Would you take a baby to a funeral?

[pansorie]

My nephew was at his grandfather's funeral, he was 3 months old at the time. He was great, it was a military funeral, and he only cried when they fired shots into the air, but he quickly calmed down.
In our case, though, it was important that he be there. My SIL, SO, and BIL were very close to their father, and were devastated when he very suddenly died. I actually found out I was pregnant on the day of the funeral.
All support was needed from friends, family, and babies.

 

[Melly Belly]

We have taken our little girl to two funerals unfortunately...the first was back when she was about 3 months old, my husband's uncle unexpectedly passed away..he was the pastor of a tiny church in southern ohio, so we ended up standing right outside the doors, when she got fussy, i went to the fellowship hall next door and changed, fed and rocked her...by the time we got to the graveside service, she was out cold in her carseat, so i stayed in the car with her and DH went to the service..the second was my Nana's at the end of January this year, so little girl was about 8 months old..she was wonderful at the memorial service (really a socialization, get together and remember the good things time) and lots of people commented on how well behaved she was..she babbled some, and tested to see how good the echo was in the room, but like previous posters mentioned, it gave some smiles to the people who came to the service...its really up to you, of course, but it sounds like he probably wants you both to be there

 

[hanni]

Thanks so much for all your replies ladies!
I've decided to let my nan look after him for the day. I didn't realise it was the done thing to take babies to funerals but reading your replied would make me change my mind. I totally would have taken him but like I said, he's a shouter, and I mean he shouts. I feel for our neighbours 😂 plus I'd never met the woman and don't know most of the family so (as selfish as it sounds considering the circumstances) I wouldn't like everyone fussing over him either. My OH has came out of his mood about it and is fine with it, it means we can focus on being there for his dad.

 

[pinkpolkadot]

We left DD1 with MIL while we went to my Auntie's funeral as she could be very noisy. She brought her later after the service and the family were pleased to see her.

 

[NotNic]

I took ds2 to dh's grandfather's funeral when he was 2 weeks old. I have to say breastfeeding in a crematorium waiting room is the oddest place I've bf so far but everyone was very nice and appreciated our attendance.

 

[JumpingIn]

I would take A baby to a funeral, but I would not take MY baby to a funeral as he'd be likely to scream the entire time

 

[hanni]

Thanks so much for your replies!

The funeral was yesterday and we didn't take him. I was glad as well as it was really silent and he would have screamed the place down. Then the wake was a bit more boozy then I'd have felt comfortable with him being there.