Worried about telling parents!!

[hollie86]

Hi Girls, just wondered how many of you were or have experienced this as well.
I have told all my closest friends about my pregnancy and my OHs family and they are all very pleased for us. Im just so worried about tellin my own family particularly my mom, Im just goin into my third year of nursing and will obviously need to take time out. I think my mom will be disappointed that I havent finished uni and im 21 and that its not the right time etc!!! I live with my OH and we are a very very happy couple and excited about the pregnancy! I just feel the fact I havent told my family is like a weight on my shoulders!
I have to hide scan pics, preg books etc when mom comes to visit.
Has anyone got any advice??? or anyone been in a similar sit?? I know i need to tell her soon as im startin to show and its gettin me down
sorry to rant on
thanks
xxx

 

[Snowball]

Hi Hollie

I have had this situation with all three of my pregnancies. My parents reacted badly to my first pregnancy and asked me to do unspeakable things, it was horrible. The second time I told them they were fine. The only thing I can think of that made the difference is that the first time I told them over the phone and I acted ashamed of it, thus they thought I wasn't happy so reacted badly. The second time I told them face to face, inside I was a nervous wreck but I sounded confident in our decision to have another baby and they were fine.

I still haven't told them about this one, I'm trying to find the right time but I will definately do it face to face again. We are old enough to make our own decisions in life and I think even if they do react badly, they always come around eventually. If they are anything like my parents you won't be able to keep them away once he/she is here!

Good luck hun

 

[kelly2903]

i was the same hun, my mum had me when she was 17 so see's her self as a young mum still. (NOT A GRANNY) so i was so scared to tell her, she made me feel this way by saying things like our kel doesnt want kids yetto her pals ect, but i just rang her up and blurted it out, what else could i do she had to no i could not hide it forever. she was stunned at first but im nearly 23 now and have been with oh 6 years. we own or house and 2 dogs. a car each what only thing we didnt have together was a LO she is over the moon now and does nothing but shop for her lil grandaughter. spoilt little girl isnt even here yet. im sure you'll find the right time to come out and say it. and if it never seems like the right time just say it any way. she cant be mad at you forever, and when LO arrives she will be very smitten im sure.

 

[tinkerbelll]

i think your family will be fine, it may just take alittle while for it to sink in. try not to worry about it too much and if they do react badly at first try not take it to heart, they will come round. make sure you let your mom see how happy you are about this and how its a positive thing. good luck x

 

[Mervs Mum]

My mum wasnt happy when I told her I was expecting #1. I was 19, just married, no place of our own and I suppose as she was a young mum too she knew the pros and cons. Once she got her head round it and obv when Emily arrived she was exactly like every other dotting grandparent and she is probably the closest person to Emily after me. If they are funny then its probably only because they love you, but they will see how happy you are etc and they'll come round.
x

 

[Ann-Marie]

i was the same hun, my mum had me when she was 17 so see's her self as a young mum still. (NOT A GRANNY) so i was so scared to tell her, she made me feel this way by saying things like our kel doesnt want kids yetto her pals ect, but i just rang her up and blurted it out, what else could i do she had to no i could not hide it forever. she was stunned at first but im nearly 23 now and have been with oh 6 years. we own or house and 2 dogs. a car each what only thing we didnt have together was a LO she is over the moon now and does nothing but shop for her lil grandaughter. spoilt little girl isnt even here yet. im sure you'll find the right time to come out and say it. and if it never seems like the right time just say it any way. she cant be mad at you forever, and when LO arrives she will be very smitten im sure.

absolutely spot on

 

[leeanne]

I don't have any advice as I was 31 when I had my first and knew my mom would be excited as heck.

But I do wish you luck. I've heard many stories that once the parents see the baby, there was no turning back. The grandparent in them came naturally

I am sure all will be well!

 

[Younglutonmum]

I agree with Leeanne. Once the babys here things change

My family went mad. My ex is only 18 n im just 20 so its not ideal but slowly n surely they're coming around to things. It's family at the end of the day!

__X

 

[nikky0907]

I'm in a similar situation.I live alone but I still have to tell my parents...who will react horribly and I don't even want to tell them...I'm still figuring out what to do with college but they will be upset because of the ''scandal''...it's really gonna be very ugly...

 

[leeanne]

I think too that part and parcel of their reaction to a pregnancy is the fact that they, themselves, have to accept the fact that they are grandparents now. They feel more aged and they have to accept that too.

 

[nikky0907]

no.it's the fact that my parents are selfish and will only think about what will their snobby friends think about this...

 

[leeanne]

no.it's the fact that my parents are selfish and will only think about what will their snobby friends think about this...

Oh, I understand and truly feel for you. It's ridiculous to think what others will think!

When I posted that I meant in many other circumstances.

 

[X-Hannah-X]

Hey, my OH told his family and they were over the moon about it, I told my mum and she seemed fine about it but my dad wasnt happy at all, partly because he doesnt like my OH hope he warms to the idea soon tho! Best thing to do is to tell them asap, we told our families the day we found out
XxX

 

[vickilouise]

hollie, my dad was on a massive downer at first over my pregnancy but he was worried about me going to uni, where we was going to live, money...etc
i got the "i thought you had more sense" comment thrown at me.
now however hes a totally different man, he asks questions about how im doing asked for a scan pic. and even cried this weekend over his grandchild to be (i had a scare). it may seem so daunting telling your parents but no matter how they react they'll come round its their grandchild.
i told my dad while he was peeling spuds and he cut his finger haha prob wasnt best telling him while he had a knife in his hand.

 

[cinderella08]

So glad to see this thread! I am 20 and DH is 21 and we've been married for almost 3 months. We aren't pregnant yet, but are TTC (actually in the 2WW right now) and I'm already dreading when I have to tell my mom.... Ugggg..... I work full time and I'm a student - she won't be happy... Hopefully the unhappiness won't last long and she'll come around.

 

[greenkat]

None of my or my OH's parents know about our pregnancy yet, but I'm more worried about telling his parents than mine. I'm 20 so I'm expecting comments about being young from my rents but I think they'll be happy as they love children and always comment about babies when me and my OH visit them.

His parents can be really negative though, I think they'll bombard us with q's about money, ect... and won't even consider the good stuff.

- That's why we've decided to tell them together, lol. We're happy and have thought about everything a million times over, so they can figure things out together (and hopefully that'll balance things out).

 

[Sarah88]

Ooh, leavin it late hun. I wouldn't worry, I know that she may be upset, but it is your own life. And also I bet she will react better to the news than you think, I know my mum and dad did! I was hell nervous bout telling them, I took 2 of my cousins with me to tell my mum. lol. I'm such a sook.

 

[clairebear]

i bet ur mum will suprise u and be so happy fo u xxx

 

[Jules]

I am 25, have been with my OH five years, Lived together 4 years etc etc but i was still dreading telling my parents. Anyway one day i just thought stuff it, and went and told them, they were chuffed.

You might as well get it over with and stop worrying, you never know they might surprise you! Good Luck