You cant win!! *update*

[Laura2919]

OMG, I am so fed up

FOB and I had a blazing row this afternoon.

Currently he has the twins every other weekend and on his day off in the week. I said I'd like him to have the girls overnight the night before his day off so if he was off Thursday he would have them overnight on Wednesday, when we agreed this I just found out I was made redundant and it was ok. Now I am out of work he has backtracked and I seriously wanna boot his arse down a flight of stairs

Honestly, He was calling me a c**t (I hold my hands up and called him it too) he said that why should he have to have them when he has his agreed dates. He wouldnt do me a favour unless I told him what it was for, he then said 'why have we got a date?' I was like its none of your business and I dont need to tell you, they are your children, you helped create that to which he said 'well we cant change that now can we?, its not my fault you cant have a life cos you have the girls. What should I do? give up work and be their full time carer?'

I really want to humiliate him. I hate him right now, the thought of him makes me so

I spoke to his mum and she agreed with me, he was also with his girlfriend when he was being this rude so I said to his mum that she must be really low to the ground if she is going to let him call me names and speak to me like I am a piece of shit'

On the phone to FOB I suggested we sit round his mums with his mum and dad and discuss everything and he said no, he would rather it just be us. I wont have that cos then he can act like I am making his life difficult so I agreed and then phoned his mum back to ask her if she would turn up here about 6pm just after he gets here and I have also asked my sister to be here too.

When we were talking he said that if he feels its appropriate then he will have them so I had to tell him what I wanted him to have them for has he lost his mind? even his mum said she thinks he still cares and she is just a rebound thing but I couldnt care less, I dont ask him what he is up to when he doesnt have the girls so why the heck should he know what I am doing? I wouldnt mind I am 24 years old and he is 22, he isnt my dad, he doesnt need to control what I do and nor will he ever control what I do.. Little does he know I have already met someone else. Idiot.

I hate him!!!!!! I have told him its either my way or he can take me to court to see the girls.

Im so stressed today I feel like I have aged 20 years..

 

[mamashakesit]

I know how you feel. It is just IMPOSSIBLE to try to find common ground and negotiate with someone who just refuses to give an inch. Even when they KNOW they are wrong, they just lie and refuse and make you look like the crazy one when you get upset. It is sooooo frustrating.

 

[Laura2919]

I've been in tears most of the afternoon. I am so angry that he even thinks he has the right to know what the hell I am doing in MY life, he left and I picked myself up. Why each time we get somewhere does he wanna pull it apart... He thinks he is so high and mighty! Lets see how long he sits on that perch tomorrow when his mother and my sister are here!
He has really done a number on me today! I am so knackered, gonna take two headache tablets, some kalms and have a long soak in a hot bath...

 

[teal]

Massive hugs I hope you enjoy a hot bath. He's being really unfair. I really don't understand them at all! xx

 

[Laura2919]

Yeah it didnt help much still feeling like I wanna rip his head off. I just cant get over how unfair he is. I dont really even see the point of tomorrow but hey ho. I will just head off to the gym to burn my anger off cos otherwise we would be in deep in this flat. Lol. Glad his mum is gonna be there.

 

[Jem_x3]

It's so obvious he just wants to know what you're doing and doesn't like the fact you might be moving on. Let him spit his dummy out! You're doing what's right and fair hun, thinking of your girls! And so what if you called him a c**t? At least you're being truthful unlike him

 

[Mally01]

Sounds like he is a bit of a control freak Laura? Wanting to know what you are up to is out of line. I would wind his sorry ass up and tell him I'd met some rich, exceedingly good looking man with a bigger willy. That might shut him up lol!

 

[Laura2919]

Today he is off sick again and I had some errands so his mum said she would have girls. I had previously asked him but he said he couldnt get the time off. He was off sick but sleeping in someone elses bed and didnt even make an effort to be there when his girls got there.

