Your thoughts?

[Soontobe]

Long story really short..

my partner left me at 14 weeks, he had cheated on someone else and i still stayed with him but then he ended up leaving me whilst i was in hospital..

Has caused problems 2 weeks ago when he stressed me into a hysterical moment causing my waters to leak, which ended in an infection..

Now i have just found out that he attempted to kill himself last tuesday..

I had no problems in letting him see his child whenever he wanted etc..but now i have found out this news i am actually scared of letting him near his baby..i am frightened.. now i am thinking of going for full custody and running for the hills..

any thoughts on this?

my only concern is if i go for full custody, i dont want to risk losing my baby by not getting the custody..i mean surely there is no way with what he has done (attempted suicide) that he can actually recieve some type of custody?

 

[Sarah88]

So long as there is some record of him trying to commit suicide then there is no hope for him to get custody, especially if he hasn't gone to any counselling or anything. I personally would go for full custody and nick off.

 

[Abbys_Mummy]

oh hun thats terrible if i was you i would fight to my hearts content to get full custody

 

[Wobbles]

I'm sorry that he has given you a hard time

Please don't take this the wrong way but when people try to take their lives they need help not punished? You have a fair way to go for things to fall in to place ...hope you see what I'm saying x

 

[Soontobe]

I'm sorry that he has given you a hard time

Please don't take this the wrong way but when people try to take their lives they need help not punished? You have a fair way to go for things to fall in to place ...hope you see what I'm saying x

I understand this i really do, but my point is do i risk our childs life by letting him see him...

 

[lorrilou]

personally i wouldnt stop him seeing his child, there are ways and means to do things so your child is totally safe, like supervised access.

i think your ex really needs to seek counselling. My mum has tried to commit suicide on a number of occasions and i know she would never do anything to harm us in any way. she never wanted to actually die it was just a major cry for help. Maybe this is the same for your ex.

 

[Soontobe]

All these things are correct and i fully agree with them all...

But what happens if i allow unsupervised or supervised visits and somethings still happens? eg. bub is in car (with or without supervision) and he tries to drive into an oncoming truck again?

I just feel im at such a dilema and one wrong move will be the end..

 

[lorrilou]

maybe try a contact centre, where there are plenty of people on hand to look after your child whilst your ex seems him? i totally understand where your coming from as your childs safety comes first and foremost.

 

[Jayden'sMummy]

Long story really short..

my partner left me at 14 weeks, he had cheated on someone else and i still stayed with him but then he ended up leaving me whilst i was in hospital..

Has caused problems 2 weeks ago when he stressed me into a hysterical moment causing my waters to leak, which ended in an infection..

Now i have just found out that he attempted to kill himself last tuesday..

I had no problems in letting him see his child whenever he wanted etc..but now i have found out this news i am actually scared of letting him near his baby..i am frightened.. now i am thinking of going for full custody and running for the hills..

any thoughts on this?

my only concern is if i go for full custody, i dont want to risk losing my baby by not getting the custody..i mean surely there is no way with what he has done (attempted suicide) that he can actually recieve some type of custody?

sorry to hear about your recent troubles
i have attempted suicide also, 2 years ago but i am responsible for my baby. so not sure how it would work 4 u n your babies dad, just didn't want to read an run xx

 

[jobee2222]

Personally, put the baby first. your ex is going through a hard time i assume and cant be relied upon to look after your greatest treasure. When you feel he has his head sorted out now thats a different story.