BabyMamma93
Mummy of a Easter baby
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A few things?
- do any of you feel patronising when you give someone advice thats older than you, esp if they didnt actually ask you for advice?
- or would you feel patronising telling someone older than you, that you may or may not know well (old friend, family member), that you are proud of them?
whenever (on here or in person) a person older than me asks for advice (on here) or mentions something that i can give advice to, i feel quite patronising for giving advice, i feel as though i cant possibly give someone older than me good advice and maybe they will look at me like im silly, or think im being silly for thinking my , young, avice will actually help them.
secondly, i have a friend im not really close with, she was told her baby wouldnt be alive when born, luckily he was, but a week later sadly passed away, i was telling her im proud of her but then felt a little patronising after..
same again my cousin was told her body is starving her baby of oxygen, she could carry on with pregnancy and risk the baby dying later on, or she could abort and labour the baby. she chose the latter, understandingly she messaged me a few week back saying shes sorry she hasnt seen my baby but she is now ready, i was telling her how proud i am of how strong she is, and shes a inspiration, again i felt so patronising shes like 10 year older than me and i just felt silly..
- do any of you feel patronising when you give someone advice thats older than you, esp if they didnt actually ask you for advice?
- or would you feel patronising telling someone older than you, that you may or may not know well (old friend, family member), that you are proud of them?
whenever (on here or in person) a person older than me asks for advice (on here) or mentions something that i can give advice to, i feel quite patronising for giving advice, i feel as though i cant possibly give someone older than me good advice and maybe they will look at me like im silly, or think im being silly for thinking my , young, avice will actually help them.
secondly, i have a friend im not really close with, she was told her baby wouldnt be alive when born, luckily he was, but a week later sadly passed away, i was telling her im proud of her but then felt a little patronising after..
same again my cousin was told her body is starving her baby of oxygen, she could carry on with pregnancy and risk the baby dying later on, or she could abort and labour the baby. she chose the latter, understandingly she messaged me a few week back saying shes sorry she hasnt seen my baby but she is now ready, i was telling her how proud i am of how strong she is, and shes a inspiration, again i felt so patronising shes like 10 year older than me and i just felt silly..