When should i tell him?

[sweetsammi]

I'm sure you all read my last post in here and if so you'll know I have plans of moving from Leicester to Essex as my OH is from and works there...I don't know when or how I should go about telling Oliver's dad because of the way things are at the moment. There's never going to be a good time and however i tell him its gonna be hell and he'll never stop threatning me etc.x

 

[lauren-kate]

I wrote a bit of how I did it in a Facebook message to you (I think?) - but I focussed a lot on how it would benefit Ryan; how he would have more space, be a lot calmer because we wouldn't be living in the same house as both my parents and my teenage brother, would have more time for him, etc. But I think you should do it soon, so he has some time to get used to the idea (hahaha... yeah, like it worked for me..). At least you can say you tried explaining and being nice about it though. x

 

[sweetsammi]

We#re going to start lookin for houses next month. I want to tell him asap but he'll just think i'm doing it all deliberatly, tryin to take Oli away from him.x

 

[xarlenex]

He doesn't make all that great of effort to see Oliver does he? Anything I've read its a case of 'as and when it suits him'. Maybe the distance will scare him a little into wanting to actually keep him the full day and not bringing him back hours early!

As for telling him, I guess the sooner the better. But don't try be as considerate as possible when telling him, then he can't accuse you of being nasty or anything.

 

[MoonMuffin]

Just posted in your other thread, but don't let him get to you. His threats are empty, there is nothing he can do. You are the one caring for your son, and maybe if he was making more of an effort with oliver he'd have something, but he's got nothing. Just keep in mind what is best for Oliver, and if that's moving, then go for it.