wow...just wow....(long but dramatic)

[Dream.dream]

any one else every look at you life an go daym this would make a good book, so much drama.

im feeling like that right now. So i kicked my boyfriend of 2 years out , im fine with that he wasnt doing me any good anymore.

so bit of background. my sons dad was abusinve to me and has been abussive to other girls after me, His last girl friends mother actually called me because of how bad he was treating her daughter. he has had supervised visitation ( court ordered) which he had to complete some course before they would review . ( 4 years later still hasnt bothered to do it )

He is with a girl now ( who he cheated on the above girl with and got her pregnant) and has a 5 month old and is engaged . Well this girl only interaction ive had with her is 1) messaging me on facebook telling me to back off and he could do what ever he wanted with my son beacuse he is HIS FATHER and his time with him is none of my business ( this is after he lied to take my son to meet her by saying he was with his paretns) 2: pretnending to be him on his phone to get information out of me,

So because of his abusive behavior I didnt want my son around him alone with his girlfriend. ( i dont want my son to witness abuse ever). I did agree with him that i would be fine with trying to let him take him to something like a swimming class with him ( so its in front of people ) but just with him and my son , not him my son his girlfriend, and their baby .

well now hes throwing a fit and saying hes not coming to visit my son at all until he can bring them both with them . His reasoning is that quote " he has to take time and money from his family to come into town to visit my son and unless he can bring his family hes not coming at all . ( he gets everyother saturday and every other wednesday)

Its complete bullshit , and now i feel bad for my son because his dad has basically said hes not part of his family and that his gf and other kid are more important then my son. Not fair to my son

if you made it through this then thank you for reading
end rant

 

[moomin_troll]

Well he's a total waste of space and as for his gf, omg could she be anymore stupid? Lol
My dad never bothered with me and I've never even cared, I had my mum and that's all I needed

 

[Dream.dream]

yeah i seriously hope he thinks shes worth it because im sure shes behind him doing this and when he looks back hes gunna feel like an idiot for choosing that girl over his child. |It wont be my my son resents

it really doesnt bug me a whole lot. i feel bad for my son but oh well me and him get more time together

 

[moomin_troll]

My point was don't feel bad for ur son. Feel glad because he doesn't need someone like that in his life.
He will grow up not knowing any different

 

[KayBea]

your son doesnt need a jerk like that in his life!! how dare he speak about your son like that!!

 

[Dream.dream]

I know . Apparently some girls is worth more then a relationship with his son.

Oh we'll at least it's at a point when he's to young he might never be hurt or remember

 

[moomin_troll]

He won't be hurt because he has nothing to compare it to.
All he needs is u

 

[gracexxx]

When my dad got re-married suddenly myself and his 2 sons werent important to him anymore. He had his new Family with his wife and her kids and we were just an inconvenience. My LO is now a year old and he seen her once when I took HER To SEE HIM when she was 3 months.
I honestly don't care anymore, it's him that's missing out.
I know it's hard to know that your son is second best to him but the only reason you feel like that is cause is cause LO is number one to you, and you love him, and that shows what a good mum you are! like everyone else is saying your son doesn't need someone like that in his life and at least he still young so won't be affected by it all. I just wish my dad had pissed off years ago.

 

[Dream.dream]

a agree gracexxx, my dad was almost the same way except mine came back and left several times which hurt me, but i had a stepdad who loved me to death ,

for right now he hasnt even asked about him so i figure he has enough people in his life he has positive bonds with ( me , my parents, his uncle, ) that he doesnt need a dad . He knows hes loved and important so i hope he grows up and doesnt even miss not having a dad