Who would've thought it?

[Clareybeary]

4 months no contraception, BD'ing almost everyday and not a bean!!!!! Seriously, they definitely don't teach this in schools do they? They made it sound like if you missed one pill, you would get pregnant straight away. Also, why don't they teach you that there's actually only a few days a month that you might actually concieve. It's ridiculous!!!!! Nothing to do now but and wait for those days!!! Anyone else just starting a new cycle with me? How are you feeling/coping? Still, on a positive note, haven't had alcohol for the last 2 weeks and am definitely boozing it up tonight!!!!!

 

[Tattoo]

I'm on day 4 of cycle nine.
I know what you mean! When I think of all the stress and worry about taking my pills at exactly the right time every day, making sure I had the next pack of pills in plenty of time, never missing a pill etc etc etc....and now we've had the best part of a year using no contraception, and yet we're not pregnant!

 

[pooch]

the thing is is that i got pregnant when i was 22, i was dating a guy and made an appt at the gyn to be put in birth control, and within that month of waiting i got pregnant. it ended in a miscarriage which was a blessing because the guy was a real jerk but now that i'm married and we're trying i thought it would happen straight away and it hasn't. grrrr...

 

[Clareybeary]

I'm 31 and I just feel that maybe we shouldn't have waited for so long. I always thought I'd have my first child at 27 and then subsequent children in my 30's. Now I know for sure I'll be 32 at least before I have my 1st and then goodness knows what age for the rest of the family! To be honest, I'm very happy with my DH - we get on really well as a couple and enjoy our time alone, we go travelling different places on holiday and if we had kids we wouldn't be able to do that would we?! It'll happen when it happens eh....

 

[ShireLass]

I think they tell you how easy it is (and that you can even get pregnant on your period!) because otherwise they would have a classroom full of children/teens going "oooo it's hard to get pregnant, let's try this sex thing".

There should be some point when you're deemed responsible enough though and they hand you a leaflet saying "The truth!" where they explain how to have safe sex at the right times to avoid or encourage pregnancy. Like a conspiracy lol

 

[PocoHR]

I think they tell you how easy it is (and that you can even get pregnant on your period!) because otherwise they would have a classroom full of children/teens going "oooo it's hard to get pregnant, let's try this sex thing".

There should be some point when you're deemed responsible enough though and they hand you a leaflet saying "The truth!" where they explain how to have safe sex at the right times to avoid or encourage pregnancy. Like a conspiracy lol

Hahah, I like that idea. I think you are right too, they really can't tell teenagers that its hard to get pregnant, or else loads more would accidentally end up knocked up! But, I think when you are older and married, your mom or aunts or gynecologist should tell you...so actually it takes time. I found it really comforting to know that it took my aunt five years to conceive her first, and it took my mom 1 1/2 years to conceive my brother. It wasn't like that for them with every pregnancy, but its good to know from reliable sources that yes, sometimes it doesn't happen at the drop of a hat (or a drop of knickers ), but it will happen!

 

[monalisa81]

14 months of no contraception, perfect timing of intercourse, but still nothing!
If I knew it'd take this long I would have come off the pill at least 1 year before trying.

 

[Clareybeary]

14 months of no contraception, perfect timing of intercourse, but still nothing!
If I knew it'd take this long I would have come off the pill at least 1 year before trying.

Sooooo true. I feel like telling every newly wed around me the TRUTH as I feel like I didn't know the truth until 4 months ago!!!

 

[Lyra]

I think they tell you how easy it is (and that you can even get pregnant on your period!) because otherwise they would have a classroom full of children/teens going "oooo it's hard to get pregnant, let's try this sex thing".

There should be some point when you're deemed responsible enough though and they hand you a leaflet saying "The truth!" where they explain how to have safe sex at the right times to avoid or encourage pregnancy. Like a conspiracy lol

YES! That's all so true! It does come as a revelation when you realise you only have a 25% chance of conceiving, even if you had sex in the correct few days a month you're fertile!

I would always stress about missing a pill, abstained whenever I'd been on antibiotics - oh and wasted about loads of money on the morning after pill earlier in the relationship when we'd been using condoms! Wish I hadn't bothered stressing so much then.

But then again, you watch Jeremy Kyle and everyone gets pregnant within 5 minutes of meeting, so there you go....!

