Yet another FOB rant...

[dustbunny]

So FOB has not been in contact since I asked [for the 4th time] about how much he was going to contribute towards the nursery and maintenance. Which just proves how much of a cowardly dick he is. I also found out via a couple of mutual friends that he never talks about the baby... and aside from giving his mate £500, spending £750 on a new SLR camera and £10,000 in savings, he also does go out drinking and everything with mates. I wouldn't be bothered about it if it wasn't for him saying he never does and not giving any money for the baby.

However his mum stays in contact with me, every couple weeks or so, just to stay involved which I kind of understand. But I know whatever I tell her she then tells to her son, which is again understandable, but also I find it annoying how this is again another reason for him not to get involved. I just don't know how much to tell his mum or not to tell his mum?

I also was speaking to a friend of mine who said that I was going to find it so hard when after the baby is born he gets involved. Aside from me having doubts he would want to be I also think it is so unfair he might think he can waltz in 9 months down the line and suddenly want to be involved. Plus, as he is in lala land over a job, he would only be contributing £5 a week due to JSA whereas I have to work 2 jobs to keep the money coming in.

Sorry for yet another long rant but so much has pissed me off this week and my friend, through no fault of her own, topped it off. Imagine if I had walked out on my side of the responsibilities X amount of months ago, I wouldn't even be on these forums. Makes me so angry.

 

[Rhio92]

He's a dick hun xxx

 

[Laura2919]

How can he have 10,000 in savings and be on JSA? Unless he is on contributions based and thats only for 6 months. Or I misunderstood.

He wouldnt be able to waltz in and act like the worlds best dad because he hasnt been around and if he wanted to be an arse you could tell him to take you to court and they will decide access.

I would just tell his mum whatever she is asking. You know that if he repeats anything he is getting then information from her and nobody else.. It doesnt really matter because the people who care are the people that wont believe anything he says.

 

[dustbunny]

How can he have 10,000 in savings and be on JSA? Unless he is on contributions based and thats only for 6 months. Or I misunderstood.

He wouldnt be able to waltz in and act like the worlds best dad because he hasnt been around and if he wanted to be an arse you could tell him to take you to court and they will decide access.

I would just tell his mum whatever she is asking. You know that if he repeats anything he is getting then information from her and nobody else.. It doesnt really matter because the people who care are the people that wont believe anything he says.

I saw the £10,000 on one of his online bank accounts and he said it was an inheritance and that he doesn't like to spread about he has it... but I have no idea how he is getting JSA if he has it?? To be honest I hadn't even thought of that. Maybe he hasn't declared it?

Thanks, you're right... the people that matter know the truth. It just gets so infuriating sometimes.

 

[dustbunny]

He's a dick hun xxx

The only type of man I ever seem to find. Haha!!

 

[Lemonflower]

He is an tw*t hun! I haven't even asked the fob for money and he hasn't offered! I think - well know I'd get the sane anwser as you.
How are you doing visiting rights once LO is here? Xxx

 

[Laura2919]

How can he have 10,000 in savings and be on JSA? Unless he is on contributions based and thats only for 6 months. Or I misunderstood.

He wouldnt be able to waltz in and act like the worlds best dad because he hasnt been around and if he wanted to be an arse you could tell him to take you to court and they will decide access.

I would just tell his mum whatever she is asking. You know that if he repeats anything he is getting then information from her and nobody else.. It doesnt really matter because the people who care are the people that wont believe anything he says.

I saw the £10,000 on one of his online bank accounts and he said it was an inheritance and that he doesn't like to spread about he has it... but I have no idea how he is getting JSA if he has it?? To be honest I hadn't even thought of that. Maybe he hasn't declared it?

Thanks, you're right... the people that matter know the truth. It just gets so infuriating sometimes.

Well either he is lying to them or he dont get JSA lol. Cos he cant get both and contributions based JSA only lasts 6 months. Tell him he better cough up some money for the baby! Idiot.

 

[dustbunny]

He is an tw*t hun! I haven't even asked the fob for money and he hasn't offered! I think - well know I'd get the sane anwser as you.
How are you doing visiting rights once LO is here? Xxx

He hasn't even asked about visiting the baby and he only has said in the past that "he wants to be a big part of babys life"... he has done such a good job thus far, I even said he could book a private scan... and he hasnt.

As far as I'm concerned he can sing if he thinks visitation is going to go his way. I think he was thinking he'd be down every other day or something.... I'm thinking [and my solicitor agrees] every other week for an hour or two to begin with.... and in my honest opinion with what support he has shown thus far that is being generous.

 

[Laura2919]

He wouldnt get the baby alone anyway.

 

[dustbunny]

He wouldnt get the baby alone anyway.

thanks for all your words of wisdom

 

[Lemonflower]

I think I will do the same to begin with !
Funny how they both want to be "a big part of the baby's life" and how they want at least 3 days a week ect, ect.... yet both of these men don't get a sh*t about the us and the pregnancy.
xxx

 

[dustbunny]

I think I will do the same to begin with !
Funny how they both want to be "a big part of the baby's life" and how they want at least 3 days a week ect, ect.... yet both of these men don't get a sh*t about the us and the pregnancy.
xxx

I think some FOB's enjoyed the 30 secs [if that] it takes for an orgasm to tell their penis to cum and fling it out into the world [really couldn't think of a 'nice' way to put it... sorry]. I realised something the other day when talking to a good friend, I didn't even enjoy the moment of conception. Hmmm... ponderings ponderings.

