I think equality can only go so far. We are not equal snd never will be.
I *really* hope you meant "we're not the same and never will be". Equality isn't about being the same, it is about being worth as much as any other person, regardless of difference.
I do think women should be allowed to do any job a man can do, as long as they can meet the appropriate standards. I wouldn't want to see necessary standards relaxed just so women can meet them. However, I do think it would be important to assess those standards carefully e.g. if there is a weight a solider has to be able to carry, they would need to look at whether being able to carry that weight was important to be able to do the job or whether it was a figure randomly plucked from the air to ensure that only the strongest men got in. If it was the latter, I think they would need to look at what was actually necessary rather than keeping with a meaningless standard that was only really possible for men.
I also don't think that men treating women differently should have anything to do with it. Yes, people are conditioned to treat women differently but that is wrong. The only way to stop that is by putting women in the same roles and letting time fix things. Many people have been taught to treat Asians differently but that doesn't mean we should say Asians can't be teachers because some kids might not listen to them. The same goes for challenging any ideas that aren't based on fact.