♡ January Snowdrops 2019 ♡

[mwel8819]

Randa, I love Nora as well as Josephine (I love traditionally masculine nicknames or names for girls!). Joey for a girl is just too cute! Nora is so pretty though.

Kiwi now I'm wondering if you were also loving the name Myles? Did you mean someone else in this group? Heck I say use the same name you've been dreaming of. There's virtually no chance the two kids will ever be in the same room together, so why not?

Jamers I know what you mean...I felt that way with ds1. Complicated pregnancy and I really wanted a girl but after I was told baby would likely die before 15 weeks, sex of the baby didn't much matter anymore! I just wanted a healthy baby...and thank God I got him!

Actually thank you for saying that. It helps put things into perspective for me as I'm having a little bit of trouble with the news of a third boy will you be finding out the sex at your ultrasound?

Whoah!!! You were told he would die? Why?? That's my worst fear...hearing that at the anatomy scan. I'm so glad you got your healthy baby though! And yes, thank God!

 

[gigglebox]

If you click on the link at the bottom of my signature you can read about it. Basically he had a very large nuchal fold at the 12 week scan (the measurement at the back of his neck). Initial dr suggested i terminate. Geneticist i met with soon after said if he did not have a chromosomal issue, he likely had a major heart defect. I can't remember without looking back which one said he was likely to die in utero by 15 weeks. I had ultrasounds every 2-3 weeks the remainder of my pregnancy and was a nervous wreck every time! He was finally declared healthy by i think 22 weeks? But i stilk saw a specialist for the remainder of the pregnancy and i was so worried about him. It was a few days after he was born when i finally chilled out

 

[MollyMoon]

I like Nora! So cute and it reminds me of Norah Jones the singer... I love her!

Mwel- I have too been having shortness of breath it's rough!
Plus today dizziness and headaches I hope my energy level increases soon because working full time has just been a real big struggle and no one seems to understand.. I would look for another less physically demanding job but I just got my hours needed for when I go on mat and parental leave... My partner can't work and is on disability which pays peanuts here in rural Canada. I'm exhausted.
Sorry it turned into a rant

I forgot what else I was going to say!

 

[mwel8819]

If you click on the link at the bottom of my signature you can read about it. Basically he had a very large nuchal fold at the 12 week scan (the measurement at the back of his neck). Initial dr suggested i terminate. Geneticist i met with soon after said if he did not have a chromosomal issue, he likely had a major heart defect. I can't remember without looking back which one said he was likely to die in utero by 15 weeks. I had ultrasounds every 2-3 weeks the remainder of my pregnancy and was a nervous wreck every time! He was finally declared healthy by i think 22 weeks? But i stilk saw a specialist for the remainder of the pregnancy and i was so worried about him. It was a few days after he was born when i finally chilled out

Oh honey! That's rough but I love hearing stories that turn into healthy babies. My friend was told her daughter would die as well...they suggested termination and my friend just wouldn't do it. She came out fine...I would sue a doctor...I'm telling ya.

 

[mwel8819]

I like Nora! So cute and it reminds me of Norah Jones the singer... I love her!

Mwel- I have too been having shortness of breath it's rough!
Plus today dizziness and headaches I hope my energy level increases soon because working full time has just been a real big struggle and no one seems to understand.. I would look for another less physically demanding job but I just got my hours needed for when I go on mat and parental leave... My partner can't work and is on disability which pays peanuts here in rural Canada. I'm exhausted.
Sorry it turned into a rant

I forgot what else I was going to say!

I have the dizziness and forgetfulness too. lol! I did read this morning that the shortness of breath is very normal. I just drink water and that seems to make me feel better though. Water cures everything. ha! I hate water though...so hard for me to drink it. I usually drink coke (pepsi, mountain dew) like it's going out of style. I'm also having to wear flip flops already because it is 97 here in Alabama and I keep swelling. Ugh!

 

[gigglebox]

Aww thanks mwel, and that's too bad about your friend. Did her baby also have the large nuchal measurement?

What drives me bonkers is they have statistics for this condition and the percentage of "adverse outcomes" calculated, but they include elective terminations in that catagory! Like that totally skews stats! Many women have (sadly) terminated with no info and terminated healthy babies, and that is included. So stupid and makes things look bleaker than they really are.

