come first in my eyes no matter what.

To me i feel like i should wait until she is at least few months to a year old but i dunno lol

any help would be great thanks xx

 

[Jade--x]

I think its whenever you feel ready. Regardless of whether you start dating when you're pregnant or in 11 years your LO will always come first regardless so that's neither here nor there really

I got into another relationship when I was pregnant, I didn't do any dating at all though (I was way too ill) I just ended up getting really close to a friend I'd know quite a while who was there for me through thick and thin during my pregnancy and it turned into a relationship x

 

[Cherrybump]

Thats how i am with my friend just now. I feel pretty close to him and i think things could be more just nervous about moving on. lol

Thanks hun xx

 

[Jade--x]

I'd say just go with the flow and see what happens if it feels right go for it if not put the brakes on a little until you feel you're ready x

 

[Cherrybump]

Thanks hun. Think ive just been holding myself off because of being pregnant to my ex and thinking who would wanna go out with a pregnant lassie who's having another guy kid. Must be all in my head this and i need to give myself a break and enjoy things a bit more xx

 

[MorganEvans]

Well, you can go dating even when pregnant It really does depend on when you feel comfortable about it yourself.

 

[Flowers Jasmn]

I suggest that you give birth first, wait for kid to grow up may be a year or so before you get back into the dating business. But if your body cannot manage this, you can start dating 4 months after delivery.

 

[Dezireey]

Personally for me,( unless it's your circumstance where you have a friend and he is sticking around), I am just going to wait it out for at least a year or two. Firstly when my boy was born, there was no chance in hell, even now at 8 months that I felt sexy enough, awake enough or keen enough to date someone. You are just sooo busy with a newborn its unreal and my LO is a pretty easy going baby so it's a 24 \7 job. That's why babies can put strain on normal relationships and marriages...the woman has no time for her husband at all. I am also still a teensy bit heartbroken about my ex, so am far from being over him too, so that takes time.

My LO goes to nursery end of the year and I start a whole new life at University. Even if I don't meet the man of my dreams, I'll get to meet new friends and that's a start to meeting a new man (hopefully

If your male friend sticks around through the birth and long after hun then he sounds like a keeper, so good luck and hope things all turn out okay for you.

 

[Cherrybump]

Thank you hun. You guys are defo giving me alot to think about. Just talking to him helps me de-stress from worrying about things that are going on.

I appericate each comment you guys are leaving and wont be making any sudden moves xxx

 

[karmapolice]

Me and my ex seperated three months ago and I am already sort of seeing somebody. I have three kids (4 3 and nearly 8 months) and 26 weeks pregnant. We have known each other for years and we were going out when we were at school so I think it is kinda different.

 

[Cherrybump]

Thanks ladies. Im actaully meeting up with this guy on tuesday after work that i have been friends with for good few yesterday. I quite like him but will take this pretty slow and see what happens. Tbh the FOB is kinda of pushing me to meet up with him also which must be a good sign. I appericate all your comments ladies xx