WTT With Endo

[dakotadawn]

Hello ladies!

I'm just curious if any of you are also WTT and dealing with endo and/or pcos? How do you deal? What are your thoughts, and what do you think your timeline might be? Why are you waiting?

My FH tells me I think too negatively when I worry about our timeline with age and having these obstacles already in the way. I just want to know I'm not alone!

Thanks!

 

[krissie328]

I am waiting withp pcos. We are waiting because we just had #1 and want to move and pay off some debt before the next one.

I am very nervous to wait as we aren't trying until July 2016. It took us 8 years ok of ntnp/ttc to get our first. In the end we also had male factor as well and pcos. I hope now that we know what worked this time we won't have a long time ttc and consequently an age gap more than 3.5 years.

I am definitely negative about it because of all the struggling we have already endured. Now I feel more pressure as I will be 30 when we start for #2 and hubby wants a #3, which if everything works out I will be 33. I do not want kids after 35 so our timeline feels cramped.

 

[dakotadawn]

I completely understand not wanting them after 35. That makes it extremely difficult

 

[cluckerduckie]

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I have pcos. Was diagnosed after my 2nd pregnancy. I'm thinking our 3rd and final will be rough. I personally love children and every person has their own time line for children. My husband doesn't want to be in his 50's with kids still in the house and we are a young couple (mid-late 20's). We enjoy a 3 yr age gap between children as it gives plenty of individual time but I'm looking quite sad at this long route ahead of me. I'm waiting because I'm anovulatory. Haven't ovulated since 2012. Husband doesn't have any issues with his "half" so I feel as if I'm kinda at fault for it taking so long. I go tomorrow for medication to help the process though.
When are you planning on trying?

 

[dakotadawn]

I know what you mean by it being somewhat one-sided. We don't have a timeline. I don't have any set dates or even a year. I think that's what makes it so hard for me, but I can't push him in to giving me an estimate. He's a "live by the day" kind of guy, if that makes sense. We're both still young (to him) so he doesn't see an issue with waiting. He knows the struggles I've been through, but he's not ready to commit to a date yet.

 

[MissN8]

I had Endo and wtt. I do worry and am in my 30s too. My oh wants to wait due to finances but I want to try now but not much i can do just have to wait. This will be our first

 

[dakotadawn]

I'm so sorry... I can't even imagine being in my 30's and still going through this. I already told FH that I will not wait until I'm 30 to start trying. I refuse... That may sound naive of me, but all finances and careers aside, having children is important to me.

 

[bakedbean]

Hello ladies!

I'm just curious if any of you are also WTT and dealing with endo and/or pcos? How do you deal? What are your thoughts, and what do you think your timeline might be? Why are you waiting?

My FH tells me I think too negatively when I worry about our timeline with age and having these obstacles already in the way. I just want to know I'm not alone!

Thanks!

Hello! Good question, i'v been curious about this aswell. I have endometriosis, a few fibroids and i'm pretty sure i may have pcos aswell.
Mine is not severe, so i am not rushing into having a baby as we are not ready just yet, but i do worry about leaving it too long sometimes. I have told my partner i don't want to leave it too long (esp as my OH wants 3!) and would like to start trying in 2 years, when i am 25, which he has agreed to - by then i would have finished my degree aswell. I gave him the time frame to prepare him mentally for getting used to the idea about children by then (Otherwise i'd be in my seventies by the times he was ready!)

I don't think you're being negative thinking about timelines because the reality is that we have fertility issues and may well have trouble conceiving. The longer we leave it, the more likely these issues are going to affect us! Worse case scenario - we could end up not being able to conceive at all. I don't think men overly think about this because they do not have that ticking clock feeling

 

[dakotadawn]

I have heard my current boyfriend and my ex both say THEY wont have a problem having kids... well that may be well and good, but I will. So the timeline for them is endless, but mine is clearly not.

edit: Wanted to add some things. FH and I will probably get married in the next 2 years. He wants to enjoy being married for a while before we start having children. He wants toplan to have a set career in his field, and a house. So I' assuming I'm looking at about 25-27 to start. Knowing all I've gone through, knowing that women's fertility starts to drop at 25 as it is, and knowing it may take us 10(+-) years to conceive #1 my brain can't handle these timelines. Logically, it all makes sense, biologically my body is screaming at me.