 

[Lemonflower]

Hahaha!!! That made me laugh!
xxx

 

[Laura2919]

I think I will do the same to begin with !
Funny how they both want to be "a big part of the baby's life" and how they want at least 3 days a week ect, ect.... yet both of these men don't get a sh*t about the us and the pregnancy.
xxx

I think some FOB's enjoyed the 30 secs [if that] it takes for an orgasm to tell their penis to cum and fling it out into the world [really couldn't think of a 'nice' way to put it... sorry]. I realised something the other day when talking to a good friend, I didn't even enjoy the moment of conception. Hmmm... ponderings ponderings.

Yeah pretty much the same..... Looking back I wonder how it went 6 years with rubbish sex like that

 

[MummyJade]

I think I will do the same to begin with !
Funny how they both want to be "a big part of the baby's life" and how they want at least 3 days a week ect, ect.... yet both of these men don't get a sh*t about the us and the pregnancy.
xxx

I think some FOB's enjoyed the 30 secs [if that] it takes for an orgasm to tell their penis to cum and fling it out into the world [really couldn't think of a 'nice' way to put it... sorry]. I realised something the other day when talking to a good friend, I didn't even enjoy the moment of conception. Hmmm... ponderings ponderings.

Yeah pretty much the same..... Looking back I wonder how it went 6 years with rubbish sex like that

Classic case of Beer goggles! Sadly it seems to last for years in most cases! x

 

[Laura2919]

I think I will do the same to begin with !
Funny how they both want to be "a big part of the baby's life" and how they want at least 3 days a week ect, ect.... yet both of these men don't get a sh*t about the us and the pregnancy.
xxx

I think some FOB's enjoyed the 30 secs [if that] it takes for an orgasm to tell their penis to cum and fling it out into the world [really couldn't think of a 'nice' way to put it... sorry]. I realised something the other day when talking to a good friend, I didn't even enjoy the moment of conception. Hmmm... ponderings ponderings.

Yeah pretty much the same..... Looking back I wonder how it went 6 years with rubbish sex like that

Classic case of Beer goggles! Sadly it seems to last for years in most cases! x

Drunk.... for 6 whole years FML.

 

[MummyJade]

I think I will do the same to begin with !
Funny how they both want to be "a big part of the baby's life" and how they want at least 3 days a week ect, ect.... yet both of these men don't get a sh*t about the us and the pregnancy.
xxx

I think some FOB's enjoyed the 30 secs [if that] it takes for an orgasm to tell their penis to cum and fling it out into the world [really couldn't think of a 'nice' way to put it... sorry]. I realised something the other day when talking to a good friend, I didn't even enjoy the moment of conception. Hmmm... ponderings ponderings.

Yeah pretty much the same..... Looking back I wonder how it went 6 years with rubbish sex like that

Classic case of Beer goggles! Sadly it seems to last for years in most cases! x

Drunk.... for 6 whole years FML.

Dont worry I was with you for the last 4 years!
x

 

[Laura2919]

I think I will do the same to begin with !
Funny how they both want to be "a big part of the baby's life" and how they want at least 3 days a week ect, ect.... yet both of these men don't get a sh*t about the us and the pregnancy.
xxx

I think some FOB's enjoyed the 30 secs [if that] it takes for an orgasm to tell their penis to cum and fling it out into the world [really couldn't think of a 'nice' way to put it... sorry]. I realised something the other day when talking to a good friend, I didn't even enjoy the moment of conception. Hmmm... ponderings ponderings.

Yeah pretty much the same..... Looking back I wonder how it went 6 years with rubbish sex like that

Classic case of Beer goggles! Sadly it seems to last for years in most cases! x

Drunk.... for 6 whole years FML.

Dont worry I was with you for the last 4 years!
x

Thank the Lord someone else knows how I feel.

 

[MummyJade]

I think I will do the same to begin with !
Funny how they both want to be "a big part of the baby's life" and how they want at least 3 days a week ect, ect.... yet both of these men don't get a sh*t about the us and the pregnancy.
xxx

I think some FOB's enjoyed the 30 secs [if that] it takes for an orgasm to tell their penis to cum and fling it out into the world [really couldn't think of a 'nice' way to put it... sorry]. I realised something the other day when talking to a good friend, I didn't even enjoy the moment of conception. Hmmm... ponderings ponderings.

Yeah pretty much the same..... Looking back I wonder how it went 6 years with rubbish sex like that

Classic case of Beer goggles! Sadly it seems to last for years in most cases! x

Drunk.... for 6 whole years FML.

Dont worry I was with you for the last 4 years!
x

Thank the Lord someone else knows how I feel.

Love is blind my dear! x

 

[Laura2919]

I think I will do the same to begin with !
Funny how they both want to be "a big part of the baby's life" and how they want at least 3 days a week ect, ect.... yet both of these men don't get a sh*t about the us and the pregnancy.
xxx

I think some FOB's enjoyed the 30 secs [if that] it takes for an orgasm to tell their penis to cum and fling it out into the world [really couldn't think of a 'nice' way to put it... sorry]. I realised something the other day when talking to a good friend, I didn't even enjoy the moment of conception. Hmmm... ponderings ponderings.

Yeah pretty much the same..... Looking back I wonder how it went 6 years with rubbish sex like that

Classic case of Beer goggles! Sadly it seems to last for years in most cases! x

Drunk.... for 6 whole years FML.

Dont worry I was with you for the last 4 years!
x

Thank the Lord someone else knows how I feel.

Love is blind my dear! x

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