I was wondering if I could get some advice about something.
A friend of mine who lives a distance away is getting married in a couple of weeks. A few months ago she text me asking what our rsvp was. I hadn't received the invitation in the post so I replied telling her this but to count us in as we were planning to go (she had previously verbally told me the date and told me to keep it free). A few days ago I text her asking what the times, etc were as I hadn't got the invitation to tell me. She replied and told me the times and info, however we were unaware we were getting an evening invitation and not the full day.
Here is the thing...she is getting married somewhere 2 hours away from us and somewhere really remote. OH and I don't drive and we were planning to get there by citylink buses and take taxi back to the nearest train station which is nearly £40 (as the last bus passes at 6pm).
If we go, we would only be there a couple of hours and it isn't that we are cheapskates but we aren't very well off and have twins on the way. In total, it is going to cost us £60 just to get there and back and it involves, buses, taxis and then 2 trains to get home which will take a couple of hours in itself. I am also pregnant with twins at the moment and full of aches and pains so I am having real reservations about going. Not that I don't want to go or see my friend but I just don't think it is going to be justifiable.
This girl was at our wedding and was invited to the whole day and that coupled with fact she told me to keep the day free ages ago is why we didn't think to ask if we were being invited to the whole day or evening only, we just assumed it was the whole day. I think I also thought that as she knew we hadn't received the invitation and she had been to our full wedding that she would have told me it was just the evening we were being invited to. I am not pushing the blame on to her, I am only pointing out why we made this wrong assumption.
So basically, I want advice on how to tell her we won't be going and not cause offence. I don't want to make it sound like we are saying 'it isn't worth it for her', and I feel if I tell the truth about the misunderstanding it is going to look like we are throwing our toys out the pram because we only are invited to the evening even if we say it isn't. Can anyone think of the best way to go about this is?
A friend of mine who lives a distance away is getting married in a couple of weeks. A few months ago she text me asking what our rsvp was. I hadn't received the invitation in the post so I replied telling her this but to count us in as we were planning to go (she had previously verbally told me the date and told me to keep it free). A few days ago I text her asking what the times, etc were as I hadn't got the invitation to tell me. She replied and told me the times and info, however we were unaware we were getting an evening invitation and not the full day.
Here is the thing...she is getting married somewhere 2 hours away from us and somewhere really remote. OH and I don't drive and we were planning to get there by citylink buses and take taxi back to the nearest train station which is nearly £40 (as the last bus passes at 6pm).
If we go, we would only be there a couple of hours and it isn't that we are cheapskates but we aren't very well off and have twins on the way. In total, it is going to cost us £60 just to get there and back and it involves, buses, taxis and then 2 trains to get home which will take a couple of hours in itself. I am also pregnant with twins at the moment and full of aches and pains so I am having real reservations about going. Not that I don't want to go or see my friend but I just don't think it is going to be justifiable.
This girl was at our wedding and was invited to the whole day and that coupled with fact she told me to keep the day free ages ago is why we didn't think to ask if we were being invited to the whole day or evening only, we just assumed it was the whole day. I think I also thought that as she knew we hadn't received the invitation and she had been to our full wedding that she would have told me it was just the evening we were being invited to. I am not pushing the blame on to her, I am only pointing out why we made this wrong assumption.
So basically, I want advice on how to tell her we won't be going and not cause offence. I don't want to make it sound like we are saying 'it isn't worth it for her', and I feel if I tell the truth about the misunderstanding it is going to look like we are throwing our toys out the pram because we only are invited to the evening even if we say it isn't. Can anyone think of the best way to go about this is?