why should he get away with this??

[LeoTheLion]

So me & oh split in July after him losing his job in may & after 2 months of doing f all to provide for his son or attempt to look for work i asked him to leave. 5 months on he still has no job, worked a few days last week but went away for weekend with lads, not even a offer of £20 .. I Messaged him as its now been almost 3 weeks since he saw our boy saying "a day without seeing our child kills me, Whats your excuse" his repky was "it kills me too not seeing him, i miss him load. I just need space to get over you" ... Wtf this is his choice, we are here how selfish can a person be.
I know i cant stop him seeing my son but how is it fair he gets yo pick and choose when.?? would love to erase him so i have my son but never met him!!!

 

[teal]

It's really not fair that some fathers get to swan in when they feel like it.

 

[JennyBLove]

That is not fair, but from what im seeing about men they only care about them and what tey get outta something. Seems he is being sooo selfish to say that hes trying to get over u and thats his excuse of not seeing the life the son he made??? wow i cant fn believe that shiii, if he was a real man he would be there. Agian being lazy and getting what they want and doing what they please, is all some are like. Even the hard working ones are the same, and only out to please themselves. If it was killing him too he would be there. ugh men, im sorry ur going through this. nothing u can really do but take to court and if he keeps it up license will be taken n h'll go to jail for not paying eventually then years down the road if he doesnt pay still, u will get money forever from the back pay!!! hell pay and it will be worse later on for him. they deserve it. Karma will get them. N i dunno how they can but they will have to deal with the guilt forever.... how sad they must feel looking in the mirror everyday. :/

 

[gracexxx]

I know how you feel I would love to just erase all memory of FOB and for LO to just be all mine, but unfortunately we did have a child together and he never sees her just carries on like she doesn't exist. She's 8 months now and I agree men shouldn't be able to get away with this, us women wouldn't be allowed everyone would think we were disgusting awful mothers for abandoning our children yet brent a word gets said when it the father, all I get is 'what a twat' or 'oh we'll it's his loss' it's true it is his loss but it still doesn't change the fact I loved him and we were supposed to have this baby together and he just walked out of our lives like he just decided to walk out of a job. It's just soo wrong

 

[JennyBLove]

Exactly, mine walked out, pays bills but just not looming forward to nxt 7 months n then after who knows, theres so many the same men out there n its rare to see a women like them but I have. Ugh just wanna beat the shiii outta all them for us!!

 

[LeoTheLion]

i hate it, he had our son today for first time in forever & i thought it would be hard if son cried when i handed him over, but it was harder because son knew who he was, had a big smile on his face and ran towards him. Which makes me more angry because he should be in our sons life more.

 

[Dezireey]

I feel so angry somedays when I come on here and read about what a lot of you ladies are going through, it's so unfair that we have been treated this way and as a previous poster said, why is this allowed? What really gets my back up though and makes me want to tar and feather and FOB is when I read about a woman who's FOB actually PLANNED to have the baby with her and then ups and leaves her when it's too late to do anything about it and they even have the bloody nerve to then completely ignore her and the baby WTF? When oh when will they introduce a more substantial law on all this? I think I have nearly 5 out of 10 friends of mine now who are single mums and most of them because THEY have been left. Okay, accidents happen and you can argue that the man has rights to object to a pregnancy but these idiots who want a baby then bugger off?? Lord no, they should be punished.

Sorry I'm ranting today a bit, my mate is now also a single mum as of yesterday as her boyfriend of 6 years has just left her and their kids for a woman he works with. Men are shites!

 

[LeoTheLion]

They are shite. Our ds was planned but as soon as i became pregnant he backed off, to which i left him to it as its all a bit scary hoping he would pull himself together & he did for a 6 months after son was born then all went own hill. Lost his job, thought of his friends more ect to the point i asked him to leave. He says he loves me & wants to be with me but doesnt actually do anything to supposrt me or son. Love is great but nowadays its not enough when you have a child and responsibility x