Why is he doing this to me

[Becky]

Luke is being such a knob recently well today topped it off

Text at 17:55

'Im guna need u 2 provide a dna sample when u have time!'

Why does he need my DNA surely its Jacobs he is after and why the fuck does he want a DNA test he knows Jacob is his there is no doubt

Text at 18:07

'Im giving u lots of notice, cn I have Jacob nxt sat 2 sun. Ive given u notice ova a week, Im paying child benefit so im entitled to. It is an ofence if you refuse and I will take legal action to resolve this. Thanks'

So in 12 minutes he has decided actually Jacob is his and he now wants to see him! No way is he having him over night sorry but he cant be trusted and i'd like to know who he is paying this money to as we havent seen a penny on it.

I replied saying that he isnt having him over night and he then sent one back being very snappy and saying 'your refusing to let me see him' no I wont let you have him over night slight difference

Text at 19:46

'I also need u to agree to come with me to family mediation to agree acess. If nt then it wud go 2 court unfortunatly and it wud be 4 2 things responsibility and set visits by law and i cn aford 2 nw do that as I cn claim legal aid. So cn we have an arangement'

I hear nothing for a month and now all of this, If he takes me to court im going to fight for supervised visits I assume I can do this?

Sorry for rambing on but he has wound me up and I dont want to give him the benefit of knowing that so im letting it out here x

 

[missjacey44]

Wow he sounds like abit of an idiot. Iv heard that if you are not married fathers dont have many rights and if he hasnt been there for jacob or paid for jacob regularly then you can ask for supervised visits only untill he can be trusted. I dont think he stands much chance hun for taking him over night even if he takes you to court.

 

[xXDonnaXx]

Argh, stupid men! Why do they do this? Dissapear for a while, then come back when they want something. It annoys me. Ask him why he's not bothered until now. See what his pathetic excuse is.

I'd just ignore the text's. I did that with mine and he's not bothered me since. He's got the message. Ha!

 

[Mummy&bump]

as far as wantin ur dna, hel prob b wantin urs because it gives a more accurate outcome with paternity testing im sure!

i wudnt b given him ur lo overnight ither hun! and if hes not bein keepin any payments regular or visits then he prob wud only get supervised visits 2!

xx

 

[Pyrrhic]

tell him to grow up and send it to you all properly in an email rather than in text speak over a phone. That way you'll be able to keep everything he sends you as evidence, should you need it.

 

[polo_princess]

Take him on Jeremy Kyle and embarass him senseless

 

[Becky]

Take him on Jeremy Kyle and embarass him senseless

haha good old Jeremy x

 

[Pops]

You know my thoughts so Ill just send a big

xxx

 

[isil]

it sounds like he's just trying to make things as hard for you as he possibly can. It's so weird though the way that he's implying Jacob isn't his and then suddenly changing his mind and acting like you're taking his child away from him. Who knows what goes on in men's minds...

 

[Katielaura]

story sounds very firmiliar lol men are funny creatures . they always have to be the victim, not show there face for months or even bother to send so much as a text to ask how there child is . then because they have nothing better to do they feel its there mission in life to shit on ur day as much as possible. then you fall for it as you feel its in your childs best intrests to have something to do with there father. and it still doesnt happen coz all they want is the fight lol sorry 4 the rant had a similar text conversation this mornin know how u feel xxx

 

[GersPrincess]

Paying child maintenance doesn't give him legal rights to see his child. Does he have somewhere permanent to live? Where would your baby sleep if it were to stay with him overnight? Has he ever had experience of changing nappies or cleaning/making up bottles? Sounds to me like his parents are pushing him to go legal route so they can see their grandchild.

You stick to your guns, get your own lawyer on legal aid, and go to mediation etc with him. Play reasonable and let everyone know you want what is best in your child's interests. Don't rise to anything he says and try to download texts to a pc if you can, or store them so they can be used as evidence and try to document everthing.

He sounds like a total idiot, and I wish you all the luck with this one x

 

[tinkabells]

I think your best bet is to keep every single text he text you, i do that with the father of my child, because when it all comes out, i'v got my proof
Men dont get me started, i was never properl with the father yet everythings all coming out now, how he waqs with his ex when we were together, even though he said he never was and said he cant be part of my childs life as in his words "i cant be a father again" he already has a daughter with his ex/or as now know to be his girlfriend, he sayd he will pay his way for my child but cant be part of its life, i haven't bitched or slagged him off, all i'v said is its his choice and he needs to remember he made this decision and that he has to live with all his mates knowing there seeing his child and he isn't, yet he will randomly ring and text to ask how i am, and if im getting my own place, but then says sorry i cant do this, i have never once asked to be with him or asked him to give anything up, all i said was he should come clean to his girlfriend cos it will all come out in the end!!!