Hi Natsby,
That's such brave and honest question you pose.
I used to be a combination of complete and utter stress AND hopefulness each month. After we got DH's results (no sperm in ejaculate) and we knew there was no hope AT ALL of conceiving naturally, we've been left in a sort of limbo.
We're waiting for his TESE (where they make incisions in his testes to see if there are any, very low percentage of success) and we'll know then if we have a shot at ICSI. It's our only chance of having our own baby, so I have a little hope to cling on to. But as the odds are stacked against us, I have to try and be realistic here and I'm doing my best to see a future without children (we're not sure about using a donor).
Since the diagnosis, it's amazing how the TTC stress just disappeared. Although this stress was replaced with the utter heart-breaking disappointment. I'm pretty sure the stress will be back on the day of the op and even more so when we get the results. I have to keep reminding myself that it's out of our hands.
I know there's hope, but as someone said to me recently, it's the hope that kills ya!
Aah, I'm going to stop being a moaning minnie bringing you all down.
Big
to all of you,
C xx