Molly winded easily here too. Also have a headache today (on top of a cold) so massive empathetic hugs to you!

 

[MollyMoon]

Oh yeah what I was going to say about epidural.. Dont they freeze the area of your back before they put the epidural in? Not that I would compare but they froze my back before giving me a spinal block for leg surgery... Do they think "well what's one more pain for her she can handle it". ?!?

 

[cuddlebugluv]

Hi everyone
I'll try to comment more later and catch up. Super happy to see everyone doing well.
AFM: insomnia and hip aches have been making me a walking mombie, anything you ladies may know any remedies for them? On the plus side I am finally able to feel the baby move! Not kicks but definitely prods and bubs scooting around to get comfy.

Much love to everyone

 

[NovaStar]

Mollymoon when I got my epidural they did a numbing shot first. They claimed it would feel like a bee sting but I felt nothing. I think my body was already on pain overdrive and just didn’t register anything else. Haha! The lady was so nice. Before she wheeled in the cart with all the epidural supplies she told me to close my eyes so I wouldn’t see the giant needle. As far as I know, it’s magic. Felt nothing. I would get one again for sure but I’ve definitely heard some bad stories from people with less than good experiences. I’m not sure what I’ll end up doing this time...I’m kinda denying the birth will ever really happen. Haha! It stresses me out thinking about it too much.

 

[RandaPanda]

Thanks for your feedback on the names, ladies! I appreciate it

Wanting, I'm so sorry for your loss What your mom is doing sounds so nice, and you choosing your LOs middle name after your father is a great tribute

Giggle, I'm really sorry you had to go through all of that. Grateful your LO proved those doctors wrong!

Kiwi, I really do agree with Giggle that if you like a name from this group, you should just use it! I personally wouldn't mind one bit if someone here used the same name as me!

I was in the same boat as Nova - no discomfort with the needle. My contractions were so irregular with baby #2, that my midwife kept telling me to stop calling because it wasn't time to go to the hospital yet And I had had a c-section with #1, so didn't really know how much pain or urgency to expect during labour. Finally, I just told my husband to lie and say all of my contractions were 4 minutes apart and lasting one minute, and that got me the green light to drive to the hospital at 6:30pm. That's where I had a toe curling contraction at the admissions desk (in front of a stranger...a man who looked horrified. Ha!) and they checked and I was at 7cm already! Getting the epidural was basically painless for me (she did miss the spot the first time, and that was a little pinchy until she fixed it), and made a huge difference - I felt great, and just relaxed and ate popsicles all night until it was time to push (slow progression, as they hadn't realized my water didn't totally break on its own), and then pushing from 2:30-4:01 am (because it was a VBAC under 24 months apart, they were giving me a strict deadline before intervening with a surgeon) - that deadline was 4am, and I don't know what came over me in those final minutes, but I was so determined to not go all that way and end with surgery, so baby came out with a big popping sound 1 minute after the deadline

Mollymoon, I hear you - My jobs (I have two, plus my own small business) aren't physical, but are exhausting me right now. I had started a new, fantastic job right when I lost my baby in March, and with getting unexpectedly pregnant again in April, I have been scrambling to make sure I get the hours I need for mat leave. I didn't know you're also in Canada - which part?!

 

[gigglebox]

Congrats on the vbac randa! I tried, had back labor, total labor for 36 hours...i was about crowing (i had a mirror and could see his head) when baby suddenly twisted his head and got himself stuck in an awful predicament. The dr and surgeon agreed that it was dangerous for me to continue pushing so I was rushed for an emergency c section. It was horrible, I hemorrhaged, had to get a transfusion, and had a rough recovery. Really on the fence about another attempt...recovery from the sections has been so rough but i DO NOT want a repeat of last time if i try and fail! So I don't know...both ds1 and ds2 were back labors and that was horrid so it's likely a third boy will present the same way (we evidently make big babies, both were over 9 pounds).

My epidural with ds1 failed, it kicked in then wore off. I had it placed a second time and same thing happened. By the time it was time to try again they determined i needed a c section (failure to progress past 7cm and my water had gone -- I actually had a big gush like in the movies long before contractions started via pitocin). With ds2 i held on on pain relief as long as possible because the drs were afraid it would stall my labor. It was about 24 hours and at a 5 when i finally got it -- by then the back labor was excruciating and i have no idea how I didn't pass out from pain! The epi was ammmaaazzziiiinnng that time! Worked like a charm and i got to a full 10 within about 5 hours or so...may have been leas because my dr hadn't checked me in awhile as I was sleeping (had been in l&d since about 3am the previous morning).

