Worried we'll never stop

[Serene123]

As silly as it sounds.

After a terrible night of teething and having to sit up for hours on end with a toddler on my boob 13 months after deciding I would 'give this breastfeeding milarky a shot' it finally dawned on me that eventually I'm going to have to put a stop to it. I know people say she'll stop naturally but she honestly just loves it so much that I don't think she will....

When is it time to say 'no?' 'Later.' 'There's no milk at the minute, baby, but there'll be some later.'

I might sound mean, but she doesn't neeeeeeeeeeeeed to feed all the time anymore and I do find myself still feeling chained to the sofa alot.

I don't want to stop really, I'm just having one of those, "where do I draw the line?" type days...

 

[anothersquish]

Sounds like you are already at the point where you need to be saying "No, not now...later" firmly.
She cant rely on you (well your boobs!) for comfort forever, she is going to have to learn that comfort is something she can get from being with you, not just from BFing.
If you are feeling drained and had enough then purposefully cut down on the number of times she is allowed to BF. Maybe stick to morning and night and offer her cups of milk and plenty of hugs during the daytime.

 

[Hevz]

Good grief ....how many threads have you started now saying the same thing

 

[Serene123]

Sounds like you are already at the point where you need to be saying "No, not now...later" firmly.
She cant rely on you (well your boobs!) for comfort forever, she is going to have to learn that comfort is something she can get from being with you, not just from BFing.
If you are feeling drained and had enough then purposefully cut down on the number of times she is allowed to BF. Maybe stick to morning and night and offer her cups of milk and plenty of hugs during the daytime.

It's the starting to feed again at night that's getting to me, but she knows what she wants Feel like I have a newborn again!

 

[Serene123]

Good grief ....how many threads have you started now saying the same thing

Well if I'm starting threads again clearly I've not found a solution yet

 

[Samantha675]

I am on the same page with you. Brenn still nurses an awful lot, and he doesn't seem ready to move on to solids. Right now his teeth are bothering him, and he had a stuffy nose, so he doesn't want anything much to eat. I am going to give him another few weeks, then we are really going to make a move over to solids. I am in no means ready to ween him, but nursing so often now is hard.

 

[Serene123]

I am on the same page with you. Brenn still nurses an awful lot, and he doesn't seem ready to move on to solids. Right now his teeth are bothering him, and he had a stuffy nose, so he doesn't want anything much to eat. I am going to give him another few weeks, then we are really going to make a move over to solids. I am in no means ready to ween him, but nursing so often now is hard.

Agreed. She's great with solids though. She eats loads. There really is no reason for her to be feeding so much. I just find it hard to say no after I've tried everything else and she's still so upset.

 

[Hevz]

Good grief ....how many threads have you started now saying the same thing

Well if I'm starting threads again clearly I've not found a solution yet

How hard is it???? Either stop or cut down.....how do you want oter people to help you?

I've done it myself 3 times and it doesn't take a genius

 

[Serene123]

Good grief ....how many threads have you started now saying the same thing

Well if I'm starting threads again clearly I've not found a solution yet

How hard is it???? Either stop or cut down.....how do you want oter people to help you?

I've done it myself 3 times and it doesn't take a genius

It is hard... I put alot of work into it, and I enjoy it most of the time. I just don't know how to go about it.

Why are you being so rude..

It's not always help people need, just to get it out.

 

[mommyof3co]

It sounds to me like your ready for her to be done...just because you keep going to back to it after others have said it's normal and she will cut down. I'm not trying to be rude at all. Hayden was obsessed with nursing still at her age lol. He wasn't eating 3 meals a day until 14mo because he wanted to nurse so much and then all of the sudden at 15mo he really cut down, on his own. They will do it even if they really like nursing, but if you don't want to wait until she does it naturally just tell her not right now and offer her a sippy cup

 

[Serene123]

It's not as simple as that though...

 

[mommyof3co]

If you stand your ground it is, if that's what you really want your going to have to make her stop. You can offer her a sippy, snack or just distract her, she might get upset, but if you want her to cut down probably the only way to get her to is going to cause her to get upset because she knows what she wants.

 

[Serene123]

I've tried all of that, and by the end of it I just have a very upset, very tired baby

She won't settle without it atall. I've tried so many things. If she does eventually give in and go to sleep without it then as soon as I put her down she starts screaming. She isn't hungry, or thirsty, or wet, or hot, or cold, or ANYTHING.. She just wants what she wants and she won't give in..

 

[Serene123]

And no she won't take any other form of comfort, yes I have tried leaving her to cry, and no her teeth aren't bothering her (last night being an exception)

 

[clairebear]

i know how hard it is we are trying to cut back with Jack and some days it works and he doesnt want much and other days hes on them all the time!

 

[Serene123]

i know how hard it is we are trying to cut back with Jack and some days it works and he doesnt want much and other days hes on them all the time!

Thank you x

 

[Mervs Mum]

I dont know what else to suggest. If you feel it's a problem then like anything else you do as a parent over the next 18ish years, you have to follow it through. When I took my eldests dummy away she kicked off for days. I had a choice: give in and let her have it or get over the fact she still had a dummy at just over 2yrs old.

Only you can sort it

 

[Brockie]

we are not at that stage yet but I think as ur asking how to try and get her to cut back then you have made that decision hon, u just have to stick to it now. like Lisa said about the dummy, you know its going to be shit for a few days or even a few weeks but she will be fine in the end, u just have to get over the emotional guilt -which u shouldn't feel as u have got so far xx

 

[Blah11]

Caitlyn just sounds very stubborn. If you stick to your guns she'll eventually realise you're not going to give in and find comfort in other things. I'm sure its hard, no one likes to see their child upset but it's clearly making you unhappy, and like you said, she doesn't need to be nursing so often. GL X

 

[Panda_Ally]

Do you want to stop all together or just cut down the amount she feeds??