wtf why?

[girlibird]

why can men be so horrible when they want to be? my hubby just turned around to me and said that he dont want to ttc any more!? wtf?? why would you say that. its what we both wanted and now i feel all alone.
im having such a hard time at the mo af playing tricks on me and doing my head in say that but i am not over stressed so dont think its that. af started sunday am red blood on tissue enough to have me thinking i had started then nothing what so ever for a while went for a wee and again enough when i wipe to think af was there then nothing dont even need to wear a pad as now know by being on day two of this weird af that i will only need to wipe after weeing to find the blood. no cramping no pms symptoms so wtf

 

[honey08]

think men get stressed, let him no ur not trying not preventing but u do opk etc ?

maybe u are preg? av u tested ?X

 

[Hels_Bells]

so sorry love. He is probably stressing about it just as much as you are and wants a break. Maybe you could talk to him later and see what's going on. Maybe you should switch to NTNP and he would be more comfortable with that. Feel better!

 

[FertilMertile]

Is it possible he's overwhelmed? I know DH got to that point when we were trying for our son. It took us 7 months. I mean, I did get pregnant on the 2nd cycle but it ended in a miscarriage and that's what caused DH to wanna give up. I had to keep telling him miscarriages are common, unfortunately, and that people try for a longer amount of time. Try to talk to your DH and find out what his reason is for saying he doesn't wanna try anymore. Maybe he's talking out of anger or pain or something. Hope it gets resolves.

 

[girlibird]

thanks just upsets me loads.. yeah i had done loads of pregnancy tests,all bfn's. .would either be 13 or 16 dpo if this is just a brea through bleed.. but not getting hopes up as all pregnancy symptoms i had have stopped now.

 

[FertilMertile]

I'm so sorry hun.

 

[bluelilly72]

sorry hun hope everything works out for you hugs

 

[Lushgirly]

Didn't want to read and run, ur Hubby is just prob stressed hope everything works out for u hunny x

 

[Cleo]

My DH was the same when we were trying for our first...we had been at it a while and I was a massive stress case so he suggested we take a break...much to my annoyance. We had a pretty big fight about it. I think it's hard for them to watch how much it affects us and gets us down when we keep getting BFNs. Unfortunately, it really consumes us more b/c we're constantly thinking about when we're going to ovulate and when should we dtd to time it right for O, and how many DPO are we and when can we test, etc etc etc. For them, it's just do their thing then they don't think about it until we tell them we're not pregnant...

Hope you guys get a chance to talk about it and everything gets figured out. Fx'd for you.

 

[cinnamum]

men do this A LOT! (not being sexist) they don't understand how maternal we feel. xxx
its not their faults, they don't have wombs xxxx
he'll change his mind, you just gotta be patient xx HUGS HUN xx

 

[girlibird]

well we made up this morning he took the day off work hahaha thought it was so we could spend the day together while son number 1 at school and son no2 in nursery lol but his gone fishing pmsl!! at least i know he was just stresses his just had his wisdom tooth pulled so not in the best of moods as we think he has dry socket! haha karma! lol nah glad we made up so will be trying agin from the 8th april, and hopefully that bfn will turn to a bfp next month, just seems like ages away though. hate this bit waiting for the bleeding to stop so that yo can start having fun again

 

[Oobies]

My OH did that too me after about 5 months of trying. We got close and I really thought we would have our BFP that month. Well, before I'd even tested he went all funny and after I tested I made him tell me what was wrong, he came out and said he didn't want to TTC anymore.

It took one month of black days (depression) on my part, plus his brother and his mum talking to him to make him realise that babys are not scary and he would never be doing it alone (he got scared that he wouldn't be able to care for a baby) before he came round.
I think another part of the reason he was worried was because he could see how all the failed months get to me, but he soon realised that that was nothing to not being able to try at all lol

 

[ange30]

aww hugs hun , maybe try having a good talk find out whats wrong with him x x

 

[5-a-side]

I'm glad you talked about it, it is stressful for everyone involved and I think that even as women we sometimes forget what it must be like for the partners in our lives.

Good luck for your next cycle x

 

[FertilMertile]

I'm glad you were able to talk about it