Sorry that was so much ranting!

 

[Jamers89]

Jamers I know what you mean...I felt that way with ds1. Complicated pregnancy and I really wanted a girl but after I was told baby would likely die before 15 weeks, sex of the baby didn't much matter anymore! I just wanted a healthy baby...and thank God I got him!

Actually thank you for saying that. It helps put things into perspective for me as I'm having a little bit of trouble with the news of a third boy will you be finding out the sex at your ultrasound?

I'm glad it was helpful, but I could understand being disappointed once you've had multiple of the same gender child. But I'm so glad that your ds1 was healthy! I couldn't imagine if I was told this baby wouldn't make it. I'm honestly scared of that happening at our anatomy scan.

And we will definitely be finding out for sure what the sex is at our next ultrasound. We go for our 20 week on September 6th, which feels like an eternity!!

 

[gigglebox]

I bet all is just fine! I hate the wait between ultrasounds. It's too reminiscent of ttc

 

[MollyMoon]

Randa—I'm in SK, boondock country lol.. Where are you?

So I was planning to do the wait-and-see as far as epidural is concerned. (considering as long as there is no issues) I'm not sure if this is relevant but I've suffered with horribly severe menstrual cramps since I was 20...if labour gets much harder than that I won't even think twice about an epidural. As for gas I don't think I would go for that I'm very sensitive to things like that and have a feeling it would make me ill.

 

[W8tingforbaby]

Hey all glad to see everyone doing well. Sorry I’ve been mia but haven’t had much to report and I’ve been absolutely exhausted all the time. I finally broke down and got a pregnancy pillow in hopes it helps with sleep because I can’t get comfortable at all already. We have a doctors appointment Monday and can’t believe halfway is right around the corner already. This little man has been kicking my butt lol I feel him daily which has been amazing.

 

[NovaStar]

Hey all glad to see everyone doing well. Sorry I’ve been mia but haven’t had much to report and I’ve been absolutely exhausted all the time. I finally broke down and got a pregnancy pillow in hopes it helps with sleep because I can’t get comfortable at all already. We have a doctors appointment Monday and can’t believe halfway is right around the corner already. This little man has been kicking my butt lol I feel him daily which has been amazing.

Ahh man, I’m starting to feel the same. My belly just feels so cumbersome even though, to the layman, I’m barely showing. But in my own skin I feel super big already. Makes sleeping hard. I love laying on my belly but that’s not really an option right now.

I started feeling baby girl kicking away last week! It’s so crazy. She gets active around loud music or in a movie theater. Just likes to bump away at me! Every time I put my hand on my belly, she stops. Of course. Haha!

 

[NovaStar]

Also, minor pet peeve...what someone asks “how did you come up with that name?” Because, like, it’s a name. And we like it. I didn’t invent it. It’s such a weird way to phrase that question and yet I get it all the time regarding my daughter’s name, Nova. “How did you come up with that?” It’s literally a name. Do they ask that for people who name their child Elizabeth or Amelia? No....so....what he heck?? Lol.

 

[Kiwiberry]

Hey ladies sorry to post and leave, I'll make sure to catch up a little bit later today. I was wondering if anyone has any allergies and if they're getting worse? I have an intolerance to eggs and it used to only be raw eggs that were cooked like scrambled. However I ate a brownie yesterday and it's not sitting well with me just like what happens with the eggs.

 

[gigglebox]

Nova maybe it's maybe because it's less common? I get the same kind of response (and accompanying look) with ds2, Levin. And the ever annoying, "Eleven?" It sometimes does not pay to have foreign names I guess! Ds1's is Irish, ds2's is German.

Kiwi could it just be an aversion to the chocolate?

 

[Kiwiberry]

Nova maybe it's maybe because it's less common? I get the same kind of response (and accompanying look) with ds2, Levin. And the ever annoying, "Eleven?" It sometimes does not pay to have foreign names I guess! Ds1's is Irish, ds2's is German.

Kiwi could it just be an aversion to the chocolate?

No, normally I don't have any problems with eating chocolate. It makes me react the exact same way as if I ate eggs.