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[scottishgal89]

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[AppleBlossom]

If he is on the birth certificate he does have parental responsibility. As her primary carer unfortunately unlike him you don't have the luxury of going away for weekends when you want like he does but obviously once in a while if you want to get away you can ask if he will have her. If I'm being honest, at such a young age and having being diagnosed with epilepsy, it is best that she stays with you overnight etc for the time being. Maybe invite him to come round and show him how to do things like change a nappy and make up bottles. If he is threatening you and stuff I don't think I would be comfortable leaving my daughter with him really. Legally, he is allowed to see her on a regular basis and any important decisions such as an operation have to be discussed between you both rather than you making them yourself. Does he pay any maintenance for her?

 

[scottishgal89]

he doesnt pay just now cause he lost his job. i meant if i was planning on going on a weekend break would i need to ask his permission to take our daughter with me? thanks for ur answer x

 

[AppleBlossom]

No you wouldn't have to ask his permission. Like I said, you're her primary carer so wherever you go she goes. Obviously you might have to let him know if he planned to see her or something but otherwise it's up to you where she goes

 

[purpledahlia]

hey mari,

You are like bexy says your the primary carer so you can take sophie whenever you want wherever you want. He can only contest if your going abroad for i think longer than 2 weeks and if its over time he would normally get to see her?
whats he saying to threaten you? he shouldnt be doing that.. need to tell him you wont stand for it and show him your serious about it. He should still be paying even if hes had to sign on, CSA would take £5 a week, its a drop in the ocean what is needed or morally right but its something, if he could give you even that for now till he gets a job and you could put it into sophies bank acc.. its an extra £20 a month for her which would add up eventually.
Sorry to hear about sophies epilepsy, At least it was something treatable easily enough with medication and not anything more serious xx