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[lch28]

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[fairydust87]

Hey

Been on your thread in babyclub welcome to single parents

Im in the UK and if you want to change the babies name you need the dads permission unless you can prove violence (which you can).

Good luck honey. Were here for you xxx

 

[lch28]

Thanks!

Ive got to look it up what the process is here, someone told me it costs a lot of money ? how stupid. I also heard he cant get a passport, leave the state or anything with out permission...

thing is im thinking he may just say screw it and not even ask for visitation, knowing how he is. So what if we have no contact, i have no idea where he is and I need HIS permission for stuff?

 

[fairydust87]

In the UK of you dont know hes wareabouts then you can get his name changes. Its onlyvwhen they are a part of LOs life and has regular bisitation, pays matienance etc when you.need permission. If you were in the UK you could change his name so easily and you wouldnt need permission. I hope its the same in.the US x

 

[Livebythesea]

I have worked for a domestic violence agency for several years. I worked in their finance department but heard many, many stories over the years that sound like yours.

My advice is to contact your local domestic violence agency and get free counseling and support. They will probably tell you to get an order of protection from him, which sounds like a good idea and it will document the problems you've had more formally.

No matter if you're married or not (at least in the US) he has to support his child. The domestic violence agency will be able to understand what your rights are and what he is going to be required to do.

Below are some general sites

https://www.helpguide.org/mental/domestic_violence_abuse_help_treatment_prevention.htm
https://www.thehotline.org/
https://shelters.welfareinfo.org/

 

[Seren0613]

Technically he can take your son to Costa Rica & not return him @ this point, since you both have equal custody. Contact a lawyer and file for custody.

 

[lch28]

thank you everyone! i have contacted an organization for domestic violence, they are helping us relocate and me find employment. I have filed for full legal and physical custody, i am changing LOs last name and we have a restraining order

 

[teal]

I'm so sorry you're going through all this but welcome to this part of the forum

 

[Livebythesea]

Wishing you so much happiness, safety and love with your LO and new life together!