Will my baby hate me?

[laura1991]

Im scared, i split up with FOB because i was truly unhappy everything had to go his way and he said lily will hate me for it whens shes older. Shes everything to me and im scared him and his family will turn her against me. everything i do is for lily. his mum said im a pathetic excuse of a mum because i decided to stay at college, but this was to make a future for her. I dont understand what i have done, he doesnt give me a penny for lily because hes at college and only works one day a week. they have never bought her even a set of clothes. Everything i do is for her. They always put horrible status' about me on facebook. I'm scared of what they can do.

 

[moomin_troll]

I grew up without my dad cuz he was scum and I never hated my mum. I didn't no any different and nor will ur baby. At around 13 she might try and play on it tho lol x

 

[billy2mm]

your baby wont hate you!

him and his family cant do anything so dont worry. does he have contact?

you are doing the best thing for lo by studying! you want a future for her and to give her what she deserves and you cant do that without some money unfortunately.

ignore the saddos, delete and block them and let them get on with their sad little lives while you and lo make a happy future for you both!

 

[laura1991]

Yeh he has her wednesday for three hours and over night friday, I have to send everything they cant even buy her any clothes, they wont buy her a carseat either or anything!! Yet there going mad that I wont let her go christmas day when I know she will have the most amazing christmas with our family round. Shell be lucky to get anything off them

 

[billy2mm]

if they want her then they need to have stuff for her there! dont give them your stuff!!

 

[moomin_troll]

I think it's easy saying don't give teem ur stuff which I agree with but then ule be worrying about she needs this and they don't have it!
If this is worrying you regarding him not having things for her there then can't u go thru mediation in order to get ur feelings out rather then talking to him which sounds like it would fall on deaf ears.

 

[littlekitten8]

She won't hate you darling! Believe me it is far better to be in a single parent family than in one where there is a constant atmosphere. When I was with FOB, James constantly screamed, barely slept and was just a miserable little boy. I left because FOB was violent toward me and within 3 days James was sleeping through the night! He is the most chilled, happy little boy and doesn't care less about not having a dad around. You are doing an amazing job and I think you are great for juggling college and your LO. I work full time and its bloody hard work! Just ignore them all and hold your head high. You are amazing.

 

[Jennifer.B]

I suggest you to not worry about it right now and give all yourself to your little baby. Everything's gonna be fine.

 

[Novbaby08]

No your baby will hate him for being such a fuckin douche

 

[angelpkj]

i felt like id let my baby down for bringing him into the world without a proper dad
its taken me a while to realise if anythin the baby will appriciate me alot more for knowing all the hard times i've been thru with his dad

 

[young-mummy]

thats if you do hate him!

well ill start.. i hate him so much if i never saw him again i would not miss a hair on his head...
he does not want anything to do with baby as he was cheating on me and has took on some women and her kid..
so SCREW HIM
i cannot explain the hatred i have for him and hopefully he will never be in touch again

anyone else?

xx

 

[Mummy2aStar]

Sometimes Hun you have to do what's right you and your lo.. And they wouldn't of been happy in a enviroment where parents arnt getting along.. It's a hard choice, but you've made the right one, pm if you ever want to talk x