Why did she grab my boob?

[JayleighAnn]

The midwife came round yesterday to check on Halen and I mentioned that he seemed to find it hard to stay latched on (he's doing fine now, think he just found it a bit hard to get the hang of it)

She grabbed my boob and tried to force my nipple into his mouth? Didn't ask, just grabbed, I didn't really know what to do and just sat there a bit gob smacked.

He screamed and wouldn't go anywhere near my boob, then when she finally let go and gave up, he went sleep.

He had fed for 14 mins half hour before so wasn't hungry anyway, but why on earth did she feel the need to do this??

I don't really know what to say if the next midwife who is coming today does this as well??

 

[vicwick]

The midwife came round yesterday to check on Halen and I mentioned that he seemed to find it hard to stay latched on (he's doing fine now, think he just found it a bit hard to get the hang of it)

She grabbed my boob and tried to force my nipple into his mouth? Didn't ask, just grabbed, I didn't really know what to do and just sat there a bit gob smacked.

He screamed and wouldn't go anywhere near my boob, then when she finally let go and gave up, he went sleep.

He had fed for 14 mins half hour before so wasn't hungry anyway, but why on earth did she feel the need to do this??

I don't really know what to say if the next midwife who is coming today does this as well??

I would complain hun she shouldn't of done that at all!!! She should be advising you on what to do then maybe watch how he's latching and then once she ASKED PERMISSION try to help if thats what you wanted!!!!

I would of slapped her cheeky mare!!!

 

[JayleighAnn]

She didn't ask permission, just rammed my nipple down his throat cow wish I'd said something to her but was a bit shocked that she'd just done it

 

[Mervs Mum]

If you need help and she wants to physically show you, she should be asking first. Cheeky bitch. MWs need to sort this out....pisses me right off. Just because you're using your breast to do a job doesnt mean it's no longer part of your body or personal space....

Before anyone one else starts I'd say something like that too her - just remind her it may be 'just another boob' to her but it's YOUR boob.

 

[Mervs Mum]

She didn't ask permission, just rammed my nipple down his throat cow wish I'd said something to her but was a bit shocked that she'd just done it

The only thing I would say is that sometimes you need to be a bit forceful when latching. It might seem like she's ramming it down his throat but she's probably just trying to get him latched as his mouth is at just the right point.

She still shouldnt be man handling you like that

 

[JayleighAnn]

She didn't ask permission, just rammed my nipple down his throat cow wish I'd said something to her but was a bit shocked that she'd just done it

The only thing I would say is that sometimes you need to be a bit forceful when latching. It might seem like she's ramming it down his throat but she's probably just trying to get him latched as his mouth is at just the right point.

She still shouldnt be man handling you like that

He's latching on really well today thankfully.

Just can't believe she just reached over and grabbed my boob, I was so shocked how casually she did it.

 

[Mervs Mum]

Good stuff He's gorgeous BTW Congrats x

 

[JayleighAnn]

Ty

Looks are deceiving lol he wont sleep by himself so I've not really slept since I've had him lol

 

[Mervs Mum]

Aww...I know it's easy for me to say as I'm sat here having not had a broken night in months but I felt I missed out on some bonding time with my LO. She slept through the night from 3 weeks and I remember the times me and my eldest were up in the night BFing, as part of getting to know her on my own....

Did you ever think you'd hear anyone saying they were jealous that you were up in the night...

 

[JayleighAnn]

Lol I don't mind getting up in the night cause I like watching his face as he feeds and sleeps, it's in the morning when I'm shattered I mind lol

He will only sleep in bed with me, god knows how he takes up so much room cause he's tiny, but me and OH are squished up to the side all night lol

 

[asacia]

You could always phone the office and let them know. She is probably so used to other peoples boobs and nipples that she didn't think. You could ask them to have a word with her, and remind her to be a bit more polite and respectful.

 

[Logiebear]

Oh he is only 2 days old, the gorgeous little thing. It is tough being so much in those early days Good luck and give that mw a piece of your mind xxx

 

[Sonyax]

Jess has trouble staying on when I really full or when he's tired I wouldn't worry too much just keep re latching...
that mw!!!! wow even if she was gonna grab your hand to do something she'd have to ask first.
I had a mw in hospital who was helping me and was a bit rougher with my nipples than I thought she should be but that reminded me that my nipples aren't as delicate as I thought, but she was doing something that I had asked her too check (i needed a hand geting more of my nipple in his mouth) and was explaining it all the time.

I would definatly say something to someone even if you just mention that it would be great if she asked or explained what she intended to do first.

Congrats on your first two days get lots of rest xx

 

[JayleighAnn]

Another midwife has just been round and said my latch is fine, he is doing really well for 2 days old, looks a bit yellow but nothing to worry about

 

[Samantha675]

How terribly rude. She had no right not to ask you first. UGH!

If he is a bit jaundice, get some sunlight on him. Strip him down, and head out side if it is warm enough, do about 5 minutes on his front and his back, and it will clear up quickly.

My son is 13 months old, and he still sleeps with me. I love it

 

[hayley x]

Omg I'm actually disgusted to read that!! How disrespectful. When I was having trouble with my Little man latching on after so many people trying to help one midwife said please excuse me I should never do this then tried what you just said your midwife did. But it really was last resort as everything else was failing!! I think I would complain. xxx

 

[Abz1982]

almost every midwife at the hosital grabbed my boobs some point

 

[Hope22]

When Darwin and I were still in the hospital after he was born, I would visit the NICU every two hours to BF him. We had trouble latching, so they called in a lactation consultant. She breezed in, said hi, and without even telling me her name she reached down, grabbed and squeezed my boob and said 'let's see what kind of supply we've got going here'. I was astounded, and not too pleased, but I didn't say anything to her - I was thankful she was there to help, and didn't want her to leave before we'd solved our problems. Happily she only had to come the one time; the second time I would definitely have covered up and moved further away in anticipation of further boob-grabbing!

Honestly, people do need to learn that pregnant bellies and nursing boobies are NOT any less a part of a woman's body, and are just as private, as all the other bits are. Last time I checked, very few people enjoy being grabbed by strangers!

 

[JayleighAnn]

If he is a bit jaundice, get some sunlight on him. Strip him down, and head out side if it is warm enough, do about 5 minutes on his front and his back, and it will clear up quickly.

Seen the doctor today for his baby check up and he said he's fine, no jaundice? He doesn't look yellow to me or OH either so I dunno?

 

[Blob]

OMG my MW did this, i just thought it was normal