Worried he'll show up again

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I've got 29 days to go and the closer I get to my due date, the more worried I am that my ex is going to come around once she's born. It's actually ruining it for me. I can't be excited about the birth because in the pit of my stomach I just know he's going to come knocking. He's the type of guy that'd rather run from his problems, but if there's something he can't have he'll suddenly want it like it's the last glass of water in the desert and he'll be a huge asshole to get it.

He's also dangerous because he's an alcoholic (I got him to stop while we were married but god know's he's hit the bottle again) and he's completely unpredictable. That, and I've never hated anyone so much in my life. Before we were married, we were best friends for 6 years. For some reason, him leaving cuts deeper because of the friendship than the marraige. If he shows up, my first reaction is likely to be with the crowbar I keep by the door.

His mother is already going around telling everyone it's probably not his, so I'm wondering if I can use that against him? I don't want him anywhere near my daughter. He knows the baby is his, but I'm not putting his name on the certificate, claiming support from him, or acknowledging him as the father in any way. If I just say "she's not yours" and slam the door in his face, it'll cost him $5000 to prove me wrong, and then he'll have to pay support which I know he wouldn't do willingly. I need some sort of game plan. *sigh* We still have to get divorced at some point.

 

[Alexas Mommy]

Try not to think about him-I know, easier said than done, but it's not good to worry, especially over something that may or may not happen. Hopefully he will keep away, and lik you said, he is not going on the birth certificate, and if he really wants to prove that she is his, then he will have to pay 5000$ shock Enjoy your last few weeks, and the anticipation of the arrival of your LO, it goes by so quickly, and it would be a chame if you worried the whole time.

 

[brownhairedmom]

I felt the same way, and 4 months on I still feel the same way. I was scared to death he was gonna show up, I even put restrictions on who could come visit me at the hospital with the nurses. But he didn't. And he still hasn't.

I'm scared he's gonna show up one day because he realizes he can use her to benefit himself in some way. But then again you can't live in fear forever. You just have to push it to the back of your mind. Every day he stays away is another day in your favour in court.

You can tell them you don't want him there. They put a "do not enter" sign on my door and all visitors had to check in at the nurses station first.

 

[Mummy&bump]

if hes got a problem with drink surely this would go against him aswell hun, u have every right 2 refuse him seein ur daughter and the courts wud see y u dun tht anyway!

it weird how wen we all put up threads tht describe our ex's in sum way they all hav similar ways, maybe its sumthin there all born with ...ufff who knos! but try not 2 worry about him after all ur the 1 thts done and still doin all the hard work!
xxx