you know that crazy kid that parents and other kids avoid.....

[DCS]

Thats my kid. One woman at the session we were at this morning looked scared of my lo. He runs around throwing himself on things. But is very cautious of other kids. So if another kid is playing nearby he will throw hinself carefully. He is nuts. Im sure people must think we feed him blue smarties. But we dont. He eats all fresh fruit and veg, home cooked meals.
In thr space of 30 minz todat he cut his lip and bashed his head....

Please tell me this is normal

 

[RileysMummy]

Millicent is the same atm, although she DOES hurt other kids on purpose x

 

[jaybee]

Tobi is that child too! (Well he was, until e got this tiredness thing going!)
He is into climbing everything, running around, sliding, jumping etc. he doesn't understand why other children won't run with him!!
Shame we dot live closer cos I would love him to have a friend who was as exuberant as e is!

 

[eddjanuary10]

Ihsan is the same. Although not so cautious of other kids at times. Yesterday on the bouncy castle there was a bunch of older kids (about 5-7year olds) pushing each other over and laughing so Ihsan joined in and he was loving it, they weren't letting each other get up as they were jumping and pushing each other over & Ihsan was finding it hilarious. The older kids got off & Ihsan started trying to play the game with another toddler who happened to be under 2. I didn't notice at first from where I was standing but the girls Mother asked if Ihsan was my son & when I said yes she said he is being 'violent & horrible' to her little girl. She hadn't seen the game he had been playing before as she had just arrived so I just apologised and removed Ihsan from the castle, I said to the woman passing that he is 'only 2 and wasn't being violent but sorry for him pushing her girl' but she said she didn't care if he was only 2 violence is violence. I just left. So yeah I'd say some people definately run away from my son as he can play very rough sometimes and is only just starting to realise that rough play isn't always a good idea or appropriate! x

 

[jaybee]

Do u ladies find it frustrating to soe extent to need to 'calm' your Lo down in deference to other children?
I feel I eed to remove Tobi from situations where he is being boisterous... Was there first, but another more placid child comes along and gets upset. Tobi hasn't hurt, snatched or done anything to the other child, but they are still upset. But I am expected to move Tobias, rather than ther way round.
I reiterate.... Tobias as done nothing wrong, is just boisterous!

 

[TatorMom]

Please know you're not alone! I remember when DS1 was in day care, he was about 2.5 and had an epic meltdown during there Easter party that's typical for him when he gets overstimulated. All the parents were watching in horror and one mom whispers in a not so whisper "well, we know who we're NOT inviting to our daughters birthday party". I have never felt so heart broken in my life. We packed up and I drove home in tears. It still hurts to think about all the times we've had similar incidences. Thankfully DS1 has gotten better and since DS2 is older and in his class at day care and school DS2 is VERY protective and he always has a buddy. I thank the heavens every day that they gave us DS2 because he's the best thing that ever could've happened to DS1. It really helps that DS1 is in our districts SpecEd preschool, so ALL od the parents, even Peer parents are so nice, understanding and helpful. The school has a "spirit day" every 1-2weeks where they so a weekend lunch or week day dinner where all the kids and their families get together somewhere and play. The parents are so amazing! Having a child with struggles and the parents of the Peers are truly nicer, very accepting people than what we've ever experienced in "regular" day cares/private preschools. DS1 has made friends outside of DS2 and it's the most beautiful thing to hear one of his classmates say "Bye K, see you tomorrow" and seem really excited to see him when he gets to school. The Peers are amazing "neurotypical" little kids too! Many of them are siblings of the preschoolers in the SpecEd program.

I know you're little one is probably just a typical toddler, but you are definitely not alone! We've gotten judgments and nasty nasty comments from parents at private day cares, teachers/directors at private day cares, strangers and even family. He is the most empathetic, sweet, caring, and intelligent little boy. He just has his struggles. It's nice to have him in a school where the teachers, kids and parents see his positive aspects because he really does have a lot. They know how to handle sensory issues, etc at his school though, so he has less trouble in general. He was about 12mos old when we really knew something just wasn't right and we're glad we pursued it because he's really excelled and will be easily mainstreamed without issues by first grade. He'll always have his oddities, but in all honesty, who doesn't?!?!!!

 

[DCS]

I find that me and oh chase after him so he doesnt hurt or upset anyone. He never has he is so gentel with other kids. Like today a little boy snatched a cone of him twice and the lbs mum asked him to givr it back. Dillan just let go and took a step back and watched the lb and his mum.
Luckily noone has ever tried to tell me lo was horrible or anything like that. We usually just get horrified looks. Did notice today that the women that looked horrified were with babies. One woman was like .... Oh he is just so quick and fearless isnt he.... Her lo was watching dillan and I said.... Oh dont worry ull soon be moving that quick.... She then said ... Oh no he wont.... I was half tempted to say oh he probably will just u wait. I do often remove him from situations where he could upset or hurt another child. But like I said he hasnt yet. And is quite weary of othet kids. Babies freak him out.

