Why Can't I Get Over It?

[BlueWater]

So I left my last job 4 months ago, and I've been at my new job for 4 weeks.
I absolutely love my new job: great hours, great money and great co-workers.
But I still feel sad about leaving my last job. I just can't get over feeling blue about it!
My reason for leaving my last job was because I was upset about how the company was going. I took it to heart, and thought, "that's it I'm leaving"... cried about it in the office on the Friday and handed in my notice on the Monday.
My plan was never to leave, in fact I actually got a promotion there, so was really happy there.
But it was just the one moment, that made me feel like leaving.

Now I look back and feel sad. I don't regret leaving. But leaving was never my intention. And I was happy about my promotion.
Yet I was happy to leave, and could not imagine staying with the company.

So why do I still feel sad when I think about my last job?

(Had my heart in my last job - feel like I've broken up with a boyfriend!)

 

[Noodlebear]

I'm in a similar position except that my last job was shit Long, unsociable hours, there were few perks and I had zero job security..... But I loved it!! I loved the people I worked with, the people I met etc. I miss it all the time but I know I'd be absolutely bonkers to consider going back, especially as I have a chance to progress within my current job. Just one of those things.

 

[Rachel_C]

I think it's normal too. I still dream about working at my last two jobs... and I left them in 2007 and 2008! I spend my nights dreaming about stacking books .

If you enjoyed your time there, it is almost like a relationship. It takes up a lot of your time, you talk about it to friends and family, you make friends with your colleagues etc. Nothing wrong in missing it, particularly when you left for reasons like yours. I also think that when you get a new job, the first few weeks are great, then you get that inbetween bit where you're starting to miss the familiarity of your old job so maybe that's what you're in now. You do come out the other side though!

 

[mandy_grovie1]

Our workplace becomes our home away from home. We spend so much time there, and when we finally leave, it makes us feel sad! It's like turning a new page or chapter in our lives. Even though we are happy to move forward, reminiscing about a past time in our life makes us feel nostalgic. It's like an old lover or ex-friend, there was a reason why things ended and even if we have accepted that reason and have moved on to happier and better things, we still look back and miss the good times. It's totally normal, hun, and it will fade and you'll look back on it with much more acceptance and happiness than you do now.

 

[BlueWater]

Thank you every body for your replies! And you're right

Our workplace becomes our home away from home.

and

If you enjoyed your time there, it is almost like a relationship.

Yes I think what I was missing was my co-workers. But now, after 8 weeks in my new job, I know I have made the best decision ever.
My manager is actually the best manager I have ever had, supportive towards my training, encouraging, and she even said she's "lucky" to have an employee like me! I'm sure as time goes on, I will feel more at home!

Spoiler

P.s. My old manager is an *** who even tried to ruin my chances of getting a new job. With her rubbish management skills but thankfully my new manager saw passed it!!