I told him that yesterday he had the day off and he could have come to the nursery with me and he said he wouldnt go anywhere with me and that I make him disinterested I told him that its not me that makes him disinterested in his kids lives and he said its you! Lol. Hes fucking mental.

I later sent a text to say, I have asked your mum to come to the flat at 6pm, if you want to discuss this then be there, if you dont I will remove all contact from you. He text back to say fucking grow up, like we need my fucking mum there, CHILD. I said actually its you that needs to grow up, we cant seem to find any middle ground between us and we end up fighting and arguing so if someone impartial is there then we wont argue as much, he just replied with OK. Lol. I swear he makes me slowly lose the will to keep fighting my girls corner.

 

[Laura2919]

Sounds like he is a bit of a control freak Laura? Wanting to know what you are up to is out of line. I would wind his sorry ass up and tell him I'd met some rich, exceedingly good looking man with a bigger willy. That might shut him up lol!

I just noticed your a day behind my friend. She is 13 weeks and 3 days pregnant, due May 5th

Oh and anyone has a bigger willy than FOB. That I can assure you of

 

[dustbunny]

Firstly big big BIG !!!! Maybe you have reached the end of the line with regards to keeping him in the picture at the moment. He has you running round after him [no insult to you, we all do it! ] so he doesn't feel the need to actively go out and ask questions to make the time to see his children. His mum is actively involved and knows, or at least had hints of, how hard you have tried to include him. If he is acting like a child then treat him like one and cut him out. Then when he comes running back you can have it on your terms etc.

 

[Laura2919]

Well here is an update I won that battle

I asked his mum and my sister to come round here last night and I also text him to say be here, I have asked your mum and my sister and we need this sorted, he said I was a child and I needed to grow up but he came and we sat down and we talked! Even my sister agrees he came for a fight because he didnt wanna agree on anything and shoved little digs in my face. I said we arent getting back together and we both know that and he said 'yeah for the better' I said if he kept taking little digs how were we supposed to sort it out. Even my sister said in front of everyone about how he has changed, he sat there and disagreed with absolutely everything and then made out like he had a right to turn it down.

Anyway, I couldnt care less what was said cos I got what I wanted. He has them every other weekend, one day during the week and the night before the one night during the week. As he works for a big every knows the name company he has to do compulsory overtime every few months and its back in 3 weeks so when I have to have them when he is working that day he has them one afternoon on his week off from midday until 6pm.

I personally dont care about him and his personal life, that seemed to be all he kept going on about. He said his mum is the only person he has to ask if he wants someone over and she said I can assure you it wont happen this side of Christmas! So I am happy with that

 

[jessrabbit]

Glad you got it all sorted, sounds like he is showing his true colours to everyone else... dick! x

 

[Laura2919]

Yep. Im happy cos I know whatever way it works I wont lose out. Chloe and Jaycee deserve the best out of the situation and this is best. He knows it is he just dont want me to have a personal life cos he thinks its gonna change things.

 

[Kagerou]

That's really great, i'm glad it worked out for you!

 

[Laura2919]

I'm a bitch apparently.. So everything goes in my favour

 

[babydue2011]

so glad things worked out!

hey being a bitch is never bad thing! and neither is winning

 

[Laura2919]

Well I had to speak to him yesterday to ask if he would take the dog also as he has the girls tomorrow all day and he said yeah. It was civilised. Thank God. Lets see how long that lasts.

 

[daveww]

Sounds like he is a bit of a control freak Laura? Wanting to know what you are up to is out of line. I would wind his sorry ass up and tell him I'd met some rich, exceedingly good looking man with a bigger willy. That might shut him up lol!

I just noticed your a day behind my friend. She is 13 weeks and 3 days pregnant, due May 5th

Oh and anyone has a bigger willy than FOB. That I can assure you of

very funny advice , i think that might work lol

 

[Laura2919]

Nothing works when it comes to my FOB. Lol.

 

[daveww]

Nothing works when it comes to my FOB. Lol.

well im sure it would **** him off so it might make u smile lol