 

[OmarsMum]

Aw bless him. My nephew is the same. when they moved in with us, I used to get scared of him, he bumps into everything, he hurts himself easily, He kisses & pushes Omar randomly, I wasnt used to it as I have a cautious kid. His arm got dislocated twice in 4 months!

Now I'm more used to being around him xx

 

[mistyscott]

I think my LO is turning into one of those children! We've just started going to a play gym thing and all the other parents can't stop saying how fast he crawls tbh, can't say I'd noticed before, not much to compare him to.
The paed also said he reckons LO will "be a handful" !

It's funny though, although he's into everything and scampers about, he's also quite reticent with new things and won't do something unless its his choice usually. Oh dear, terrible twos here we come!

 

[Gingerspice]

My LO is the same. They have even put her up into the preschool room early if she's having an active day because she gets on better with the older ones as they can pull their weight and explain to her their limits.

When I had my LO, they were high needs fro the start - a complete nightmare to be honest and as a consequence none of my friends had children until she was over 2 because she completely scared them all of the idea that they could get one like that! Incidentally one has got a very placid baby (much relief from her) and the other is yet to have hers, but I must say their LO activity levels and 'naughtiness' with scans etc does seem to be similar to how my LO was inside so they might get a tough one too yet!

 

[Abigailly]

That;s completely normal! At least I hope it is!!

Every cloud and all... At least you don't have my 'look at me' child. They're much more disliked!!

 

[DaisyBee]

Megan gets hyper when overstimuated and anything can make her overstimuated it seems, especially with playdates or out places. So a lot of people only see her crazy overstimulated side and assume that's who and how she is. People stare and make comments. We were at a bridal shop with a cousin and she was so overstimulated and I couldn't control her whatsoever even though I was trying. She ran around the shop amongst all the dresses and wouldnt stop or slow down. When I finally got ahold of her she had a total meltdown and cried and screamed and was trying to get me to put her down. People all thought we were both nuts and I don't know if they thought we couldn't hear them or if they didn't care, but wow comments were very rude. I was so embarrassed. I ended up having Megan bow out of being a flower girl as didnt want anymore of those kind of comments. People always comment on her energy level and her being a spirited kid and they aren't in a positive way.

Tatermom..what kind of sensory issues does your son have? It's something I've been looking into wondering if Megan has some as well. I keep wondering if it would help explain her overstimulation problem or if its just her being sensitive and something we will always struggle with.

 

[PepsiChic]

my kid isnt one of those kids BUT somehow ends up following them around lol

we took him to a indoor bounce place and he was following this girl and 2 older kids around they got on a bouncy castle started pushing eachother over and jumping...i was worried Barry was going to get trampled, but then he saw the girl sitting in the middle and he went over and tried to help her up...she gave him a huge push and sent him flying....he was so upset

2 minutes later he was doing it again, its like hes attracted to the more boistrous play but doesnt know how to do it!

 

[DCS]

I never really thought of sensory issues or overstimulation ( cant you just tell im a first timer? ) he is like this at home to..... He runs and jumps, never sits still, doesnt really play, has no sence of danger. I figured he was just nuts. Do u ladies think I need to be looking into it? Or speaking to the hv? I said to oh earlier that lo is the only kid who runs around launching himself onto things. But oh said there were a few others, but they were a good year or 2 older. He just walk or runs into things all the time aswell.

 

[DaisyBee]

DCS - I'm reading a book right now called the out of sync child by carol stock kranowitz as I'm trying to find things to help figure Megan out. ( lol don't know if that will ever happen, but I figured if I can then maybe I can help her a bit?) the book says that their are lots of different kinds of sensory issues. Some people are sensory seeking, some are over responsive and some are under responsive. And that you can be some of each as well. Megans pediatrician won't look into it until she is 4 or 5 but said that I should research myself basically. So my plan is to research this as much as possible so that I can go to her dr and say this is how Megan is. As I'm noticing as I'm reading that things that she does that didn't occur to me might be linked. I don't know if she has real issues with this, but if some occupational therapy or even some games at home might help her then I'm willing to try. I've bought her a weighted blanket and that's one thing without researching this I would have never even heard of. And she loves the blanket. It helps her calm down.

Eta - sorry didn't finish my thought. Lol so maybe look into it a bit before talking to hv to see if it seems to fit? I highly recommend the book .. I found mine at the library.

And Megan has been overstimulated since birth, that is nothing new to me. She can't handle tv, she has meltdowns if things get to be too much for her. A playdate is hard if she is around kids that are too crazy, lol. So she is sensitive to crazy kids which makes her hyper vs being one of the crazy kids.