Who here is special enough to have 2 sets of inlaws?

[lillylollypop]

Anyone else lucky?lol

 

[Rahma]

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[MommyFirefly]

I honestly feel like I have THREE sets. I have the MIL/stepdad and FIL/stepmom. Most of the time I really like them, sometimes they drive me insane. And then I have my OH's aunt, who likes to say OH "feels like HER son". She can tend to be too much for me. Especially when she tries to take on the role of an additional MIL.

 

[modified]

If there's one good thing about my recent split, it's getting rid of MIL!

 

[lillylollypop]

? Luckily I dont have any family to worry about!

 

[ToughhGal]

Totally me! His mom is pretty okay but can be overbearing and likes to nudge in too much! His stepdad is quiet and just a normal guy.

His dad and stepmom are snooty, enough said.

 

[MommyFirefly]

lillylollypop~ she sounds just as frustrating as my husband's aunt. she's freaking out over us buying so many new things. we're buying a lot of pre-loved stuff for the cost factor, but if i'm not going to just NOT buy something new if i love it. yesterday we went to visit her and she offered me a cup of coffee. while i was drinking it, she was telling me all the horrible reasons why i shouldn't be drinking it! it stressed me out so much that i couldn't finish my cup.

i don't think that it's crazy to not want guests to come flooding into your home right after you've had a baby. i have the same plan! i also don't want a lot of people coming to visit me in the hospital/be there while i'm giving birth. haven't told anyone that's how i feel. can't WAIT to see how that goes over.

 

[lillylollypop]

lillylollypop~ she sounds just as frustrating as my husband's aunt. she's freaking out over us buying so many new things. we're buying a lot of pre-loved stuff for the cost factor, but if i'm not going to just NOT buy something new if i love it. yesterday we went to visit her and she offered me a cup of coffee. while i was drinking it, she was telling me all the horrible reasons why i shouldn't be drinking it! it stressed me out so much that i couldn't finish my cup.

i don't think that it's crazy to not want guests to come flooding into your home right after you've had a baby. i have the same plan! i also don't want a lot of people coming to visit me in the hospital/be there while i'm giving birth. haven't told anyone that's how i feel. can't WAIT to see how that goes over.

Its crazy right? Like okay I get it, new baby. But still, we all know the novelty of it will wear off soon enough and they won't care as much a few months down the road. So why do I have to suffer when im at my most fragile? Just because its new and exciting? Wait a week for me to figure out how the heck to care for this thing and then we can talk! So far they are expecting me to let his grandfather( whom i've never met) come to homebirth along with almost 6/7 other people. We live in a small place. This is exactly why I'm doing a homebirth... ugh. just driving me crazy... Glad im not alone!

 

[TryinFor1]

Stick to your guns. I don't have two sets but my mil is enough. She was here every single day for like two weeks after lo was born, constantly wanting to hold him and mess with him. Like, I just carried him for nine months, I would like to hold him!! Dh just kept inviting her over till I snapped one day and she finally quit. It won't be happening with this baby. People can visit after we get home from the hospital and not for a long time. I will be getting used to taking care of a toddler and newborn so I want people who are just going to smother the situation out!

 

[shinona]

Me! I adore my fil and his wife but unfortunately they live abroad. My step mil has never had kids but is always supportive and interested in helping and knowing more. My mil is a pain in the tonsils and drives me nuts a lot of the time. She's got worse in the last year so no idea what it's going to be like when this baby is born. Unfortunately she lives round the corner. I love my step fil but he is overpowered by her and says very little.

 

[lillylollypop]

Does anyones partners stand up for you? Like to ward off the inlaws? I feel like im alone in this struggle.

I finally sent a message to my MIL whom I love so dearly. I told her I need atleast a week off before we will be accepting visitors. She didn't even bat an eye. This woman has had 6 births, she understands. I'm so happy, I was really having a panic attack!

 

[shinona]

Yes, he does but mostly because he gets so frustrated with her too.

When I was pregnant with my first my mil announced when I was about 36 weeks that she intended to come to the hospital and wait til I had lo. Basically cos she loves drama and wanted to be the first to see lo. Luckily, my dh told her that we didn't want anyone at the hospital and if she insisted then we wouldn't be telling her when I went into labour. She came to the hospital when she was invited the next day x