Will I ever learn?

[Perdita]

I honest to god thought it would be ok. I'm now 16 weeks pregnant after a stillbirth last year and leading up to the pregnancy was having a really rough time with the OH. He was taking money from me, lying about where he was and getting drunk all the time. He started a new job the day after I found out I was pregnant and it seemed like a real turning point. Now he's lying to me again, telling me crap about someone cloning his card and losing money from his account so he can't pay the council tax so again I end up paying everything. I work over 40 hours a week on night shift so we hardly see each other so where is he tonight on my night off? Out getting pissed and probably stoned with his friends again. He'll turn up at some point tomorrow having crashed at some girls house. I was in bed so he took my bank card and lied to me about how much he took out even which bank machine he used was a lie. So I'm back were I was 5 months ago only this time pregnant as well. Because of a clotting disorder (why I lost Evie last year) and diabetes this is a high risk pregnancy and will be difficult to do o my own but right now I think I'd be better off going it alone.
How can I be such an idiot?
xx

 

[gemabee]

big hugs hun xxxx
i think u need to ditch the loser in my honest opinion.
u don't need an immature idiot round u nd ur lo.
hope everythings ok.
xxxx

 

[jess_smurf]

just seen this xx know exactly how you feel, it doesnt egt better after the initial worry panic and stress, you will see him for what he is and realise how free you are xx here fro you xx

 

[bloodbinds]

you really don't need this right now - you have enough to worry about!

Sounds like you would be better off without him - we're here if you need any advice, or just a rant or a cyber hug! x

 

[Kate&Lucas]

There really is no need for you having to deal with that extra stress. Tbh you're a hell of a lot braver than me, I couldn't admit I needed to chuck FOB when I was pregnant, even when we did break up I carried on living with him because I didn't think I could do it on my own. Took me 'til a month after stinky was born when I finally walked out. Best thing I ever did! Wish I'd done it months and months before, it was like a weight had been lifted off my shoulders.

No doubt it'll be easier than you think on your own, just make sure you have people around you that are good for you and you can rely on

 

[lal]

I agree with the others, he is just making this harder. If he wants to make a true effort to behave someday, let him prove that, but right now he needs to go.

 

[LittleMadam]

Agree with others. Definitely ditch him!!! You cannot afford such a drain on your time, emotions, and finances, not to mention your health!

Focus on yourself and baby. Get rid!

 

[alexisandmias]

I agree with the others too. YOu do NOT need this stress. YOu obviously have been doing it on your own anyways. It is hard to think of sepearting while pregnant b ut you will mostl ikely be better off in the long run!