Worried we'll never stop

[Serene123]

I don't know if cutting down is fair. Would she understand why she can feed sometimes but not others?

 

[Panda_Ally]

Would she understand the reasoning behind, u can only have booby of ur in ur PJ's or something like that... So its just morning and bedtime???

Or tell her that she too grown up now....

I dunno just thinking out loud??

 

[Serene123]

I do say things like "you're a big girl now" and "there's none left baby" but I don't think she'll understand for a while yet

 

[mommyof3co]

I don't think she'd understand at first but if you are consistent she will learn. If you pick certain times you are ok with it, say before naps, in the morning and before bed? Any other time tell her no she's a big girl and she can have a sippy of whatever it is she likes or a snack or you can go play with her, or even offer for her to cuddle just not nurse her. And stick it out until it's the time you set then nurse her she will learn that she has to wait until whatever time that is that she is going to get to nurse again just not all the time. It will probably be hard at first, she might think well WTH why can I not have it anymore? But she will learn there are times that she can and times she can't. She may not understand the words now but I'd def talk to her about it and try and explain it to her

 

[ryder]

I agree with Lisa and MO3... judging by all your posts your obviously ready for her to at least cut down... You really just need to stand your ground and say no... You may very well have to deal with an upset baby for a few days, but its not going to be the end of the world.

And like lisa said, you've got about 18 years of listening to a cute little toddler, then pre-teen, and then dramatic, hormonal, whiney teenage girl... Best learn to say no now Because when they can whine and yell louder, and scream louder and try and convince you to change your mind, its gonna be 100X's worse then breaking a habit in a few days as a year old baby.

Caitlin may not comprehend it like you or I would, but she will "get it" in her own way... And like someone else said, she needs to learn that its you who is her comfort, not your boobs.

 

[Mervs Mum]

One word.... consistency....

We all agree babies like routine right? They like to know where they stand. She doesnt know where she stands because the goal posts move so often.

Believe me, as a mum of a 15 yr old girl, if hadnt stuck to my guns she would be running circles round me now.

 

[Logiebear]

The best form of discipline is consistency. You have to be strong and teach her that when mummy says something she means it. And not that when mummy says something she will change her mind if you cry enough!!

 

[Brockie]

Consistency - that's absolutely true!!! i know it is SLIGHTLY different (!) but i wish i had been more consistent in training our dog, in kept falling for those big eyes and now he pays no notice to me whatsover cos he knows i always give in!!!

 

[Mervs Mum]

i wish i had been more consistent in training our dog, in kept falling for those big eyes and now he pays no notice to me whatsover cos he knows i always give in!!!

OMG I sooooo hear ya Brockie!!

 

[anothersquish]

Agree with what everyone else is saying. Be consistant. Just DO NOT feed her at night anymore, dont give in...EVER. If she screams and screams and screams for 10 hours and then you give in she will scream LONGER next time...if you do not give in consistantly for days or weeks she will get the idea. Have a strict time for feeding (I am not normally one for this but sounds like you need to do something drastic) in the morning and evening and if you want at nap time. Do NOT EVER feed her outside these times regardless of what she does. If you fold to her temper tantrums now it will get worse....a LOT worse and you will end up teaching her that the more she screams, kicks, whines the more likely she is to get something. Now its breast milk, before long it will be other things to the point that she will spend all day, every day screaming at you to get what she wants.
Personally if she was screaming and creating I would refuse, flat out, to feed her until she stopped crying, even at 12 months old that will have an effect...no way would I do it on a younger child but at a year they have enough grip on how things work to understand that screaming=nothing quiet=attention and milk.
I wonder if when shes screaming for milk you do a lot more with her, such as have her in your bed apposed to her own, fuss over her more, give her treats.....this will reenforce her screaming and screaming=good stuff.
Hope you manage to get it sorted, yes its hard to have them screaming BUT if you dont sort it now it will get worse.

 

[oOKayOo]

Agree with everyone else , babies expeacially cant be told no and then you go and do it. It confuses them and to be honest they will never learn if there is so much switching of the mind.

You iether want to do it , or you dont.
If you want to stop it now , then say to her 'no more all gone ', and then carry on saying that till she relises its all gone. Course she will cry but you have to carry on, like all children they dont get they cry! But if you give in then they know when you say 'no' it means nothing to them!


But if your not ready then carry on , no harm in it, if your happy she is happy

 

[Jkelmum]

It's not as simple as that though...

Its not and massive hugs as your gunna need them when you do stop ....my sil went away for the weekend and made her 15 month old going cold turkey due to trying everything else too