 

[lucy_smith]

I have endo and wtt. Well I say wtt but me and bf have benne only using the pull out method and been very relaxed about it.
I am worried that I will struggle with children but bf doesn't seem to think it will affect my fertility! . But trying to explain it to him is like talking to a brick wall sometimes! I am desperate for kids but he wants to build our house first and have lived in it for a while first!
Not got a date but I'm honestly feeling the clock ticking at age 22! ( coming up 23) doesn't help when it's seems to be all mum , gran and great gran talk about!!!

 

[Fliss]

Hiya - my endo was only formally diagnosed this March - and I have a two year old son. I'm moderate to severe (bowel stuck to womb and 'kissing ovaries') and I'm going in for a lapascoropic excision procedure on 2nd September.

We'll TTC from May next year unless they find something unexpected during the procedure.

I conceived Nathan within 6 months which surprised them (as I say, undiagnosed while we were TTC last time) and what helped IMO was that I charted everything.

We did SMEP (not that I told DH hehe) and I took Agnus Castus CD 1-6 inc. and Vitamin B6 daily as well as Folic Acid from Month 3 of trying.

Did it help? Don't know. Will I be doing it again? Most definitely.

My consultant says we should actively TTC for 12 months then if nothing happens we should begin to consider IVF but he seemed fairly positive.

Much love

 

[MissN8]

See this why I think I will chart because it will up my chances. We are thinking may next year too. Good luck with your surgery fliss.

 

[dakotadawn]

I charted too. Makes me feel more in control of everything. What type of surgery? I just recently had a lap for endo in May

 

[Fliss]

I had the diagnostic laparoscopy in March and they are doing an excision to separate my ovaries and my bowel from the back of my uterus.

I'm hoping they'll do a 'blue dye' test too to check whether there's any issue with my tubes.

 

[MissN8]

I've had 3 laps makes me worry about conceiving when the time comes. I know we have a window to ttc

 

[dakotadawn]

I want to have the b;ue dye test done too, but at this rate I'm not sure when that will happen.

 

[Fliss]

I know it's easier said than done ladies - but I'm PROOF that you can conceive totally normally with this ******* of a condition - I knew there was something 'wrong' - I mean goodness knows I mistook 1st stage labour as it was hurting LESS than my periods (!?) but I didn't know what.

So keep hoping - once you're in TTC you've got an advantage as you already know what you'll be facing.

Charting helps, and try anything else your specialist suggests. But knowing your cycle is key - for example, despite having a textbook 28-30 day cycle I always ovulated around CD 16 giving me a 'short' luteal phase - without charting I wouldn't have known that.



XXXX

 

[dakotadawn]

When I wasn't on birth control my cycles were 24 days, and I ovulated between 9-11 every single time. It was nice knowing, and feeling in control of it. Now I feel completely out of control of my own body.

 

[LaylitaGypsie]

I'm 22 (23 next month) and WTT with endo. I have had 3 surgeries for the endo within 18 months, and had the surgeons tell me they refuse to operate anymore as it's growing back too fast, and that I should just get a hysterectomy (but when I enquired about said hysterectomy, was told they won't consider until I'm 40!).
I was meant to start ttc this month, but due to not having a donor anymore, and a multitude of mental health complications at the moment, have decided to postpone until my head gets sorted, and I find a suitable donor. Ideally, I'd like to star trying mid to late 2015, hopefully allowing me to at least be pegged by the time I turn 25. But, right now, I doubt that'll happen. But i refuse to bring a child into this world when I'm not completely stable.
at least I don't need to worry about a oh putting the breaks on the baby plans. Small graces there.
I've been charting since I stopped all contraception last November, and over time my cycle has regulated to a 32 day cycle (though the last 2 were 28 days, so they seem to be getting shorter), with a lo of 9-11 days, or being cd 21 usually. Charting will be the most crucial part, since I have torely on self insemination. Aside from that i drink health eris 'be maternal' tea daily (which helps with the endo symptoms as well as containing fertility enhancing herbs), take centrum women's daily, and attempt to live a healthy lifestyle.