Would you feel offended if...

[peartree]

...you turned up for an appointment at the fertility centre, and a couple was there with their baby?

I'm hoping to try again at some point to give our frosties a chance, and no one knows about the fertility treatment so can't ask friends to baby sit. Just wondered whether it'd be better to arrange for grandparents to come and visit (all are 4+ hours away) to go to the consultations...

 

[MissMonty]

Hi, I've seen young children in the waiting room at my fertility clinic several times, I also think a lot of ladies take in their babies to show staff ect too. It's never really bothered me as the parents always seem to be quite aware about their children not upsetting/bothering others. It's nice to see some successful outcomes too. I just wonder if you would get quality time with the consultant if baby was with you? X

 

[lauraclili]

Yea, I see little ones at my clinic every time I go. Actually, I think it's a good thing, particularly if the nurses know the mum and dad because it gives me hope that it might just happen!

 

[Leila Fae]

Our clinic asks that you don't bring children with you, given the nature of the treatment. I guess it's because some people would be bothered by it. I'm not sure where I stand on the subject - I'm so used to the fertility section of the hospital being in the same place as the antenatal and family clinic. I didn't particularly enjoy sitting next to glowing pregnant lady waiting for her ultrasound while I was waiting for my HyCoSy but there you go.

 

[rosebud_01_99]

hi there,
personally as a ivf vet who is on her 7th ivf i feel so uncomfortable when a couple bring a child into the waiting room, i think why are they showing off what they can have and i cant. as ive been at this ttc thing for over 16yrs i guess the whole giving hope thing dosnt apply to me. i wonder why one parent cant wait with the child in the car especially if its a quick scan or something, i know if i was in the same position i would never take a baby into a fertility clinic out of respect for other couples who may not have been so lucky. i know im in the minority thinking that way but im entitled to an opinion as well,

rosebud

 

[Princess Lou]

Whenever I've been to the clinic there have never been any children there, not sure if it's because they are allowed or not but it wouldn't bother me personally. I have many friends who are pregnant or have young babies/children and I am around them a lot. Although it stings a little when the announcement first comes out it doesn't bother me on the whole as I know one way or another I will have my child.

I would say go by your own judgement. Put yourself in their shoes and imagine who you would feel if someone brought their baby in and go with that.

Good luck. X

 

[readyformore]

I've arranged for a sitter for the actual appointment.
My youngest is 2, and there is no way I would be able to focus on what the doc is saying with her there. My other two are 8 and 6, and I don't want them to hear what is going on anyway.

If I had to go for a quick blood draw, I might call ahead and see if I can come in the back door or something. It does seem like a lot of work to find a sitter, pay for a sitter, drive to and pick up from; when you only need to run into a building for 5 minutes. In my situation, my husband won't be available to watch my kids in the car simply because he won't be there with me. He'll be at work unless a 'sample' is needed.

While I was seeing my RE for my first child, I did not appreciate when children were in the waiting room. I can understand and respect why someone might be upset by this, but I may not have other options. My life is different now.

It might be insensitive to bring a child into the waiting room of the clinic, but children and pregnant women are everywhere. I'll do my best to keep them out, but it probably won't always work out.

 

[Sophe]

I don't liike seeing childeren in the waiting room, it feels uncomfortable. You feel like the parents are looking at you and wondering what you're doing there.. but there will be childeren everywhere you can't help it... I would say though, won't it be more difficult to talk to the DR and have scans and bloods done with a baby with you? Don't you have a friend that could help out for an hour or so?

I don't know why hospitals often put the maternity unit and fertility clinic together.

I was very unlucky, for my first scan I arrived at the hospital and in to the waiting room only to see one of DH's frineds pregnant wives in the waiting room. She was exited to see us, asked why we were there, are we expecting too??? then she told all of DH's friends to wait and see there will be an announcement.... which there wasn't. then i received a message on face book asking if i had had a M/C as no announcement but she'd seen us in the ultrasound department soI MUST have been pregnant!

A few years ago I had treatment for an abnormal smear test, i had to sit in the waiting room with pregnant women, they asked me questions wanted to chat, they didn't know I was there for the cancer unit... within the maternity unit!!... the NHS don't care at all about peoples feelings!!!

so with all this crap going on i don't think it makes a difference if you take a baby or not, its a bloody awful experience anyway, one extra baby can't really make it that much worse!

 

[Armywife84]

Ultimately it's up to you...but it is very considerate of you to think of other struggling women who may be trying to get their first. You get props for that!

I've yet to go to the fertility specialist because we're holding off till my husband deploys this fall and comes back. Honestly, I hated seeing pregnant women waiting in the gyno's office..so I'm sure seeing a woman with a baby in the fertility doctor's office would be a slap in the face.

 

[MrS. MaBrEy]

my clinic also doesnt allow children at all. but i wouldnt have a problem with it if someone brought them either. nice of you to think of others this way

 

[mlyn26]

I think that if you have to ask then prob you know it's best not to bring baby. However if you have no choice then you have no choice. Xx

 

[crystal443]

I've arranged for a sitter for the actual appointment.
My youngest is 2, and there is no way I would be able to focus on what the doc is saying with her there. My other two are 8 and 6, and I don't want them to hear what is going on anyway.

If I had to go for a quick blood draw, I might call ahead and see if I can come in the back door or something. It does seem like a lot of work to find a sitter, pay for a sitter, drive to and pick up from; when you only need to run into a building for 5 minutes. In my situation, my husband won't be available to watch my kids in the car simply because he won't be there with me. He'll be at work unless a 'sample' is needed.

While I was seeing my RE for my first child, I did not appreciate when children were in the waiting room. I can understand and respect why someone might be upset by this, but I may not have other options. My life is different now.

It might be insensitive to bring a child into the waiting room of the clinic, but children and pregnant women are everywhere. I'll do my best to keep them out, but it probably won't always work out.

I would never be offended in any way shape or form to see kids or babies at an IVF/Fertility Clinic. Children are allowed at our clinic and DH or I have no issue with little ones around us, I feel better in a Clinic that has kids/babies allowed. Best of luck and to be honest if you need to take your kids then you need to take them