where to go from here??

[wantingno.2]

Some of you may remember me asking a coupe of weeks ago if myself and my husband were being resonable to his ex as she was going to a solicitor about maintenance and access.

Well it's been a few weeks and we've not heard anything so last night he asked her if he could take his son for the usual week at easter as we wanted to book train ticket (in advance, as cheaper) and 3 hours later she still hadnt come back to him.

to put into perspective it cost us £85 to collect his son and £85 to retuen him these train tickets were £75 for 2 journeys.

Anyway he went ahead and booked them and told her .... and she went mad, said she wont agree to it yet and i'm sure now will make it awkward for us to take him at that time. She also said that she is taking full responability for her son and that she dosent want a penny from us ever again, she wont stop him seeing him, but she wants nothing more to do with my husband.

I think what has happened is that she has spoken to her solicitor and he has told her that she wont be able to claim anything from my husband because he is a full time student and that she may also by taking it to court have to make some of the journeys herself to bring their son to us.

My husband has told her that he cant afford the usual 200 hundred but we will put 130 into her bank on the usual date.... she said she dosent want it and not to bother.

We are going to put the money in anyway but what do you think we should do from here???? although she's said she wont stop him seeing his son, i dont think she's going to make it easy. My husband is very worried.

 

[billy2mm]

i would get a solicitor and try to get an agreement in writing about when your oh sees the lo and how much he pays.

its a very good idea for him to still continue to pay even when she says she doesnt want it coz if/when it comes to court if he had stopped paying like she asked it wouldnt look good and she could easily say it was his decision to not pay and she needed the money blah blah blah blah

 

[jess_smurf]

she is entitled to 15% if his net income for CM, so i would get him to still pay her every month as its for his child to support

sorry she is being funny about you ordering tickets, but there maybe some stuff that has gone on with them in the past that has really upset her and she cant let go

i know i am still fuming with fob and dont feel like i could ever forgive him

i think you should have waited for a response about train tickets rather than just booking them, would have annoyed me too a bit

 

[wantingno.2]

she is entitled to 15% if his net income for CM, so i .would get him to still pay her every month as its for his child to support

sorry she is being funny about you ordering tickets, but there maybe some stuff that has gone on with them in the past that has really upset her and she cant let go

i know i am still fuming with fob and dont feel like i could ever forgive him

i think you should have waited for a response about train tickets rather than just booking them, would have annoyed me too a bit

Nothing has happened between them, she left him a long long time ago, he has always supported and always will support his child, he loves him very much. The only gripe she has is that we cant afford the usual amount because my husband is at uni to try better his job which go the long term will benefit up all including his son. I understand that not all men are as compliant, but not everyone is the same and I honestly hand on heart believe my husband has always been completely supportive yes they have had there arguments, everyone does, including ourselves but this time she is just being unreasonable, he's tried to to reason with her and even though he is very upset and angry with her he has still only been nothing but calm with her. With the tickets I dont think it was her intention to reply and only did when we said we'd booked them. Train tickets seem to change daily as we've have found out before to our cost, I dont really think we had a choice and it really isnt anydifferent to want we have done for the past 6years