Background.... my ds was combi fed for 1m and ff thereafter. He has weight gain issues and at 18m is a dinky 19lbs. My reasons for ffing were because my milk failed to come in until about 2 weeks due to pph, lack of bf support and a screaming hungry newborn. I then intended to express 100% but couldn't build my supply and again no support. His weight issues are totally unrelated. No medical problems. He is just a dinly tinker. Perfect as he is.
Anyway, a couple of years before my sis had a baby and chose to ff her. Shame but totally her choice and no judgement from me or family. After my son was born my sister had another baby who had the perfect latch. Beautiful feeder. 3 days in, I got a call to ask if she should ff hbaby because she had the school run to do and didn't want to bf in front of anyone or let her baby scream. I said feed baby before you leave and baby will probably sleep. I get a call later that day saying she has decided to ff her baby as cluster feeding meant she couldn't play with her 4year old. I said your choice but you could arrange for another mum to help with school run temporarily and play dates for her eldest. I must admit whilst I supported her decision I was secretly gutted she chose to ff over something so small and I didn't really feel like I had a choice with my son.
Fast forward to now and I am due September with no2 and I am doing tons of research into bfing so I am prepared e.g only one wet nappy expected on day 1 whereas my mum told me there should be more.
I showed my sister a picture of a dress I have brought for a wedding I have when I am 39 weeks pregnant. I then said I could wear it again to another wedding when baby will be about 10 weeks old. Then I realised it would be impractical for bfing so Isaid 'oh aactually I can't use it for that wedding'. Her first response was about how I won't have lost enough weight to buy a smaller dress. So I said no its not that, its that its impractical for bfing. So she said 'you might chose to ff so it's really an irrelevant issue'
This really annoyed me but I jist shrugged. All her comments whenever I mention bfing involve her telling me how I should ff or thay bfing isn't guaranteed to make you lose weight and how much extra I will need to eat to be able to maintain bfing so I shouldn't expect to lose weight.
I just feel like she wants me to fail at bfing or wants me to chose to ff. I am being pragmatic about bfing and I know it won't be easy at first. Especially as she.reminds me that I have a toddler.i can't neglect. But I also know once we've settled in and got a routine going then.it won't be as hard. And dh is fully supportive of me. My mum is being more supporti this time and I now know many mums who successfully bf their children so all in all its very positive.
Why does she have to want me to fail? She has friends who bf and all I get told is how they have t eat.sp much more food or how bad their sleep is etc. She won't say anything positive.
It drags me down and makes me feel destined to fail.
Anyway, a couple of years before my sis had a baby and chose to ff her. Shame but totally her choice and no judgement from me or family. After my son was born my sister had another baby who had the perfect latch. Beautiful feeder. 3 days in, I got a call to ask if she should ff hbaby because she had the school run to do and didn't want to bf in front of anyone or let her baby scream. I said feed baby before you leave and baby will probably sleep. I get a call later that day saying she has decided to ff her baby as cluster feeding meant she couldn't play with her 4year old. I said your choice but you could arrange for another mum to help with school run temporarily and play dates for her eldest. I must admit whilst I supported her decision I was secretly gutted she chose to ff over something so small and I didn't really feel like I had a choice with my son.
Fast forward to now and I am due September with no2 and I am doing tons of research into bfing so I am prepared e.g only one wet nappy expected on day 1 whereas my mum told me there should be more.
I showed my sister a picture of a dress I have brought for a wedding I have when I am 39 weeks pregnant. I then said I could wear it again to another wedding when baby will be about 10 weeks old. Then I realised it would be impractical for bfing so Isaid 'oh aactually I can't use it for that wedding'. Her first response was about how I won't have lost enough weight to buy a smaller dress. So I said no its not that, its that its impractical for bfing. So she said 'you might chose to ff so it's really an irrelevant issue'
This really annoyed me but I jist shrugged. All her comments whenever I mention bfing involve her telling me how I should ff or thay bfing isn't guaranteed to make you lose weight and how much extra I will need to eat to be able to maintain bfing so I shouldn't expect to lose weight.
I just feel like she wants me to fail at bfing or wants me to chose to ff. I am being pragmatic about bfing and I know it won't be easy at first. Especially as she.reminds me that I have a toddler.i can't neglect. But I also know once we've settled in and got a routine going then.it won't be as hard. And dh is fully supportive of me. My mum is being more supporti this time and I now know many mums who successfully bf their children so all in all its very positive.
Why does she have to want me to fail? She has friends who bf and all I get told is how they have t eat.sp much more food or how bad their sleep is etc. She won't say anything positive.
It drags me down and makes me feel destined to fail.
where there's a will there's a way! We had awful latch issues for ages but we got through it and were still going! There were times when I almost gave up but I'm so glad we didn't. Maybe everyone is just trying to stop you feeling bad if it doesn't work out. Or maybe they don't really understand all the benefits of breastfeeding so don't see the advantage. Either way don't let anyone put you off, breastfeeding my son is my proudest achievement and I am so glad I didn't let anyone's comments or our difficulties get in the way!