 

[Clareybeary]

LOL


I did have a chat to my mate about when she'll be starting to TTC (she got married a couple of months ago and is 33/34 years old. Her DH wants to wait as they've only been together for a year and I guess he wants to enjoy time alone before the pitter patter of tiny feet. I did warn her though that having kids isn't that easy for everyone. Mind you, she might be the lucky ones but I hope she bears it in mind. I definitely would have come off BC months before TTC if I'd known then what I know now!!!!

 

[Tattoo]

I definitely would have come off BC months before TTC if I'd known then what I know now!!!!

Totally!

 

[Lisa92881]

Yes!! I came off birth control after our honeymoon in October, b/c I didn't want to risk being even a little pregnant at our wedding or on our honeymoon (read: I wanted to party!!). Now I wish I had stopped taking them so much sooner!! ARGH!

to all!!

 

[aimze]

Can I join you guys! Cycle 5 and nothing yet! I completely agree about the education thing, Grrrr!!! We put TTC on hold as we booked a trip to Cuba so didnt want to be pregnant when we were there, well I could have started trying wellllll before now! x

 

[morri]

sigh. the law of inverse fertility this is my dear

 

[morri]

https://static.tvtropes.org/pmwiki/pub/images/129041122701975931.png
red movies , blue real life

 

[Adoraza]

I totally agree. wish i had known this sooner.

 

[NotNic]

I would always stress about missing a pill, abstained whenever I'd been on antibiotics - oh and wasted about loads of money on the morning after pill earlier in the relationship when we'd been using condoms! Wish I hadn't bothered stressing so much then.

But then again, you watch Jeremy Kyle and everyone gets pregnant within 5 minutes of meeting, so there you go....!

Lyra that was me too!! Hubby has called me up on this one now, and feels a bit cheated that he missed out on quite a few weeks' worth of 'action' in the past six years! I guess the one thing we all know now though, is that it is really difficult to figure out exactly when we are fertile. Even if you do chart, there is still a massive possibility of getting wrong, plus it's common when you first start your periods for them to be irregular. I know when I was a teenager getting up at the same time everyday to take my temps would have been impossible so I think being scared into not taking a gamble was the best thing for me then.

 

[britzy]

I'm 28 been trying for well over 12months off the pill for over two and a half Years and in that time at least four of my friends have fallen pregnant accidentally ,one forgot to take the pill once , one miss judged her cycle by two days, and one took a chance one night thought it'd never happen her. None of them know im actively tryin at this stage it's very disappointing waiting for it to happen. They do say Aw ul have to get the ball rolling now-little do they know! Spent years trying not to get pregnant and then this! We've had a year of not trying not to get pregnant of u know what I mean and well over a year of trying! Hope we all get our little bundles of joy soon! X

 

[MajellaG]

I'm 28 been trying for well over 12months off the pill for over two and a half Years and in that time at least four of my friends have fallen pregnant accidentally ,one forgot to take the pill once , one miss judged her cycle by two days, and one took a chance one night thought it'd never happen her. None of them know im actively tryin at this stage it's very disappointing waiting for it to happen. They do say Aw ul have to get the ball rolling now-little do they know! Spent years trying not to get pregnant and then this! We've had a year of not trying not to get pregnant of u know what I mean and well over a year of trying! Hope we all get our little bundles of joy soon! X

Totally agree with all that been said it's so sickening my friend got pregnant on her wedding nite & I was telling her recently about me TTC & talking about charting & tracking & she didnt have a clue. 'I thought you just did it' she said 'that's wot I done' clueless!!!!
Another thing that really gets me angry is people being so nosey as in above post. People saying no word of you, no wee feet, my mums even been told she's the odd one out now among her friends! It makes my heart break when they comment I'd love to slap them or tell them to shut up! People just don't think before they open there big gobs!

Sorry that wasn't meant to be a rant but kind of turned into one!!!

 

[britzy]

Some people just don't understand. I never thought I would have to understand either though I must say! I honestly thought I'd accidentally fall pregnant. Now it's all blood tests and checkin ovulation sticks. After about 8months of trying my OH was saying I was stressing too much an to relax and it would happen at this stage we joke about it (well I joke about it) I'l say we'l never have a baby at this stage, he knows it'd get to me though!