MaevesMummy
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I dont know if anyone might be interested in a couple of things I have been doing.
When I first lost Maeve, at 22 (ish) weeks people kept calling her a miscarriage.
Now I dont want anyone to think I am saying Miscarriage is not painful- by god it is! Its awful that anyone should loose a baby at any stage. So awful.
But in my experience and my feelings (mine,again this is my opinion I dont expect people to agree...) it felt different loosing a baby at 22 weeks and did not feel right it should be called the same thing.
I have met many others who believe in the second tri, babies should have the right to be called still born or neonatal death, and staff should call them your baby, or by name.
I started a petition when I was really angry... so angry! Its getting there but we need more.
What I feel is more important is getting change on a local level though.
I spoke to the hospital and told them how their words hurt, they took it on board they were brilliant.
I have written letters to midwifery magazines.
https://www.rcm.org.uk/midwives/your-views/feedback-issue-2-2011/
I had an article published in The Practising Midwife recently.
It occurred to me that maybe if anyone else felt like me they might want to write to their local Maternity unit and tell them how they feel, and ask them not to use medical terminology when discussing with Parents.
I really feel it had a huge impact on my mental health and I got angry with staff, who were actually lovely. I just felt they did not accept the seriousness of our loss.
In my article I also mentioned that using the word "abortion" in any loss was truley terrible.
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When I first lost Maeve, at 22 (ish) weeks people kept calling her a miscarriage.
Now I dont want anyone to think I am saying Miscarriage is not painful- by god it is! Its awful that anyone should loose a baby at any stage. So awful.
But in my experience and my feelings (mine,again this is my opinion I dont expect people to agree...) it felt different loosing a baby at 22 weeks and did not feel right it should be called the same thing.
I have met many others who believe in the second tri, babies should have the right to be called still born or neonatal death, and staff should call them your baby, or by name.
I started a petition when I was really angry... so angry! Its getting there but we need more.
What I feel is more important is getting change on a local level though.
I spoke to the hospital and told them how their words hurt, they took it on board they were brilliant.
I have written letters to midwifery magazines.
https://www.rcm.org.uk/midwives/your-views/feedback-issue-2-2011/
I had an article published in The Practising Midwife recently.
It occurred to me that maybe if anyone else felt like me they might want to write to their local Maternity unit and tell them how they feel, and ask them not to use medical terminology when discussing with Parents.
I really feel it had a huge impact on my mental health and I got angry with staff, who were actually lovely. I just felt they did not accept the seriousness of our loss.
In my article I also mentioned that using the word "abortion" in any loss was truley terrible.
xxxxxxxxxxxxxx