Dezireey
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https://www.confessionsofasinglemum.co.uk/benefits-single-mums/proposed-changes-to-csa/
Been reading some stuff on-line lately about changes to CSA procedures in the UK and I can't believe what I am reading, it implies or suggests that a new system is going to be put in place for child maintenance which means charges for us single mums to use CSA as a service? Something stupid like an upfront fee of £100 and then more money thereafter to actually collect the money off the father!
Seriously WTF???!! what single mum can afford £100 to pay the government to get money off the father? thats about 2 months worth of maintenance payments gone right there for some people for just an effing fee??! I hope i have been reading stuff wrong and have got the wrong end of the stick. Does anyone know about this?
If this is true and they expect us mums to pay a huge fee like that to chase non paying FOB's. I think i will lose hope. What message does this send to young men now? ' oh great! i can get my girlfriend pregnant, bugger off and she wont be able to afford or wont bother to chase for child support so i can get away with ruining these peoples lives scott free! whooppee unprotected sex with no consequence anymore!'
It makes me sick. Dont we suffer enough as the women left pregnant and heartbroken? left with all the finance of raising a child? left with all the emotional trauma and anger at the injustice of our circumstances? this is another nail in the coffin. The only peace of mind most single mums can get is getting child support to help raise a baby off the low life excuse of a man who dumped her when pregnant and they want to take that off us. Its been so bloody stressful for me asking FOB for money for his child. if its not the excuse that he has no money to live on, I will break him, its that he is depressed, ill, suicidal etc etc and for 6 months i have tried both nicely and nastily to pay up and be responsible for his child. So the government want us ladies to try to communicate first with FOB to get maintenance? Are they for real? some women have been abused by their FOBs and want no contact with them at all. This forces women like that to go straight to CSA, do not pass go.
I really hope that this is some sort of legislation that is just being suggested and that they wont follow through with it in Parliament or something?
Been reading some stuff on-line lately about changes to CSA procedures in the UK and I can't believe what I am reading, it implies or suggests that a new system is going to be put in place for child maintenance which means charges for us single mums to use CSA as a service? Something stupid like an upfront fee of £100 and then more money thereafter to actually collect the money off the father!
Seriously WTF???!! what single mum can afford £100 to pay the government to get money off the father? thats about 2 months worth of maintenance payments gone right there for some people for just an effing fee??! I hope i have been reading stuff wrong and have got the wrong end of the stick. Does anyone know about this?
If this is true and they expect us mums to pay a huge fee like that to chase non paying FOB's. I think i will lose hope. What message does this send to young men now? ' oh great! i can get my girlfriend pregnant, bugger off and she wont be able to afford or wont bother to chase for child support so i can get away with ruining these peoples lives scott free! whooppee unprotected sex with no consequence anymore!'
It makes me sick. Dont we suffer enough as the women left pregnant and heartbroken? left with all the finance of raising a child? left with all the emotional trauma and anger at the injustice of our circumstances? this is another nail in the coffin. The only peace of mind most single mums can get is getting child support to help raise a baby off the low life excuse of a man who dumped her when pregnant and they want to take that off us. Its been so bloody stressful for me asking FOB for money for his child. if its not the excuse that he has no money to live on, I will break him, its that he is depressed, ill, suicidal etc etc and for 6 months i have tried both nicely and nastily to pay up and be responsible for his child. So the government want us ladies to try to communicate first with FOB to get maintenance? Are they for real? some women have been abused by their FOBs and want no contact with them at all. This forces women like that to go straight to CSA, do not pass go.
I really hope that this is some sort of legislation that is just being suggested and that they wont follow through with it in Parliament or something?
