Why does baby stop moving when hubby feels??

[pcsoph2890]

Last night it was having a right move around and had been for a while, so much that i could see it squirming around in my stomach area.

I called hubby over to feel - and nothing!

He stood there for a few minutes and nothing - so far hubby has felt it move about 3 times in total as whenever i call him over it stops.
Even hubby said it is my imagination it moves as much as i say it does...

Think baby must sence hubbys hand, or me speaking stops it moving..
Does make me laugh as some days it doesn't stop moving around... then when he feels that area it stops completely!!

Does anyone else get this too?? I'm almost 33 weeks now....

 

[dreamer_x]

I used to get this earlier on - you're right, baby can sense his hand, and his hand is something that the baby doesn't recognise! If you put your hand on your stomach and feel baby from the outside, that's okay, baby knows that that's you, but it's notoriously difficult for any body other than the mother to feel the baby kick because as soon as baby feels the warmth and presence of someone else on top of your stomach, they go 'wtf is that' and stop kicking!
If you want your husband to feel baby kick, the only thing I can suggest is get him to feel your stomach a lot. When you're lying in bed, get him to just place his hand on your stomach. Baby will get used to him eventually. My OH has felt baby have a proper good kick about because he can't keep his hands to himself, he's so excited, whenever he's near me, he wants to have his hand on my bump, so baby's got used to him, but she can tell the difference between him and anybody else because no one else has felt her!

Bear in mind that you're the only thing that your baby knows so far! Your voice will be the voice that baby recognises when they arrive! They'll be comfortable with you, but anything else is alien to them!

 

[10.Laura]

My daughter did this all the way through - my husband was able to see the kicks but never felt them. This time, baby likes kicking Daddy - often in the back when we're nearly asleep in bed. I just put it down to different temperments and likes/dislikes.

 

[STL_Fan]

lol .. this is happening to me as well.. i sewer she thinks my insides are a jungle gym..lol.. she can go a lil crazy in there. so when it starts to become over uncomfortable i ask hubby to fill my tummy and she chills out. he never gets to fill her kick but i get a lil break... bahahaha

 

[cruise]

lol this happens to me too. I think it's because I get up and walk over to him to feel baby kick, and the motion of standing & walking makes baby pause a bit. It's like being rocked. I have much better luck if the baby starts kicking when we're both in bed together.

When I recline, I put my ultrabook on top of my stomach and it dances away when baby kicks. He can't accuse that of being imaginary.

 

[pcsoph2890]

I find it funny as my cats like sleeping on my bump, and seeing them being buffeted away by the kicks and movements. Sometimes even they look up as if to say what the F**k was that??

 

[wtbmummy]

We used to have this problem too. Sometimes we still do but not as often now. I think for us its when DH put his hands on my belly n its cold, he used to just stop moving
Now though if either of us put cold hands on my belly (even when he hasnt been kicking) he will then try and kick our hands away or push at them (our baby is more of a wriggler so mostly just rolls his hands n feet along my belly, he very rarely "kicks" as such)

I also tend to prod him a little if he stops when DH comes over to kind of coax him to move again, which he does
DH always has his hand on my bump though, sometimes he will sit with his hand on my belly just whilst we watching TV. So I cant help but wonder if pp is right about getting to know them first

 

[pcsoph2890]

People are possibly right on PP- must admit hubby has only felt the bump when i have told him to when it is moving - he's the kind that it's not really happening for him until it's born... The pne time he felt it he said all he could feel was a heartbeat, which was when you could first start feeling it, and i told him that was the baby. But what with our different shift patterns and we tend to sit on different sofas so i can put my feet up, when i call hnim over or move it stops the baby, so i try to beckon him over when he is around, but as soon as i'm about to get him over it stops again....
Must admit quite like the fact that it's my selfish time with baby at the moment and only me and the baby have this time together, soon he/she will be shared out. It makes it more real to me that it is actually happening...

When hubby does feel he does press down quite hard, which i tell him not to as he will feel the movements just by resting his hand there, but it is probably the most impatient person EVER so he gets frustrated when it doesn't move for him....
But the baby will soon get to know his daddy, i intend to get hubby to have skin on skin contact as soon as possible after the birth, so i can get clean, have a shower etc, and he gets that alone bonding time together and get to know the baby...

 

[MummaMoo]

My fella can rest his hand too hard on the bump too which stops baby moving. The baby does however react a lot when he talks (and boy, can he talk!) men's voices travel through to baby better because their voices are deeper. So if fella talks and places his hand very gently, he can feel movement.

 

[happigail]

The second my husband talk to my belly she goes completely still... it's very sweet!

 

[MelliPaige]

Baby boy does the same thing, when we go to bed or get a chance to sit together I usually put his hand where Leo is with my hand over it and the baby moves like crazy...he's felt a lot more of baby boy that way.

 

[ClairAye]

Last time OH felt movement at 23 weeks, it took ages though and LO rarely moved when he felt/looked. This time OH didn't feel movement until 34 weeks! It's so odd!