anita665
Mum of 2 & expecting 3rd
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Hi all.
OH and I have talked about trying for number 2 and think it would be best when DS is 2 which is in May. That is just so long as his behaviour has calmed down and he is still sleeping through the night.
The thing is OH always told me he wanted kids until I actually got pregnant with DS and then he went off the rails. Up until 15 weeks he was trying to convince me to have an abortion and saying he changed his mind an never wants kids. Then he got into the whole pregnancy thing, was really excited and loved DS.
Since having DS he changes his mind with some regularity when it comes to future children. First he was really for it and then against it, somtimes still saying never again. He also has a daughter from a previous relationship who he rarely sees and says two is enough.
I'm very worried that all will be fine until I tell him I'm pregnant and then he will go off the rails again. I can't face the confusion and stress again and this time I have DS to think about too. I know that what ever happens OH will love the child but it's as though he panics when he first gets the news. Panicking would be fine if it didn't continue for months.
I feel guilty as though I'm forcing it on him because I know how he will react even though he says another would be great (some of the time) and misses me being pregnant. He has also told me himself that his innitial reaction is always one of that the woman has tricked him even if he knows it's not the case.
What do I do.
OH and I have talked about trying for number 2 and think it would be best when DS is 2 which is in May. That is just so long as his behaviour has calmed down and he is still sleeping through the night.
The thing is OH always told me he wanted kids until I actually got pregnant with DS and then he went off the rails. Up until 15 weeks he was trying to convince me to have an abortion and saying he changed his mind an never wants kids. Then he got into the whole pregnancy thing, was really excited and loved DS.
Since having DS he changes his mind with some regularity when it comes to future children. First he was really for it and then against it, somtimes still saying never again. He also has a daughter from a previous relationship who he rarely sees and says two is enough.
I'm very worried that all will be fine until I tell him I'm pregnant and then he will go off the rails again. I can't face the confusion and stress again and this time I have DS to think about too. I know that what ever happens OH will love the child but it's as though he panics when he first gets the news. Panicking would be fine if it didn't continue for months.
I feel guilty as though I'm forcing it on him because I know how he will react even though he says another would be great (some of the time) and misses me being pregnant. He has also told me himself that his innitial reaction is always one of that the woman has tricked him even if he knows it's not the case.
What do I do.