Writing a will...

[Becky61]

Hi
Sorry for such a morbid thread.
Im a single mum of an 8 week old.
I have allowed my babys father to be involved, as much as i dislike the man. He sees him 4 times a week for an hour, and pays weekly maintenance.
Im sure he will be a good dad as our child grows up, but if i was to die, i dont want him to raise our boy.
He is on the birth certificate as i wanted to do the right thing, but i want my mum and dad to take custody if something happens to me.
Will my boy automatically go to his dad even if i make a will stating i want him to go to his grandparents??
Im having heart pulpatations thinking of him being bought up by anyone other than my parents!!
Advice needed!!
x

 

[MissDee-89]

Im doing the same aswell. Im stating my dad is to receive my daughter and be the trustee for my life insurance. Your ex can go to court and contest it but they will take into account what your wishes were, as long as your parents fight back then it should be ok. I hope anyway xx

 

[Louisandemma]

I'm going to go against the grain here, and hope I'm not hated for it. But.. Dads point of view.

Is there a reason you dislike your ex so much? You say you think he'll be a good Dad..

Your child would automatically go to your ex, I've actually asked a solicitor about this due to my own situation. IF your parents collected them from your house before your ex is told, all your ex would have to do is get a police escort to go round and collect them.

Your parents could contest it at court.. BUT your ex has parental responsibility. your will and life insurance don't necessarily state where your child goes, because your ex is 50% father to them too. Thats like saying.. If he died and said in his will he'd like her to go blah...

Is there a good reason for contesting it? If so - Write everything down and give it to your parents / proof in case it ever needed contesting. I.E Drugs/violence. Im sure itll never come to it though.

 

[lemontree12]

i think and i could be wrong but your child would go to his dad, your ex has parential responisblity so has equal rights as you because hes on the birth certificate, it would be your parents who would have to go to court to fight it.

 

[Linz88]

I think your child would go to his dad as he has parental responsibility.. I no
How you feel though id hate my kids to go to there dad.. It scares me thinkin about of i died thankfully there not on the birth certificate

 

[Dream.dream]

Talk to a lawyer , the laws about it will be different depending on where you are and they can help you draft an air tight will